Confused with love?
Posted by lolo828 on 8/15/2008 11:30:00 AM
I had sex, and I understand that it was my choice. I had a boyfriend who I thought loved me and would love me continuously. Sex before marriage is something that isn't exactly smiled upon my my family, but I loved him, and wanted to do it. Before it happened, we talked about it. I told him that he was important to me and that I wanted to be able to trust him with my heart and my virginity. He told me he would be there. He looked into my eyes and promised he would never hurt me. Four days afterwards he asked me to drive him and some friends to the mall. There told me that he was leaving me for his ex because he still had feelings for her. I was upset, but I rarely cry, plus I wasout in public with tons of people around me. he told me that I shouldn't be upset with him, that we could be friends. He said he would understand if I was in love with someone else. He told me that I would be next after he went back with his ex.( I dont know why he would plan that if he's so in love.) Now I'm confused, and alone. I thought that I was in love, and now I dont know what to do.
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ok just to this out there, sex is not the only thing guys want and we are not all ass holes. I am a guy and sex isnt my number one priority and im pretty sure im not an asshole. But that u slept with, now he sounds like an asshole. I know its hard to hear but it seems like he only wanted you for sex so you really shouldnt feel bad that your not with him anymore. You should be happy that u arent with someone who doesnt care about you. I think you should just try your best to let the past be the past and move on, try and find a guy who will truly care about you
Posted by confusedkid15 on 8/25/2008 10:43:00 PM (Report abuse)
guys just want sex. fuck them all!
assholes.
assholes.
Posted by an anonymous user on 8/20/2008 3:22:00 AM (Report abuse)
I'm so sorry dear. But think of it this way, you are way better without that prick!
Posted by T on 8/19/2008 11:55:00 PM (Report abuse)
That's love I'm afraid, sometimes you get stomped on.
Don't try to understand his motives, they are obviously not in line with yours. He may have some feelings of love but that is not what drives his actions, don't let him tell you otherwise.
Take solace in the fact that you are strong enough to admitt that you chose to lose you virginity to him, it will help all your future relationships if you can acknowledge what your past choices have led to. He will suffer the consequences of being selfish and unkind, he will never find happiness if he continues on that path; if you use this experience properly, you will come out of it wiser and happier.
Don't let him tarnish your image of men only, men and women alike are capable of such things, you just have to be a little bit wary in general. In particular, don't let yourself believe that someone has your best interests at heart just because you want them to. A little bit of cynisism goes a long way in weeding out the bastards.
All that being said most people get hurt sometime or another, it's unavoidable. You may even end up hurting someone yourself, whether you mean to or not.
You say you don't know what to do. My advice - take it on the chin and move on. Make sure you take the time to reflect on everything but don't let it bog you down. Go out and have fun.
Don't try to understand his motives, they are obviously not in line with yours. He may have some feelings of love but that is not what drives his actions, don't let him tell you otherwise.
Take solace in the fact that you are strong enough to admitt that you chose to lose you virginity to him, it will help all your future relationships if you can acknowledge what your past choices have led to. He will suffer the consequences of being selfish and unkind, he will never find happiness if he continues on that path; if you use this experience properly, you will come out of it wiser and happier.
Don't let him tarnish your image of men only, men and women alike are capable of such things, you just have to be a little bit wary in general. In particular, don't let yourself believe that someone has your best interests at heart just because you want them to. A little bit of cynisism goes a long way in weeding out the bastards.
All that being said most people get hurt sometime or another, it's unavoidable. You may even end up hurting someone yourself, whether you mean to or not.
You say you don't know what to do. My advice - take it on the chin and move on. Make sure you take the time to reflect on everything but don't let it bog you down. Go out and have fun.
Posted by AussieBoy on 8/18/2008 12:58:00 AM (Report abuse)
hopefully you've learnt not to trust so easily...guys can be shit when they want sex.
good luck with finding love in the future.
good luck with finding love in the future.
Posted by Han on 8/17/2008 8:07:00 AM (Report abuse)
Wow, what a bastard...
just, wow.
Im really sorry.
just, wow.
Im really sorry.
Posted by ... on 8/15/2008 5:13:00 PM (Report abuse)