I tried... (This is really long.. but help..)
Posted by an anonymous user on 11/14/2008 11:28:00 PM
My Ex boyfriend broke up with me on our anniversary.
He came over, had sex with me two times, kissed me and held me like nothing was wrong, and then turned to me and asked, "how long do you think we'll still be together?", I knew something was coming.I asked him why, and he refused to tell me.Finally he said, "I think we should break up." It turned into a HUGE fight, with me chasing him out the door, so he wouldn't leave, and him telling me to leave him alone, and let him leave.In the car before I got out so he could leave, I turned to him and said "Please, can I have one last kiss?" And he gave me two.
I went over to his house about two weeks after to talk to him, and try to straighten things out with our relationship, or even become friends, and it turned bad.He kept trying to get away from me.For one thing, I thought I was pregnant, and I wasn't, so I was trying to show him the test because he had asked to see it.And then he said things like "I don't love you, I loved you before, but now I don't.I hate you.Fuck off.My new girlfriend won't like this very much.I don't want you, I never wanted you.You're fat, and ugly, and your personality stinks." He's told me all these things before when we were going out, so it wasn't anything new.
Well, I had a knife with me that night.In my pocket.And honestly I still would die for him, but I took it out, and put it to my throat, and said "Is this what you want? Because I will do it" and pressed it to my throat even harder, and I was really going to do it, when he grabbed my hand and told me to let go.I was hysterically crying at this point, and hyperventilating.He went into his house and told his grandmother what was going on, and had her call his parents (who live up the road, he lives with his grandma.) I ran out of the house, grabbed my car keys, and started walking down the driveway (I knew I couldn't drive right then) just to think a little bit, and get some air, and he came out and said "Hey, where are you going?" and came up behind me and grabbed my arm, and wouldn't let go, and I turned around, threw my keys and said "I'm not going to kill myself, I'm going for a walk, see, there is my keys! " And he wrapped his arms around me from behind, and wouldn't let go.He then pulled me to the ground (without hurting me, he fell on his back first, so I was on him) and held me there, with his arms wrapped around me tight, and very close to his body and would not let go till his parents arrived.
Now.I know the suicide thing was stupid, although I was really going to do it, and still would do anything for him, but I'm seeing therapy for it.The question is, if he didn't care about me, he wouldn't have..A) Kissed me goodbye before he left my house for good when he broke up with me, and B) Held me till his parents got there, even though I made it clear I was just going for a walk, and he wouldn't let go, am I right?
Because I talked to his grandma a couple days after and she said that he told her "Thanks for helping ------- Gram, if she went through with that, I wouldn't be able to live with myself, I didn't know what to do to help her."
I don't know.I'm so confused.Help.Someone.I need opinions.
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He came over, had sex with me two times, kissed me and held me like nothing was wrong, and then turned to me and asked, "how long do you think we'll still be together?", I knew something was coming.I asked him why, and he refused to tell me.Finally he said, "I think we should break up." It turned into a HUGE fight, with me chasing him out the door, so he wouldn't leave, and him telling me to leave him alone, and let him leave.In the car before I got out so he could leave, I turned to him and said "Please, can I have one last kiss?" And he gave me two.
I went over to his house about two weeks after to talk to him, and try to straighten things out with our relationship, or even become friends, and it turned bad.He kept trying to get away from me.For one thing, I thought I was pregnant, and I wasn't, so I was trying to show him the test because he had asked to see it.And then he said things like "I don't love you, I loved you before, but now I don't.I hate you.Fuck off.My new girlfriend won't like this very much.I don't want you, I never wanted you.You're fat, and ugly, and your personality stinks." He's told me all these things before when we were going out, so it wasn't anything new.
Well, I had a knife with me that night.In my pocket.And honestly I still would die for him, but I took it out, and put it to my throat, and said "Is this what you want? Because I will do it" and pressed it to my throat even harder, and I was really going to do it, when he grabbed my hand and told me to let go.I was hysterically crying at this point, and hyperventilating.He went into his house and told his grandmother what was going on, and had her call his parents (who live up the road, he lives with his grandma.) I ran out of the house, grabbed my car keys, and started walking down the driveway (I knew I couldn't drive right then) just to think a little bit, and get some air, and he came out and said "Hey, where are you going?" and came up behind me and grabbed my arm, and wouldn't let go, and I turned around, threw my keys and said "I'm not going to kill myself, I'm going for a walk, see, there is my keys! " And he wrapped his arms around me from behind, and wouldn't let go.He then pulled me to the ground (without hurting me, he fell on his back first, so I was on him) and held me there, with his arms wrapped around me tight, and very close to his body and would not let go till his parents arrived.
Now.I know the suicide thing was stupid, although I was really going to do it, and still would do anything for him, but I'm seeing therapy for it.The question is, if he didn't care about me, he wouldn't have..A) Kissed me goodbye before he left my house for good when he broke up with me, and B) Held me till his parents got there, even though I made it clear I was just going for a walk, and he wouldn't let go, am I right?
Because I talked to his grandma a couple days after and she said that he told her "Thanks for helping ------- Gram, if she went through with that, I wouldn't be able to live with myself, I didn't know what to do to help her."
I don't know.I'm so confused.Help.Someone.I need opinions.
Tags: suicide, help, opinion, love, miss, scared, dont, know, what, do
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He doesnt love you anymore. Im sorry but Id have told you anything you wanted to stop you killing yourself over me! Anything! Like I loved you, Id marry you or id have sex with you, ANYTHING so you wouldnt! And thats what he did.
Posted by an anonymous user on 12/28/2008 9:53:00 PM (Report abuse)
Dignigty?? Leave him alone and go find your happy. and maybe your dignity if you can get that back..
Posted by an anonymous user on 11/23/2008 5:36:00 PM (Report abuse)
It sounds to me like he wants out.
Or he is playing mind games.
Either way, he is being an ass.
To kill yourself (or act like you will, or to threaten it) is just ideotic. Its dramatic, and maybe, he's sick of the drama.
Just leave him alone. If you are constantly bothering him, he won't have a chance to miss you. Give him some space and time. Maybe he will come around.
He is only going to do what he wants to do, and nothing you say or do will change it. Maybe he just wants a little break. If you don't hear from him in a month, try to move on. He just isn't worth all this...
If it were me, I would have let him leave. I would let anyone have this kind of control over me, or use me like a slut. Good Luck!
Or he is playing mind games.
Either way, he is being an ass.
To kill yourself (or act like you will, or to threaten it) is just ideotic. Its dramatic, and maybe, he's sick of the drama.
Just leave him alone. If you are constantly bothering him, he won't have a chance to miss you. Give him some space and time. Maybe he will come around.
He is only going to do what he wants to do, and nothing you say or do will change it. Maybe he just wants a little break. If you don't hear from him in a month, try to move on. He just isn't worth all this...
If it were me, I would have let him leave. I would let anyone have this kind of control over me, or use me like a slut. Good Luck!
Posted by SPM82970 on 11/15/2008 2:22:00 AM (Report abuse)
I'm sorry to say this, but to me you sound kind of like a stalker.
If he doesn't want to work things out, then why would you want
to be with someone that doesn't want to be with you? He can't
change the way heart feeks. You have to make a leap forward and
let go. There is better for you out in this life, <3
If he doesn't want to work things out, then why would you want
to be with someone that doesn't want to be with you? He can't
change the way heart feeks. You have to make a leap forward and
let go. There is better for you out in this life, <3
Posted by karalovesyue on 11/15/2008 2:17:00 AM (Report abuse)
He doesn't care for you, that's the reality, I'm sorry. He only held you because he was scared that if you killed yourself/died he would never get over it and would have thought it was his own fault. But honestly, he only used you for sex. He only gave you two kisses to rationalize what he was doing, to make himself feel better for going to hurt you.
Reality sucks, but you deserve so much more.
Reality sucks, but you deserve so much more.
Posted by Penguin on 11/15/2008 1:25:00 AM (Report abuse)
You see, the thing is I've tried calling him. He won't answer the phone, or he'll tell his grandmother to tell me he isn't there. I've even gone to his house while he was there, and one time, he ignored me, and the other time, I talked to his grandma about it, and he came inside and said "are you leaving soon? I don't want to have to call the police on you."
It's so confusing.
It's so confusing.
Posted by an anonymous user on 11/14/2008 11:46:00 PM (Report abuse)
Hun ,
He obviously has feelings for you ,
But maybe he just feels that they aren't as great as they used to be.
And you can't hate him for that,
Feelings do change.
You just have to accept it and move on.
The reason he held you is because he cares.
Why don't you ask him about this ?
Guys are very complicated,
Maybe hes trying to make a point to you ?
The reason he probably kissed you goodbye was because
a) he didnt want to leave your relationship with yo to yelling at one another,
b) it was his last chance to kiss you goodbye, and he wll probably cherish it
there could also be other reasons behind the kiss.
But My suggestion is to just ask him.
ask him how he feels about the whole situation.
Maybe this time over the phone ?
good Luck !
x0-ily ♥
He obviously has feelings for you ,
But maybe he just feels that they aren't as great as they used to be.
And you can't hate him for that,
Feelings do change.
You just have to accept it and move on.
The reason he held you is because he cares.
Why don't you ask him about this ?
Guys are very complicated,
Maybe hes trying to make a point to you ?
The reason he probably kissed you goodbye was because
a) he didnt want to leave your relationship with yo to yelling at one another,
b) it was his last chance to kiss you goodbye, and he wll probably cherish it
there could also be other reasons behind the kiss.
But My suggestion is to just ask him.
ask him how he feels about the whole situation.
Maybe this time over the phone ?
good Luck !
x0-ily ♥
Posted by x0ily on 11/14/2008 11:37:00 PM (Report abuse)