I'm having an affair with my brother in law.
Posted by an anonymous user on 5/20/2008 3:48:00 PM
i''ve been with my boyfriend for 7 years, and during those 7 years i have been close to his brother in law. a year ago things got pretty crazy. my brother in law & I talked, started meeting behind his wife & my boyfriend's back. nothing physical other than hand holding & hugs. we both admitted we were in love with each other. he moved out of his house & I moved out of mine, we both had our own seperate places and no one knew that the 2 of us were still talking, until it blew up in our faces and our partners found out. we both admitted that we had been talking and were close. neither believe that there was no sex involved even though there wasn't. both of us went back to our homes and tried to make it work with our partners, of course they told us not to talk or see each other. I have never forgot about him or the times we have shared. out of the blue he starts calling again and now wants to meet me. of course this is behind our partners back again. i just can't say no i still love him. i'm afraid that this time it could turn sexually. we have both said since we were accused of it, we might as well do it.
help.
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I'm in the same situation, only it's my sisters husband. We were together years before and our family found out and we stopped. Now recently we've started things up again. I don't know what to do either. I just wanted to let you know that you aren't the only person in a bad situation like this.
Posted by an anonymous user on 10/7/2008 9:53:00 PM (Report abuse)
i was and am in the same situation, we would just sit and talk together even if it was about nothing, we grew incredibly close he became my best friend and i his. we tried hard to fight the temptation of sex after all he was our best man at our wedding which was about four years before not to mention a virgin. but circumstances changed and he came to live with us temporarily, and one night after some drinks i wanted to give him some thing special. i was madly in love with him and still am, we had sex that night and it was just suppose to be a one time thing a present of my love to him, some thing that would of connected us together in love. but once you give in to temptation it never stops. it is easy to give critisism to some one when you have never been in their shoes. but life is some thing that you only live once, and living in regret whether it be some thing you did do or didnt do. you plan your own future. i havent even figured out mine, i am still with my husband and i feel i couldnt leave him, but my heart is with his brother.and he is the one that i only want to be physical with. and the one that only seems to satisfy me. the only advice i have is to remember that you arent the only one to think of and is this secret relationship worth ruining the relationship of two brothers. but either way my heart goes out to you. you arent alone
Posted by Love x2 in virginia on 7/3/2008 10:59:00 PM (Report abuse)
If you really love your brother in law, then really search your heart to ensure he is the right person for you because you will hurt his family and cause a feud between the brothers. But it is your life and if you love him then your heart will tell you. Life is too short and it is hard to find the right person and especially to find real love. If you have feelings for your brother in law then it must not be right with your partner. I am in the same situation, I am in love with my brother in law and living with him. I know morally it is wrong, but I know in my heart that he is my soul partner. I knew him before my ex husband and did not see him during the time I was married, because he emigrated. Therefore, it was easier for me to disattach from the family relations. Go with your heart, you will know if it is the right thing to do, because you have to put your happiness first, because I was in an abusive relationship and was unhappy. This is the first time I have found true love.
Posted by Belinda on 5/22/2008 4:56:00 AM (Report abuse)
I was in the same situation, we both did not have anyone that we were committed to on the other hand, but we were extremely close had an emotional connection that we both really needed at the time that no one else knew how to fill. It did end up turning into something more which is what i think that will happen if you go ahead and see the brother in law. So my statement to you is that if you really love your boyfriend and he really loves his wife dont go ahead with it and dont meet up with him again... Cuz it will turn into something, and it will eventually get into soemthing that will be extremely hard to get out of even as much as you may want to.. And will come back to blow up in your face again, cuz there is that trail. It wont ever be able to be a secret forever, ever more so now that they all know about it :) good luck with what ever you choose hun!
Posted by I understand.. on 5/21/2008 1:57:00 PM (Report abuse)