Do we ever really get over our first loves?
No matter how hard I try I can't get over my first true love.I feel like there can never be anything as beautiful and intimate as our relationship was.I truly felt like we were one person in two separate bodies.I feel sad that I will never experience that kind of symbiosis again.I think it's impossible, since my heart is now imprinted with paths that my first love made.Some say your first love makes the strongest impact on your brain.It's like riding a bicycle for the first time.You remember it.It sticks to you, and in a way it defines everything else you do after it.I worry that everyone else will only be number two's after the love of my youth.
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I'm still in love with my first love. Like the anonymous person just said, I too have moved on with my life, marrying, having two children, etc. My husband is wonderful but honestly we do not connect in any way like my first love and I did. I think about my first love daily. I was ready to marry him 15 years ago, when he was unexpectedly sent to prison. I believe he was not a bad person, just got caught in the wrong place at the wrong time. Basically he let me go right before he went in. It kills me everyday that I didn't pursue him harder - been there for him as he went through hell. That is my biggest regret.
I've been reading online about first loves lost. Some people say it is a fantasy, still dreaming about them years later. I do not believe this. I believe it is a love that is interrupted, and we who are the victims spend a great deal of time pinning away for something that may never be. Who knows if we were really meant to be together? Only time will tell. As for me, I just found my true love on myspace. I have not contacted him, but I am tempted. I realize all the dangers and consequences that may occur if I do contact him. But the temptation is still there....
I've been reading online about first loves lost. Some people say it is a fantasy, still dreaming about them years later. I do not believe this. I believe it is a love that is interrupted, and we who are the victims spend a great deal of time pinning away for something that may never be. Who knows if we were really meant to be together? Only time will tell. As for me, I just found my true love on myspace. I have not contacted him, but I am tempted. I realize all the dangers and consequences that may occur if I do contact him. But the temptation is still there....
Posted by Mountaingirl on 10/27/2009 2:24:00 PM (Report abuse)
My first love was 16 years ago and I have since gotten married (not my first love) and have had 2 children with my husband. I still think of my first love daily and miss him a lot. Because we broke up because of distance and not anything bad, it still made everyone second best compared to him. And I will always wonder what could have been.
Posted by an anonymous user on 9/6/2009 7:33:00 PM (Report abuse)
I think that maybe you're just in love with the idea of the love you had the first time. In shorter terms I mean that since it was you're first love it means a lot because there is none before them. You just want the same concept again. I'm not with my first love, but I do love my bf more than my first. Besides there's reason why we don't have our first loves anymore.
Just sit and think about it, I doubt that you can still love that person, you just need to find a person that you can be with be and have them be you're best friend.
Good luck.
I hope I helped.
Just sit and think about it, I doubt that you can still love that person, you just need to find a person that you can be with be and have them be you're best friend.
Good luck.
I hope I helped.
Posted by takemyhand on 7/12/2009 12:56:00 AM (Report abuse)
I'm still with my first love.
My true love.
Happily.
My true love.
Happily.
Posted by Olive on 7/11/2009 6:36:00 PM (Report abuse)
I don't think so..well im kind of over mine, but i still
think about him. I miss him sometimes too, But i remember how
he made my life a living hell. And then i don't miss him anymore.[:
think about him. I miss him sometimes too, But i remember how
he made my life a living hell. And then i don't miss him anymore.[:
Posted by XBleedingtearsX on 7/11/2009 6:26:00 PM (Report abuse)