I gave my boyfriend the finger during a fight
Posted by an anonymous user on 8/29/2008 8:20:00 PM
And he grabbed my wrist and shoved me against the wall of my dorm.this happened last night at 6:20pm.
my boyfriend is a college baseball player, 6 feet tall, and well-built.
I am 110lbs and 5'6."
I was so terrified that he was going to hit me that I closed my eyes.he slammed me against the wall again and said, "i'm not going to fucking hit you so keep your fucking eyes open and listen to me! "
i will never forget that.
i never thought he could do this to me.
i decided that I can't deal with being afraid of my own boyfriend.he is supposed to love and protect me, not hurt me.tomorrow I think i'm going to break up with him.it's only been one day and I can't handle how I feel about what he did to me.
am I doing the right thing though?
we have been together for a year.we've been through everything together, bad and good.i was there at every fucking baseball practice, watched him make from the bottom to the top, watched him climb his baseball career.i supported him all the way.and he supported me in all my studies and endeavors..
he apologized to me.am I making a huge deal out of a little something?
i don't know what to do.
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my boyfriend is a college baseball player, 6 feet tall, and well-built.
I am 110lbs and 5'6."
I was so terrified that he was going to hit me that I closed my eyes.he slammed me against the wall again and said, "i'm not going to fucking hit you so keep your fucking eyes open and listen to me! "
i will never forget that.
i never thought he could do this to me.
i decided that I can't deal with being afraid of my own boyfriend.he is supposed to love and protect me, not hurt me.tomorrow I think i'm going to break up with him.it's only been one day and I can't handle how I feel about what he did to me.
am I doing the right thing though?
we have been together for a year.we've been through everything together, bad and good.i was there at every fucking baseball practice, watched him make from the bottom to the top, watched him climb his baseball career.i supported him all the way.and he supported me in all my studies and endeavors..
he apologized to me.am I making a huge deal out of a little something?
i don't know what to do.
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Honestly, this may or may not be a big deal. He definitely shouldn't be doing that to you, EVER, but sometimes this only happens once, he may feel just as bad about it as you, sometimes people do things they don't mean and they honestly regret it. I would talk to him about it, tell him exactly just how scared it made you, and see what he says. I know it's hard for some women to believe, but a man can learn from his mistakes, well, some of us anyway.
On the other hand, this could be the beginning of an abusive relationship, and you should let him know you think that. Be careful, and let common sense tell you whether this guy is an abusive jerk or just and idiot who got out of hand, felt horrible, and learned something from it: don't let your anger control you.
If it comes down to it and you're just not sure what type of guy this is, you should probably put things on hold for a while. Tell him you want a little space or something, you know just take a small break. This situation can easily bring out the true colors of a man. If he is truly an abusive type of guy, he won't take kindly to you telling him you want to take a little break, so be sure you have someone you trust within earshot. If he truly respects you, he might try to argue, but in the end, he will respect your decision. I hope this helps.
On the other hand, this could be the beginning of an abusive relationship, and you should let him know you think that. Be careful, and let common sense tell you whether this guy is an abusive jerk or just and idiot who got out of hand, felt horrible, and learned something from it: don't let your anger control you.
If it comes down to it and you're just not sure what type of guy this is, you should probably put things on hold for a while. Tell him you want a little space or something, you know just take a small break. This situation can easily bring out the true colors of a man. If he is truly an abusive type of guy, he won't take kindly to you telling him you want to take a little break, so be sure you have someone you trust within earshot. If he truly respects you, he might try to argue, but in the end, he will respect your decision. I hope this helps.
Posted by an anonymous user on 8/31/2008 2:06:00 PM (Report abuse)
See posts by "Tiffany" This is a classic jerk and he deserves a "change" in attitudes! I can give you some coaching.
Posted by Tiffany on 8/31/2008 1:38:00 PM (Report abuse)
It's not a little something, I agree with the first post.
And someone capable of that is a jerk.
And someone capable of that is a jerk.
Posted by an anonymous user on 8/29/2008 10:06:00 PM (Report abuse)
It is a huge deal. A guy should NEVER do that to a woman, unless he was restraining her from attacking somebody or something... If he would do that, you never know, it may turn to abuse eventually. If you feel unsafe with him now, leave him.
Posted by RokkuRii on 8/29/2008 9:35:00 PM (Report abuse)