I'm all grown up at 17
Posted by an anonymous user on 5/3/2008 6:23:00 PM
Both my parents are alcoholics, my father also has lung cancer. I have a younger sister who is 11, and I often find that I am more of a parent than they are. I think it's extremely unfair that at 17 I cook every meal, do the laundry, pick up after the dogs, clean the house, go to school, maintain a job (I've been working since I was 13 - mostly because I don't enjoy being at home), and fill out college applications. I worry that when I leave to go to college my sister won't be ok. Not because my parents are abusive or anything, but because they are neglictful. I resent them for that and for the fact that my future has to wait, or be put off completely, because they are too stubborn to admit they have an addiction that has not only taken over their lives, but mine and my sister's as well.
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IF YOUR THAT WORRIED ABOUT LEAVING YOUR SISTER IN AN ENVIRONMENT LIKE THAT, THAN DO THE RIGHT THING BY YOUR SISTER AND FIND SOMEONE YOU CAN TRUST TO HELP. IF YOU DON'T KNOW ANYONE, GET HELP FROM YOUR LOCAL DEPARTMENT OF HUMAN SERVICE OFFICE OR A LOCAL AGENCY. I KNOW THAT MAY BE HARD FOR YOU TO DO BUT FOR YOUR SISTER IT MAY BE THE BEST!
Posted by ME on 5/8/2008 11:25:00 PM (Report abuse)
I'm a young carer like you and I totally get that you resent being forced to miss out on all the usual teenage things. Going to college will be like getting back in touch with yourself (I know- I'm in my first year of uni) and I know you're worried about your family but you may find that when you're gone they are forced to start relying on themselves a bit more- my dad and brothers certainly have. For the present, all I can suggest is that you let your school know of your situation (Mine were very supportive) and get in contact with a Carers organisation who will support you and help you work out what happens to your family when you go off to university. Chin up, best of luck and feel free to drop me an email if you want to chat xxx
Posted by Downerh@roehampton.ac.uk on 5/5/2008 11:19:00 AM (Report abuse)
my dad was an alcholic and my mum left when i was about 14 so i had to do ALOT around the house. my dad sexual abused my sister and things got out of hand it was really bad but do u disscuss with a family friend they might be able to make your parents see what they are doing.
im not much help but try and get someone to talk to your parents.
xxx
im not much help but try and get someone to talk to your parents.
xxx
Posted by Vince on 5/4/2008 7:59:00 PM (Report abuse)
That whole situation sux ass. Don't you have any1 your sis could stay with? I agree that it's unfair, you've had to skip your childhood and take up their part, but as long as you learnt something the experience wasn't a waste.
I'm glad you turned out fine though. All things happen for a reason and you have fared well with all that happening around you. Unfortunately many persons go through that everyday.
Hope your sis does ok
I'm glad you turned out fine though. All things happen for a reason and you have fared well with all that happening around you. Unfortunately many persons go through that everyday.
Hope your sis does ok
Posted by Sum1 on 5/4/2008 5:47:00 PM (Report abuse)