I love him.
Posted by peepeedoodoo123 on 7/3/2008 1:05:00 AM
I'm a 16 year old guy.
To start things off. I'm not gay. (Not that I have a problem with gays, I'm all for same sex marriage and such).
However.
I fell in love with the guy trumpet player in my section in our high school band. He's only 15. Our relationship was kept a secret and we had our fun. But one day we were caught kissing by our band teacher. Although my band teacher was very kind and understanding and promised to keep the whole thing a secret, from that day on he stopped talking to me. He ignored my messages and even blocked all my calls. I just don't know what to do. For one thing, I feel so stupid for going head over heels deep in love with him. It's hard seeing him all the time in school but everytime I try to talk to him he ignores me. I still have feelings for him even.
I don't know what to do. I can't forget him.
I feel vulnerable and desperate. And I wish none of it ever happened at all.
And I know this might sound like I'm gay (falling in love with a guy and all). But its just him. Only him. I dont find any other guy attractive in that way.
I just need advice.
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To start things off. I'm not gay. (Not that I have a problem with gays, I'm all for same sex marriage and such).
However.
I fell in love with the guy trumpet player in my section in our high school band. He's only 15. Our relationship was kept a secret and we had our fun. But one day we were caught kissing by our band teacher. Although my band teacher was very kind and understanding and promised to keep the whole thing a secret, from that day on he stopped talking to me. He ignored my messages and even blocked all my calls. I just don't know what to do. For one thing, I feel so stupid for going head over heels deep in love with him. It's hard seeing him all the time in school but everytime I try to talk to him he ignores me. I still have feelings for him even.
I don't know what to do. I can't forget him.
I feel vulnerable and desperate. And I wish none of it ever happened at all.
And I know this might sound like I'm gay (falling in love with a guy and all). But its just him. Only him. I dont find any other guy attractive in that way.
I just need advice.
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A guy kissing a guy is definately gay.
Posted by an anonymous user on 8/28/2008 2:36:00 PM (Report abuse)
My thoughts are that he is really afraid of being with you know that he knows a third party knows about the two of you.
Realize that not all people, particularly teenage boys, are has understanding or accepting of homosexuality, or even just the possibility of it, as you. If he is from a background that sees homosexuality and anything that resembles it has negative he may be haveing a really hard time understanding his feelings.
I personally don't think, conterary to popular belief, that romantic love and sexuality always go hand-in-hand. The ways the human mind and heart work are far to complex to be catagorized in such a nice, neat, simple way.
If he is the only other male that you've never been attacted to then it really is most likely something special about him that you are drawn to.
As for getting him back, first try to find out how he sees your relationship and his own sexuality, I think you to need to sit down and have a very long talk about our situation.
P.S. I really hope it works out well for you both, whatever the end result is, you seem like a nice person.
Realize that not all people, particularly teenage boys, are has understanding or accepting of homosexuality, or even just the possibility of it, as you. If he is from a background that sees homosexuality and anything that resembles it has negative he may be haveing a really hard time understanding his feelings.
I personally don't think, conterary to popular belief, that romantic love and sexuality always go hand-in-hand. The ways the human mind and heart work are far to complex to be catagorized in such a nice, neat, simple way.
If he is the only other male that you've never been attacted to then it really is most likely something special about him that you are drawn to.
As for getting him back, first try to find out how he sees your relationship and his own sexuality, I think you to need to sit down and have a very long talk about our situation.
P.S. I really hope it works out well for you both, whatever the end result is, you seem like a nice person.
Posted by Lalarelle on 8/17/2008 2:38:00 PM (Report abuse)
ignore people saying your gay cos you know wat you are, i think you should ignore him back, then get a girlfriend either to get over him or to rub in his face, not really tht fair on the girl i spse but it might work...
Posted by Me on 7/5/2008 2:58:00 AM (Report abuse)
hes not nessacerily gay btw, everyone experiments.
right so you said youve "had your fun"
well maybe this boy saw it that way?
maybe he wasnt in love with you? i dont mean that in a horrible way just that maybe it was just a fling
ita shame that he wont speak to you
keep trying and say that you want to be friends
at least then it might give you the opportunity to explain how you feel
being 15, he probably just got abit afraid that people would find out
becuase if you're realistic, he wouldnt want anyone to kno because hed just get bullied.
..good luck (:
right so you said youve "had your fun"
well maybe this boy saw it that way?
maybe he wasnt in love with you? i dont mean that in a horrible way just that maybe it was just a fling
ita shame that he wont speak to you
keep trying and say that you want to be friends
at least then it might give you the opportunity to explain how you feel
being 15, he probably just got abit afraid that people would find out
becuase if you're realistic, he wouldnt want anyone to kno because hed just get bullied.
..good luck (:
Posted by Have You Ever on 7/4/2008 9:23:00 AM (Report abuse)
dont listen to other people, just because you fell in love with one guy doesn't mean you're gay. I dated a girl, I was completely in love with her but I don't consider myself lesbian or even bi, you love who you love, it's not their gender that you see, it's whats on the inside.
I agree that he might have been overwhelmed by the whole thing, first he falls in love with this guy who's a year older and then before he knows it the band teacher is catching you. Overwhelming is kind of an understatement.
I think that you should wait a week or so (he probably needs some time to cool down, it can be scary to get caught doing something that other people might think is wrong even though it's not wrong at all) and then either try to talk to him (if he walks away just keep trying, I know it hurts but you have to try, it would probably be best to approach him alone too)or write him a letter. Explain what you are feeling and ask him why he has been avoiding you.
I agree that he might have been overwhelmed by the whole thing, first he falls in love with this guy who's a year older and then before he knows it the band teacher is catching you. Overwhelming is kind of an understatement.
I think that you should wait a week or so (he probably needs some time to cool down, it can be scary to get caught doing something that other people might think is wrong even though it's not wrong at all) and then either try to talk to him (if he walks away just keep trying, I know it hurts but you have to try, it would probably be best to approach him alone too)or write him a letter. Explain what you are feeling and ask him why he has been avoiding you.
Posted by Rainbow on 7/3/2008 11:26:00 PM (Report abuse)
It doesn't mean you're gay. It means whatever you want it to mean. You don't have to define it as "being gay." It's different for everyone.
If he won't talk to you, maybe it's best just to move on? Even though it sucks a lot. But maybe that's all you can do...
If he won't talk to you, maybe it's best just to move on? Even though it sucks a lot. But maybe that's all you can do...
Posted by ? on 7/3/2008 8:01:00 PM (Report abuse)
you shoudl try to talk to him. Mabe the whoel thing was just getting a littel to over whenliming for him and he didnt know how to handle it.
Posted by Chantelle on 7/3/2008 6:25:00 PM (Report abuse)
i know how you feel, and reading what you said makes me think that maybe im not alone with how im feeling after all. i wish i could give you some great advice and say something helpful, but i dont know what to do either...its just so confusing huh? youre probably a great person and alot more people struggle with this than you think. your friend, the guy you love...id give him some time. hes probably in the same place you are and doesnt know exactly where to go from here. if you love him, wait a little.
Posted by Kayla on 7/3/2008 5:41:00 PM (Report abuse)
maybe your bi..either way..it doesn't matter...if you love him you should talk to him..make him listen. Love is blind to color and gender..it doesn't matter whats on the outside..as long as you love whats on the inside...
Posted by Hmm on 7/3/2008 2:46:00 PM (Report abuse)
nd ur not gay?! =S
if u love a guy tht means ur gay thts it.. u wont find others attractive coz u think hes the hottest maybe!
go to a shrink..
if u love a guy tht means ur gay thts it.. u wont find others attractive coz u think hes the hottest maybe!
go to a shrink..
Posted by Huh on 7/3/2008 7:26:00 AM (Report abuse)
BTW . YOU R GAY !
Posted by .. on 7/3/2008 6:15:00 AM (Report abuse)