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Posted by an anonymous user on 8/3/2008 5:49:00 AM
my dad's always put me down.
in everything i do.
school, work, general actvities.
and its only because he's this huge business man and a major critic.
and i THINKKK deep down its because he cares.
but i dont know anymore.


what do i do?



oh.
by the way..
we're not that close either.
so dont suggest that i talk to him





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I don't know whats going on with parents these days. Maybe he just so used to bossing around employees and shit that he brings it home. Try not to take everything he says to you to heart. Try not to " people please' so much. If your dad has always been that way, then I guess it's time to ask yourself whether you want to continue to worry so much about his opinions of you, i mean, if he puts down everything you do, fuck it. just do the things your doing for yourself. Just have a whatever attitude. We know that you can't ignore him, like the profound words of Bliss suggested, he's your dad. But you CAN take what he says with a grain of salt.
Posted by Babyhedred on 8/5/2008 11:44:00 AM (Report abuse)
I like the quote that says something like "the best part of a childhood is that it ends" the sooner you put it behind you the better you will be. Focus on your future and how better you will be when you no longer have to be around someone who only wants to break your spirt. Remember that he is inscure and sad, but you don't have to be.
Posted by Move on on 8/4/2008 2:48:00 AM (Report abuse)
Yeah, my dad was like that. I never liked him. I just ignored and avoided him as much as I could. And then my mom kicked him out of the house.
I mean honestly, talking to him or communicating in some way that you don't like what he's doing is the best thing you could do to let him know. But beyond that, it's really not that simple.

I hope you solve this. (:
Posted by Penguin on 8/3/2008 3:57:00 PM (Report abuse)
i hate my dad
he is always telling me that i need to stop eating and that i'm not pretty
i've tried talking to him
and he just won't listen to me
i ignore him and his comments when he speaks to me
but later i go and cry and try not to self harm
i refuse to go to group therapy with him
maybe you could suggest it to him
but i know for me, as soon as i get out of teh house i don't want him in my life
hope it works out for you
Posted by Lcpa543 on 8/3/2008 10:55:00 AM (Report abuse)
Ignore him. If you think you are doing a good job, don't let anybody tell you otherwise.
Posted by Bliss on 8/3/2008 9:50:00 AM (Report abuse)
Accept that in his own way he was trying to help and move on. Send him a card once a year and have a great life.
Posted by G on 8/3/2008 7:53:00 AM (Report abuse)
i suggest you do what YOU want, to the level you are willing to go to. your dad has his own life, he doesnt need to control yours by making you feel inadequate. my dad is similar - i made it clear that i was doing what i wanted to do, for me, not for anyone else, and he soon got the message. be true to yourself, and remember, your dad probably wishes he could be in your position again, without the ties and responsibilities he has now.
Posted by Han on 8/3/2008 7:22:00 AM (Report abuse)
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