Can't get over the Affair
Posted by an anonymous user on 5/12/2008 2:22:00 PM
I had an affair with a married man and it was the best sex I ever had. I am also married and my husband knows about the affair. He has been very understanding and we are trying to work things out. I do not plan to ever divorce him, but I still think about and fantasize about the other man almost every day. We had the most amazing sexual chemistry ever and I refuse to believe that there is not something else there. I can't help but fantasize that I will get to be with him again some day. His wife also knows the truth and he is trying to save his marriage, so the affair is over. I wonder if he is still thinking about me and starving for more of that amazing sexual ecstasy we shared together. What is love without passion? I want more of that passion. I crave it. I dream about it. It has been very hard for me not to contact him anymore, but I am trying to respect the fact that he is trying to save his marriage. j'aurai toujours faim de toi
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Yeah it is important. I don't think the passion should die out but it does and it only comes back every blue moon. = (
Posted by Been there on 5/14/2008 11:30:00 AM
Comment back to Been there.....
I know it might sound crazy considering I cheated on my husband... but I really have no desire to be single. I actually did not get "caught", I came clean and told my husband the truth. I could not live with the guilt, so maybe in a way coming clean was a little bit self serving. We have been married for more than a decade and I have been nothing but faithful to him until this happened last year. This is definately one of those things I did not think I would ever do! I know there is more to love than sex, but it just blows my mind that you can share that level of intensity with someone and not share some sort of a connection on a deeper level. It does not help matters much that sex with my husband continues to be awkward and lacking in the passion department in a big way. He is a wonderful man in every other way - but I do think sex is an important ingredient in a happy marriage. :-(
I know it might sound crazy considering I cheated on my husband... but I really have no desire to be single. I actually did not get "caught", I came clean and told my husband the truth. I could not live with the guilt, so maybe in a way coming clean was a little bit self serving. We have been married for more than a decade and I have been nothing but faithful to him until this happened last year. This is definately one of those things I did not think I would ever do! I know there is more to love than sex, but it just blows my mind that you can share that level of intensity with someone and not share some sort of a connection on a deeper level. It does not help matters much that sex with my husband continues to be awkward and lacking in the passion department in a big way. He is a wonderful man in every other way - but I do think sex is an important ingredient in a happy marriage. :-(
Posted by To Been there on 5/14/2008 7:13:00 AM
I know what you mean. I cheated on my bf with a man who also has a gf but we couldn't help ourselves.
He has been with his gf the same amount of time that I have been with my bf (six years) and the passion does die out.
It feels like a damn chore. I know. Your partner doesn't even try to be passionate anymore instead it feels like they are obligated to make love to you. They stop trying to care and make a woman feel special.
but Then you find someone who atleast desires you and your stomach feels funny all over again. You can have passion and good sex with someone you dont know.
Love is more than sex. I have realized that now. Its patience and understanding.
Sex isn't the so important in the end. We enjoy sex with other people because we dont go home to them and they haven't dealt with us on a daily day basis.
But you have a husband and he has a wife, what you guys had was nothing but lust and good sex.
We haven't got caught and I hope we never do. It would destroy what I have with my partner.
I don't regret it. I needed some passion. I would only regret it if I were to get caught. I hope I don't.
My advice to you is to get over him. He isn't the one. You have already chosen a man.
If you feel like he isn't the one then don't continue playing with eachothers mind. Let go and be single again.
The single life is fun but not when you need someone to hold you at night.
wb if you want.
chao.
He has been with his gf the same amount of time that I have been with my bf (six years) and the passion does die out.
It feels like a damn chore. I know. Your partner doesn't even try to be passionate anymore instead it feels like they are obligated to make love to you. They stop trying to care and make a woman feel special.
but Then you find someone who atleast desires you and your stomach feels funny all over again. You can have passion and good sex with someone you dont know.
Love is more than sex. I have realized that now. Its patience and understanding.
Sex isn't the so important in the end. We enjoy sex with other people because we dont go home to them and they haven't dealt with us on a daily day basis.
But you have a husband and he has a wife, what you guys had was nothing but lust and good sex.
We haven't got caught and I hope we never do. It would destroy what I have with my partner.
I don't regret it. I needed some passion. I would only regret it if I were to get caught. I hope I don't.
My advice to you is to get over him. He isn't the one. You have already chosen a man.
If you feel like he isn't the one then don't continue playing with eachothers mind. Let go and be single again.
The single life is fun but not when you need someone to hold you at night.
wb if you want.
chao.
Posted by Been there on 5/13/2008 10:11:00 PM