I hate my four-years-old daughter
Posted by an anonymous user on 7/29/2008 12:31:00 PM
i'm a terrible mother but i don't even care any more
EDIT: Pleas read what i've posted in the comments ("Person who posted this secret") if you're planning to comment
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my mother fucked me up because she hates me always treated me like i was never good enough always yelling and hitting me actually told me i was a mistake when i was 8 or 9
i hated her for most of my life now i feel sorry for her she never got help that she needed thats how i feel about you you are a bad mother you need to get help both for her and your self if you dont you are going to ruin her life
i hated her for most of my life now i feel sorry for her she never got help that she needed thats how i feel about you you are a bad mother you need to get help both for her and your self if you dont you are going to ruin her life
Posted by an anonymous user on 10/27/2008 12:49:00 AM (Report abuse)
I feel so sorry for you. Realising you hate your own child must be awful. Yes, true, mothers should love their children, but life is strange and can really play a trick on you.
Listen, I have not been through this experience, so I cannot really give adequate advice, but there are many psychologists out there who can. And it is clear you are suffering psychologically! Perhaps you hate yourself, perhaps you hate the world, perhaps you do hate your child. Whatever it is, good counseling will help you discover what is really going on and eventually help you recover.
It's easy for others to ostracise you, but I think it's brave you posted your secret here and I hope that since you have indeed found help ... or if not ... for the love of all that's good, GET HELP!!
Listen, I have not been through this experience, so I cannot really give adequate advice, but there are many psychologists out there who can. And it is clear you are suffering psychologically! Perhaps you hate yourself, perhaps you hate the world, perhaps you do hate your child. Whatever it is, good counseling will help you discover what is really going on and eventually help you recover.
It's easy for others to ostracise you, but I think it's brave you posted your secret here and I hope that since you have indeed found help ... or if not ... for the love of all that's good, GET HELP!!
Posted by WinterMute on 10/20/2008 5:30:00 AM (Report abuse)
if you want to let go of these feelings so that you and your husband and your daughter can all be happy together, maybe you should talk to someone. a therapist or something.
i would hate for you to let these feelings just sit in you and not try to get rid of them because when she grows up, you won't be able to have a real relationship with her.
it's the younger years that are critical to connect with your child and as they get older, those are the years to get to know them and experience things together.
i would hate for you to let these feelings just sit in you and not try to get rid of them because when she grows up, you won't be able to have a real relationship with her.
it's the younger years that are critical to connect with your child and as they get older, those are the years to get to know them and experience things together.
Posted by Taye1402 on 10/11/2008 10:07:00 PM (Report abuse)
You might be suffering from PTSD from having a pregnancy. Women have been diagnosed with this for years after giving birth, as pregnancy is strenuous and wreaks havoc on hormones.
I would suggest you join a support group at the very least, furthermore think about therapy.
I would suggest you join a support group at the very least, furthermore think about therapy.
Posted by an anonymous user on 10/7/2008 12:33:00 PM (Report abuse)
I read what you posted in the comments. Your child is half you, half your husband. It isn't a creature. I know you didn't want the child and you only had it to make your husband happy, but usually some maternal instincts kick in and you at least want to attempt to love your child. You could have a hormone imbalance if your child isn't that old yet. You could have postpartum depression. You should really look into that. You owe it to yourself, your husband and your child to get evaluated and make sure that you aren't suffering from some kind of hormonal problem. It might help you deal with the situation better if you talked with a therapist. If none of that works and you can't be a mother to your child, you owe it to your husband to let him know. Maybe he can find a woman that does want to be a mother. Your child will always be there now, so there will never be just you and him anymore. I hope you two use birth control now.
Posted by an anonymous user on 9/17/2008 9:20:00 AM (Report abuse)
i think you should think about the people who can't have kids, you make me rather sick actually i can't help but think what are you doing to your child right now.
i think you should take the advice of some of the comments and leave her with your husband and possibly never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, have children again you sick sad monster
i think you should take the advice of some of the comments and leave her with your husband and possibly never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, have children again you sick sad monster
Posted by sarah000 on 9/9/2008 1:59:00 AM (Report abuse)
WOW
Why cant you stand being with her?
shes your daughter you braught her into this world
LOVE HER!!!!
shes going to be one fucked up kid when shes gets older!
dont do that to her!!!!
Why cant you stand being with her?
shes your daughter you braught her into this world
LOVE HER!!!!
shes going to be one fucked up kid when shes gets older!
dont do that to her!!!!
Posted by DiamondDrawls on 9/8/2008 4:02:00 PM (Report abuse)
I think your husband should take your daughter and leave you. How dare you bring a child into existance only to make your husband happy. Can you imagine your mother calling you a creature?
HOw awful. Leave your family, they would be better off without you.
HOw awful. Leave your family, they would be better off without you.
Posted by an anonymous user on 8/28/2008 2:30:00 PM (Report abuse)
@See me
Read what I posted before posting nonsense
Read what I posted before posting nonsense
Posted by Person who posted this secret on 8/16/2008 6:20:00 PM (Report abuse)
I know how you feel. In the future you will regret how you feel. When she choses to have someone else to be her mother and you are not invited to her wedding, graduation, etc.
When she tells you "you are nothing"
The feelings you are experiencing are not that you hate her.
You are feeling trapped and alone. The only person that can love you is yourself. Having a baby does not bring love.
You have to change the perception on how you view yourself and the child.
If you don't want the responsibility of this child. Give her a chance somewhere else. Don't keep her you will only destory her. Allow her to have a happy childhood.
Take it from someone who was to selfish to do what would have been better for the child.
When she tells you "you are nothing"
The feelings you are experiencing are not that you hate her.
You are feeling trapped and alone. The only person that can love you is yourself. Having a baby does not bring love.
You have to change the perception on how you view yourself and the child.
If you don't want the responsibility of this child. Give her a chance somewhere else. Don't keep her you will only destory her. Allow her to have a happy childhood.
Take it from someone who was to selfish to do what would have been better for the child.
Posted by See me on 8/15/2008 3:54:00 PM (Report abuse)
You all don't be stupid, I realize it's wrong, I can't abandon her or something since I'm married and my husband loves her.
And I'm making an effort to give her a normal childhood so she will grow to become a good person. But still, I can't stand being with her, I try to leave the responsabilities to my husband and the creature loves him but I seem to be useless for they two now.
I know I shouldn't have became a mother, but seeing my husband happy was a reason enough to get pregnant.
I hope I can start liking this useless child after she grows a little
And I'm making an effort to give her a normal childhood so she will grow to become a good person. But still, I can't stand being with her, I try to leave the responsabilities to my husband and the creature loves him but I seem to be useless for they two now.
I know I shouldn't have became a mother, but seeing my husband happy was a reason enough to get pregnant.
I hope I can start liking this useless child after she grows a little
Posted by Person who posted this secret on 8/15/2008 1:39:00 AM (Report abuse)
what if you hurt her. if you lose your temper what is there to keep you from hurting or even killing her. obviously lo0ve wont protect her!!!!!!!
do something before it all goes wrrong!!!!!!!
do something before it all goes wrrong!!!!!!!
Posted by Ummmm on 8/12/2008 3:00:00 PM (Report abuse)
Please give her up!!!! if you hate her that is your prob not hers!!!
please dont take it out on her
if she grows up knowing that she is unwanted it will ruin her life!!!!!!!
start caring or give her to someone who does!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
please dont take it out on her
if she grows up knowing that she is unwanted it will ruin her life!!!!!!!
start caring or give her to someone who does!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted by Ugh!!!!! on 8/12/2008 2:58:00 PM (Report abuse)
why do you hate her?
Why would you have a child you knew you couldnt love?
Why didnt you give her to a family that would love her?
your sick.
my mother is exactley the same,except im 16.
She tried to have an abortion and eneded up finding out she was going to have twins,but the other twin died b/c she was an alcoholic.
I think about that everyday. Dont ruin your childs life.
Give her to a family where she WILL be loved. And to people WHO will never hurt her.
Unlike you.
Why would you have a child you knew you couldnt love?
Why didnt you give her to a family that would love her?
your sick.
my mother is exactley the same,except im 16.
She tried to have an abortion and eneded up finding out she was going to have twins,but the other twin died b/c she was an alcoholic.
I think about that everyday. Dont ruin your childs life.
Give her to a family where she WILL be loved. And to people WHO will never hurt her.
Unlike you.
Posted by Elaynee on 8/8/2008 12:39:00 AM (Report abuse)
this is probably true....
For my mother-Im that kid...
For my mother-Im that kid...
Posted by Seek on 8/2/2008 8:09:00 PM (Report abuse)
go get some real problems like global warming.
Posted by Jenqiue on 7/31/2008 7:00:00 PM (Report abuse)
thats horrible. but you guys. this person is probably just trying to get a rise out of you all. probably doesnt even have a daughter.
Posted by Heather on 7/31/2008 5:23:00 AM (Report abuse)
i dont have kids, but i could imagine once i have one, i might get really frustrated with it and feel like i hate it....i'll have to admit that. BUT, it would only be for a second.
wow if i grew up and my mom hated me, i would kill her and then kill myself. thats the last thing a kid wants to hear. sometimes my mom would call me a brat and i would cry for days.
you dont know how much you are probably hurting her, even if you dont physically say, "i hate you"...they can tell.
dont be a horrible shitty mother. give her up for adoption to a family member or someone you trust. (well i guess that wouldnt prove to be a good person either huh)
just make sure she gets the best, even if you dont like her. but try to love her. YOU brought her into this world to be loved, not hated. bitch.
wow if i grew up and my mom hated me, i would kill her and then kill myself. thats the last thing a kid wants to hear. sometimes my mom would call me a brat and i would cry for days.
you dont know how much you are probably hurting her, even if you dont physically say, "i hate you"...they can tell.
dont be a horrible shitty mother. give her up for adoption to a family member or someone you trust. (well i guess that wouldnt prove to be a good person either huh)
just make sure she gets the best, even if you dont like her. but try to love her. YOU brought her into this world to be loved, not hated. bitch.
Posted by Kk7 on 7/30/2008 11:07:00 AM (Report abuse)
What kind of human being are you that you would hate your own child? That's fucked up.You need couseling or something. I feel so sorry for your daughter now, it's not even funny. Imagine growing up with a mom who hates you. Maybe you should think about giving her to a family member that WILL love her and nurture her instead of letting her grow up with someone like you.
Posted by Babyhedred on 7/30/2008 10:01:00 AM (Report abuse)
I don't care what's going on in your life, i just don't understand how you could say that. Its disgusting.
Posted by :/ on 7/30/2008 6:25:00 AM (Report abuse)
Wow..That's horrible.. How can you hate a child?
Posted by Bliss on 7/29/2008 11:58:00 PM (Report abuse)