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Posted by an anonymous user on 9/19/2008 9:45:00 PM
Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 8 months and she just told me she has been going behind my back and smoking ciggarets with her friend, she used to smoke when her parents first broke up cause of her stress.but then she said she quit cause its a bad habbit, I really belived her cause she is a really trustworthy girl but she has been smoking with this friend only about once a month but still, smoking is one of my pet peevs and I thought I told her that and made it clear.but she said I dident tell her anything...
i have lost two aunts to smoking and I'm afriad I'm going to loss my mother cause she smokes also, my girlfriend told me she will quit this time.she even promissed on are relationship.i told her I dont think I can fully forgive her for this cause she already told me she quit and hasent smoked for over a year but it turned out to be a lie.
i dont know if she is going to quit cause she already told me she did, she told me if she smokes again that she is going to tell me again.but I dont think she will be telling me if she even did smoke again cause she would be afraid I would break up with her, what should I do.
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i have lost two aunts to smoking and I'm afriad I'm going to loss my mother cause she smokes also, my girlfriend told me she will quit this time.she even promissed on are relationship.i told her I dont think I can fully forgive her for this cause she already told me she quit and hasent smoked for over a year but it turned out to be a lie.
i dont know if she is going to quit cause she already told me she did, she told me if she smokes again that she is going to tell me again.but I dont think she will be telling me if she even did smoke again cause she would be afraid I would break up with her, what should I do.
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There are way worse things than smoking. If you care about her, then don't end things over that. Should she have been honest with you? Probably. Should you be a little less judgmental? Probably. People with substance abuse issues of any kind are only successful at stopping when they choose to, not when they are forced to. And if you really do care for her, she should not have to be scared that you will break up with her.
The likelihood is not that you will get married and grow old together, so this is probably more about control than it is concern for her health. You didn't even know so she is not doing it enough for it to stink her up.
The likelihood is not that you will get married and grow old together, so this is probably more about control than it is concern for her health. You didn't even know so she is not doing it enough for it to stink her up.
Posted by nopicsplease on 9/22/2008 9:47:00 AM (Report abuse)
If you really want to be with her, be with her.
Keep telling her you don't like it,
but dont let it be the deciding factor on your relationship.
Keep telling her you don't like it,
but dont let it be the deciding factor on your relationship.
Posted by likeboysorgirls on 9/19/2008 11:55:00 PM (Report abuse)