How can I trust him ever again?
Posted by an anonymous user on 6/26/2008 11:54:00 PM
Long story short:
My mother ran out of my life when I was 5 years old. I've never seen her since. It's just been my dad and me for most of the life I can remember. I love him. He is only 16 years older than me, so we've always been close but recently, things have been HORRIBLE.
I've been thinking and it's like he's always been more of a friend than a father and now all of a sudden, he's trying to be this "parent" figure, and I don't appreciate it. I've had to deal with all his girlfriends, his job changes and stresses, I've had to be his friend, and barely a daughter. It's not that he's irresponsible, but he has made me mature way too fast when I was younger.
And last night, he started screaming at me about how late I was (I came home around 1 am, which is not strange, it's happened before and he didn't care.) He practically backed me up into a wall, calling me disrespectful and sassy. So, I told him to fuck off, because he is acting completely insane.
Then he grabbed my arm and slapped me in the face.
I've never really fought with my dad before until yesterday, and no one has ever hit me before in my life.
He apologized to me but I don't know if I can forgive him.
I know I shouldn't have cursed at him but he shouldn't have hit me. How am I supposed to deal with this? More than the pain of him slapping me, it hurts me that he would lose control and ever want me to hit me like that.
What do I say? What do I do?
I can't stop thinking about what happened.
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My mother ran out of my life when I was 5 years old. I've never seen her since. It's just been my dad and me for most of the life I can remember. I love him. He is only 16 years older than me, so we've always been close but recently, things have been HORRIBLE.
I've been thinking and it's like he's always been more of a friend than a father and now all of a sudden, he's trying to be this "parent" figure, and I don't appreciate it. I've had to deal with all his girlfriends, his job changes and stresses, I've had to be his friend, and barely a daughter. It's not that he's irresponsible, but he has made me mature way too fast when I was younger.
And last night, he started screaming at me about how late I was (I came home around 1 am, which is not strange, it's happened before and he didn't care.) He practically backed me up into a wall, calling me disrespectful and sassy. So, I told him to fuck off, because he is acting completely insane.
Then he grabbed my arm and slapped me in the face.
I've never really fought with my dad before until yesterday, and no one has ever hit me before in my life.
He apologized to me but I don't know if I can forgive him.
I know I shouldn't have cursed at him but he shouldn't have hit me. How am I supposed to deal with this? More than the pain of him slapping me, it hurts me that he would lose control and ever want me to hit me like that.
What do I say? What do I do?
I can't stop thinking about what happened.
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i know this is kinda mean to say but take it from me my steph dads hit me before becuase hes an angry guy unliek your dad. Im 16 and ever since my dad hit me from the first time abotu a year ago its never been the same since i just never talked abtou it with him adn now when hes angry he know that if he hits me / yells at me and trys to control me im not going to do anythign abotu it. Reality is theres nothign you can really do you cant take back the fact that your dad hit you or the way she look or how scared you were.But if i were you i would talk to him let him know you dont think its right and even tough you were late and you swore at him he shoudl have never done that and let him know that its never going to happen again. I hope you dont end up in my situation becasue its not fun at all
Posted by Chantelle on 6/30/2008 7:04:00 AM (Report abuse)
I think you should forgive. I went through the same thing with my dad and I told him that i never wanted to see him again. He also "over matured" me when I was younger.
Unlike my dad, YOUR dad realizes how grown up you've become, and with the attachment of "daddy's little girl" he wants you to stay his little girl.
Just talk to him about it and be straight up with how you feel about the situation.
Forgive but NEVER forget.
xoxo, bvgb
Unlike my dad, YOUR dad realizes how grown up you've become, and with the attachment of "daddy's little girl" he wants you to stay his little girl.
Just talk to him about it and be straight up with how you feel about the situation.
Forgive but NEVER forget.
xoxo, bvgb
Posted by Erika on 6/27/2008 11:35:00 AM (Report abuse)