I cant have orgasms..

Have him go down on you first. This will stimulate your clit, much in the same way as masturbating or self stimulating. Once you have the first orgasm, the second one, be it during intercourse or not, comes alot easier (no pun intended). Ladies remember men maybe able to stand to pee (who cares) but we have something so much better, the ability to have multiple orgasms. The key to thing to rememberis, sex is not about the end goal (orgasm), it's about the act of being together, the enitre experience. Intimacy makes sex better. If all you can think about is the orgasm, then your not really in the moment enjoying the act. No wonder you can't have an orgasm?!? So, try and relax and enjoy each other, laugh and play and talk. Sex shouldn't be work. Experiment with positions, some woman have better orgasms on top, or man on top, or doggy style. All bodies are unique. Communication is key, tell your partner what feels good what doesn't, what you want to try. It all comes down to this, if you can't talk about it openly and honestly you shouldn't be doing it. I hope this helps.

went threw the same thing. its ok tho. me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years now and when we first started having sex it always hurt and it never felt right. after a few months it got alot better. just give it time and ill get better.