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ADDICTED TO MY BOYFRIEND

Posted by jennyd on 10/2/2008 10:33:00 PM
This sounds silly I know but I think I'm addicted to my boyfriend ...i dont know what other definition to use for it .When I'm not around him I'm going crazy I rather talk to him then my family and friends I started off the relationship with alot of friends and now I only have two.I put off all my college money just for our wedding and with that I put off college competetly I just keep saying as long as I'm with him rich or poor I dont care.At one point he didnt have enough money to pay his cell phone bill that I raned up so that I could be able to talk to him I payed his bill and still do it often the first thing that I do in the morning is I call him in fact I call him every thirty minutes and if he dosent call I end up calling fifty times just to hear his voice .I feel like I'm putting him on a pedistel.I feel like this isnt healthy my boyfriend gets mad of my clingyness.i need help! ! !

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You probably are addicted. Its quite common. Chemicals called pheramones are the culprit. Im sure you have heard of them, otherwise look them up. What happens is that some people actually become physically dependent on the pheramones of their partner. Sometimes confused as love, but when it takes over a persons life as much as it has yours, is irrational, and a strain on the relationship, it can be more of a problem then some romantic feeling . Some people may say it is a mental disorder, dependency, whatnot, but its whole basis is chemicals. What you need to do is stay away from him for at least 2 weeks (depending on how dependent you are it may take longer) its gonna be hard, just like quitting heroine, but it will save you. This means no talking to him, no seeing him for even a second, no clothes that smell like him. Wash your bed sheets and everything. Once you feel like you heart isnt breaking anymore, and you feel like yourself again, test the waters and see him again. You can think more rationally now. But beware, you may get addicted again. Just be sure you can think rationally before you get close to him again, you need to make sure you are really in love with him, and its not just an addiction before you dedicate your life to him.
Posted by an anonymous user on 10/3/2008 1:06:00 AM (Report abuse)
Sounds like i could be more of an infatuation. That doesn't mean you don't love him, or that he doesn't love you, there may just be some priorities that aren't in order. Its natural to want to be with you're boyfriend/girlfriend all the time, especially if its your first relationship, or even if Mr. Right/Mrs. Right comes along. But the best thing to do, is to have a well balanced relationship, that means making time for the things that will help you succeed in life as if you were not going to marry or be with any in life at all. Take you're schooling for example, if the relationship doesn't work out, then where will that leave you. You've spent time out of school when you could have been in it, furthering your education. Same spending money that you could have been saving for a future emergency. Its also very important to keep regular friends in your life, one's that give you a slap of reality when you're with them. You really can't go wrong with balancing out your everyday life and your romance life. The best part is, if he/she is someone who truly loves and cares for you, they'll understand, they'll be helping you move forward in life instead of back. As for the phone calls, there's nothing wrong with a quick "hello" every once in awhile, but every half hour is pushing over the limit. Try thinking of it this way, the more time you leave in between each call, the more special the call is later! Try bits at a time, and if he still loves you, and you still love him then you'll have some idea if your relationship is going in the right direction! Good Luck!
Posted by an anonymous user on 10/3/2008 12:44:00 AM (Report abuse)
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