I have no friends
So I'm a 21 year old female and it kind of hit me now that I have no friends.I know people here and there but never made the effort or maintained ties with them to develop a friendship.It's a real challenge for me to be interested in people and just be social.
I'm obviously always alone.I live with my family and they are basically all I have.There's maybe just one person from school and another co-worker whom I talk to, but we never hang out.
I've been the loner most of my life and it only became worse in my teenage years.I thought it was alright for some people to just be more independent, shy, quiet, whatever.It's ok not to be a social butterfly but I feel my life is seriously impaired.
I feel like I'm missing out on so many things in life and that's because I have no one to do things with.I know this sounds really lame and you can just tell me to go out there and introduce myself and be positive, be friendly, be social...I've tried, and it never lasted long.
I spend a lot of time online and I wish I had more people to talk to.The saddest thing is that I just got this cell phone plan with unlimited texting, anywhere in the world, and I don't have anyone to text.
If perhaps you're like me or wouldn't mind keeping me company so that I'm not in total solitude, give me a shout out.I'm a really nice person, really.People just never come across me.
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I'm obviously always alone.I live with my family and they are basically all I have.There's maybe just one person from school and another co-worker whom I talk to, but we never hang out.
I've been the loner most of my life and it only became worse in my teenage years.I thought it was alright for some people to just be more independent, shy, quiet, whatever.It's ok not to be a social butterfly but I feel my life is seriously impaired.
I feel like I'm missing out on so many things in life and that's because I have no one to do things with.I know this sounds really lame and you can just tell me to go out there and introduce myself and be positive, be friendly, be social...I've tried, and it never lasted long.
I spend a lot of time online and I wish I had more people to talk to.The saddest thing is that I just got this cell phone plan with unlimited texting, anywhere in the world, and I don't have anyone to text.
If perhaps you're like me or wouldn't mind keeping me company so that I'm not in total solitude, give me a shout out.I'm a really nice person, really.People just never come across me.
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@me0kat, I chose to start over, to find friends online in virtual world. But it actually harder to find a friend. I am not talking a friend you add on social network, for example, you follow on twitter, you add to your msn contact list. Many people are used to call someone as friend when first meet. I don't do such thing. I am talking a person you can find who is connected to you, who can let you feel connected.
I had a few friends but we lost in contact, that's only few things I regret in my life.
And 2am still up, that's nothing. It doesn't mean anything. You are not a loser. In fact, you are brave because you told us what problem you have. Admitting is much better/harder than faking. You don't pretend you are okay. You seek for help.
The only left to be asked is how to solve your problem. But honestly, I am not the one can answer you. But I would like to have some conversations here with you along with others.
I had a few friends but we lost in contact, that's only few things I regret in my life.
And 2am still up, that's nothing. It doesn't mean anything. You are not a loser. In fact, you are brave because you told us what problem you have. Admitting is much better/harder than faking. You don't pretend you are okay. You seek for help.
The only left to be asked is how to solve your problem. But honestly, I am not the one can answer you. But I would like to have some conversations here with you along with others.
Posted by livibetter on 2/9/2010 3:42:00 AM (Report abuse)
I feel that way too.
I don't know what I'm going to do without a good friend, so I keep thinking that it'll get better... when I know it probably won't.
Try getting into an activity that you really like, such as a club (knitting, volunteering, something) and I'm sure you'll make friends, even if you aren't putting the total effort. You make friends when you're really into something, and you won't even realize it. (:
I don't know what I'm going to do without a good friend, so I keep thinking that it'll get better... when I know it probably won't.
Try getting into an activity that you really like, such as a club (knitting, volunteering, something) and I'm sure you'll make friends, even if you aren't putting the total effort. You make friends when you're really into something, and you won't even realize it. (:
Posted by Penguin on 2/9/2010 12:57:00 AM (Report abuse)
Is it your choice not to have friends? what kind of situation are you in , if you don't mind describing briefly...
It's like 2 am where I'm at and I feel like a total loser just being on this site. *sigh
It's like 2 am where I'm at and I feel like a total loser just being on this site. *sigh
Posted by me0kat on 2/9/2010 12:55:00 AM (Report abuse)
I don't have friends, either. But I have different situation and I am quite okay with that. And "you can just tell me to go out there and introduce myself and be positive, be friendly, be social..." this doesn't work. We all know about how-to, but just can't do (well).
But I am sure, there would be some people want to be your friend here.
But I am sure, there would be some people want to be your friend here.
Posted by livibetter on 2/9/2010 12:47:00 AM (Report abuse)