Do i stay with him, or give up.
Posted by an anonymous user on 8/22/2008 2:04:00 PM
i dont really know where to start,
ok, so i'm 15, grew up with an abusive alcoholic father, it really sucks becase i grew up a total daddy's girl and wont ever forgive him for what he done to me.
in january this year we had a massive fight which ended in him throwing me out of the house and me not speaking to him for months.
during those months i went on holiday with my school and met a guy who is currently my boyfriend, we spent the entire week together and it really was perfect, i stayed and talked to him every night and we just seemed perfect for eachother, he made me actually feel for the first time since everything happened with my dad, it was perfect.
The two of us stood on a balcony with covers round us till about 5 in the morning on one of the nights even though it was about -20 outside and i totally fell in love with him, obviously we started going out and we have been together for the last 6 months.
I lost my virginity to him, told him everything about my life and about my dad, cried in his arms more times than i can count and he promised me so many times that he would never hurt me because he knew how much i needed someone that wouldnt fuck up for once because everyone else that i cared about did.
at the start i didnt want to believe it, told him i always get hurt, but he convinced me, and i was happy.
I was with him a little while ago and he started to get all serious with me, said he had to tell me something and asked me to promise that i wouldnt get mad.
turns out that the entire week i spent falling in love with him, and when we started dating, he had a girlfriend who he'd been with for 6 months.
and the kinda wierd thing is, that girls his best friend, they grew up together and they always have been, so he's with her all the time.
i've cried myself to sleep every night since i found out and i dont want to throw away what i had and someone who made me so happy.
but he knew i found it hard to trust anyone, and he made me trust him then he hurt me even though he promised he wouldnt while knowing he had to tell me eventually, my 'perfect' boyfriend lied to me for six months and i'd rather break up with him and remember us as happy than stay with him and know we'll never be the same if i cant forgive him and cant trust him. i'm trying to act ok around him and forget about it, but i dont know if i can,
i know everyone makes mistakes, but i dont know if i can get over this, do i break up with him? or forgive him and try to get back to how we were.
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ok, so i'm 15, grew up with an abusive alcoholic father, it really sucks becase i grew up a total daddy's girl and wont ever forgive him for what he done to me.
in january this year we had a massive fight which ended in him throwing me out of the house and me not speaking to him for months.
during those months i went on holiday with my school and met a guy who is currently my boyfriend, we spent the entire week together and it really was perfect, i stayed and talked to him every night and we just seemed perfect for eachother, he made me actually feel for the first time since everything happened with my dad, it was perfect.
The two of us stood on a balcony with covers round us till about 5 in the morning on one of the nights even though it was about -20 outside and i totally fell in love with him, obviously we started going out and we have been together for the last 6 months.
I lost my virginity to him, told him everything about my life and about my dad, cried in his arms more times than i can count and he promised me so many times that he would never hurt me because he knew how much i needed someone that wouldnt fuck up for once because everyone else that i cared about did.
at the start i didnt want to believe it, told him i always get hurt, but he convinced me, and i was happy.
I was with him a little while ago and he started to get all serious with me, said he had to tell me something and asked me to promise that i wouldnt get mad.
turns out that the entire week i spent falling in love with him, and when we started dating, he had a girlfriend who he'd been with for 6 months.
and the kinda wierd thing is, that girls his best friend, they grew up together and they always have been, so he's with her all the time.
i've cried myself to sleep every night since i found out and i dont want to throw away what i had and someone who made me so happy.
but he knew i found it hard to trust anyone, and he made me trust him then he hurt me even though he promised he wouldnt while knowing he had to tell me eventually, my 'perfect' boyfriend lied to me for six months and i'd rather break up with him and remember us as happy than stay with him and know we'll never be the same if i cant forgive him and cant trust him. i'm trying to act ok around him and forget about it, but i dont know if i can,
i know everyone makes mistakes, but i dont know if i can get over this, do i break up with him? or forgive him and try to get back to how we were.
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its not always good to believe that he told you this cuz he "loves" you. some guys are just like that. i had a boyfriend who promiced me the world, then turned around and told me that he had a girl before me. i took him back, and he cheated on me. THE BIGGEST CLUE THAT HE'LL CHEAT ON YOU IS IF HE CHEATED ON SOMEONE ELSE WITH YOU!!!
but this sound like its deeper than just the love for this one guy, more than likely, its going to happen again and again and again, each time with a different guy. and if you DO find a good guy, it probally wont feel right to you, and you may end up sabotaging yourself cuz your not use to a male figure standing by you.
How was you life with you mom, or anyother woman you looked up to growing up? most people will probally tell you otherwise, but manybe you should try being a lesbian. its obviouse men arn't too good for you.
but this sound like its deeper than just the love for this one guy, more than likely, its going to happen again and again and again, each time with a different guy. and if you DO find a good guy, it probally wont feel right to you, and you may end up sabotaging yourself cuz your not use to a male figure standing by you.
How was you life with you mom, or anyother woman you looked up to growing up? most people will probally tell you otherwise, but manybe you should try being a lesbian. its obviouse men arn't too good for you.
Posted by nikkirawks on 9/8/2008 1:05:00 PM (Report abuse)
He told you the truth because he hoped you would understand him, and he didn't want to lie to you, or hurt you in the future.
I was in the same position a few years ago, my boyfriend at the time was dating someone else, and then dated me. He told me that he was with someone but that he only told me because he cared for me. I regret not trying to make it work.
I hope you find the way for you. (:
I was in the same position a few years ago, my boyfriend at the time was dating someone else, and then dated me. He told me that he was with someone but that he only told me because he cared for me. I regret not trying to make it work.
I hope you find the way for you. (:
Posted by Penguin on 8/24/2008 10:50:00 PM (Report abuse)
I think you should work at it, because i think you may regret it
yeah he made a mistake, but he was probably just trying to not ruin the week for you, and then it went to far?
he has chosen you over her and although she always guna be around, if there was anything still between them he wouldnt have told you about her.
i think that you deserve someone that makes you that happy. you should tell him how you're feeling and see how he feels, dont give up right away. it not everyday you find someone you can communicate with and trust like that.. good luck(:
yeah he made a mistake, but he was probably just trying to not ruin the week for you, and then it went to far?
he has chosen you over her and although she always guna be around, if there was anything still between them he wouldnt have told you about her.
i think that you deserve someone that makes you that happy. you should tell him how you're feeling and see how he feels, dont give up right away. it not everyday you find someone you can communicate with and trust like that.. good luck(:
Posted by HaveYouEver on 8/24/2008 4:30:00 PM (Report abuse)
i agree you need to tell him how you feel. and see where it goes from there
Posted by an anonymous user on 8/23/2008 7:20:00 PM (Report abuse)
it sounds like you just need to tell him how you feel and see how things go from there if you really want things to work out you can't keep your feelings from him and after you tell him see how it goes what his reactions and stuff like that
Posted by renabunny18 on 8/22/2008 10:21:00 PM (Report abuse)