ive had a secret lover for 10 months now and im married, but im in love with my lover. is it so wrong for this to happen. i find myself fantisizing all the time about him. i only see him once or twice a month. i want to be around him all the time but i cant. i have never cheated before and this is all new to me, and the reason i cheated is b cuz at the time my husband and i were contiplating a divorce, but something happened to where we decided against it. anyway does this make me a slut or a bad person for falling in love with my lover? my lover doesnt know yet that im in love with with him yet. anyone...please i need advice bad...help!