In a serious relationship to a married guy
Posted by bri on 12/24/2007 9:08:00 AM
I met him in the office where i work now. He's my senior. At first, we were just friends and colleagues, not more. When i met him, I was in a relationship with an English guy, and he's married, of course. One day, I broke up with the English guy and my days at office were bad, i was awfull. He found out this weirdness in me. And the conversation just flowed. day by day, we got closer and fell in love. he's already got a daughter who is 14 months old now. We are in a serious relationship, we date and spend a lot of time together.we are so much in love and have a commitment. but surely i have conscience. i feel guilty, sad, and messed up when i think i'm not loving a single man. It hurts so much in me.but on the other side i love him so much and so does he. I believe this by what we've been through. I've tried to get over him and walked away from him (when we fought) but at the end everything went fine, we apologized and stay together again. I'm actually in a big dilemma. He said he is ready for what will happen because of our secret relationship.but still i'm in a big big dilemma.
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I had a relationship for 15 years with a married man and the last two years of it, i lost all feelings for him maybe because i needed him so most of the times and he had to go, he didnt let me feel like i was loved, and in the end he took me to the store and his wife saw us together and they broke up, now all along i was begging him to come my way an dhe said no becasue his wife is the one who earns the money, now his wfie left him when we are on the rocks and i ended it too, now he blames me for not accepting him in my life.
My point is, why does it haev to ebe when she leaves him now that he wants to stick with me and oh, he has nothing now, no money nothing at all, his wife has been taking care of him all along....tell me someone if i should take him in.
My point is, why does it haev to ebe when she leaves him now that he wants to stick with me and oh, he has nothing now, no money nothing at all, his wife has been taking care of him all along....tell me someone if i should take him in.
Posted by Ann on 4/9/2008 3:14:00 PM (Report abuse)
we are in the same world my dear...i tried to stop this craziness, but the more you try the more your love grows to this man..i almost lost my friends and career but at the end of the day what matters most is your happiness..i thought of this several times and i end up to this married guy...our probem is that we've been hurt before..and now we are longing for the love where we found it to the married man..trust me..it's not easy...because the world will curse us...but for me, i just keep on going,when the problem comes, then..i will just crossed the bridge when i get there...
Posted by Hanie on 2/5/2008 1:13:00 PM (Report abuse)
Girlfriend, you are in for a bittersweet heart wrenching catastrophe! My first husband and I had an affair and we worked together and he had a 16 month old daughter. Even though he did leave his wife for me, because someone called and told her we were having an affair, it took him 3 years to get around to marrying me after putting me through hell and I put up with it because I thought I loved him. After we got married I never trusted him and he wouldn't do all the things I wanted as a wife and husband, because he'd already done them.
I had several relationships with married men and after years of therapy realized the problem wasn't that I met all the wrongs guys, the problem was that I was afraid of commitment. I also discovered that being the youngest of 4 girls, my dad walked out on my mom when I was 3 and he was my world. He left for the other woman. So unconsciously I became, the other woman. You need to take a look at yourself and get into some therapy about why you feel you need to settle for less than you deserve! You deserve to have a relationship, A WHOLE relationship, not just convenient sex and stolen moments. Yes, it seems romantic. Yes you may be one of the one's that get's lucky and he'll leave her for you. But there is a whole shit load of crap that comes with that. Trust me. I know. It took me 35 years to figure it out! Seek help before your heart and self esteem are completely destroyed.
Concerned in Seattle
I had several relationships with married men and after years of therapy realized the problem wasn't that I met all the wrongs guys, the problem was that I was afraid of commitment. I also discovered that being the youngest of 4 girls, my dad walked out on my mom when I was 3 and he was my world. He left for the other woman. So unconsciously I became, the other woman. You need to take a look at yourself and get into some therapy about why you feel you need to settle for less than you deserve! You deserve to have a relationship, A WHOLE relationship, not just convenient sex and stolen moments. Yes, it seems romantic. Yes you may be one of the one's that get's lucky and he'll leave her for you. But there is a whole shit load of crap that comes with that. Trust me. I know. It took me 35 years to figure it out! Seek help before your heart and self esteem are completely destroyed.
Concerned in Seattle
Posted by Concerned in Seattle on 1/17/2008 10:52:00 PM (Report abuse)
well..what should i say...moraly your conscience may be right.but love doesn't depend on morality.it has nothing to do with morality.anyway you look at this somebody will be hurt.u have to stay true to yourself,and dont regret a thing.if u are trully in love u will succed through this hardship.dont think about the greater good.love is selfish.and u know,my parents stayed together for me and my sis.belive a enviroment without love isn't the best enviroment for growing up.if they dont love each other anymore they will finally break up with or without your involvement.
Posted by AERYN13 on 1/2/2008 8:53:00 AM (Report abuse)