Lost Love is an Undying Love
Posted by FindDaveMatthews on 8/21/2008 1:30:00 AM
I am still in love with someone else.
He is my soulmate and sometimes I feel lost without him.
We broke up over 8 years ago.
I am married to another and will never betray my husband. I love my husband so much, and will not act on any of my thoughts. It kills me that I still have these feelings for another. It is my secret that I occasionally cry myself to sleep at night. That I am still in love with someone else.
I still miss him so incredibly much, after all these years.
And he still takes my breathe away.
Some days I wonder if I'll ever get over him. Sometimes, I think I married too soon after we broke up.
He recently married, and it makes my heart ache.
I know this is how it will be.
This is the way life is.
But how do you stop loving someone that you know you will never have? How do you tell your heart to stop?
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He is my soulmate and sometimes I feel lost without him.
We broke up over 8 years ago.
I am married to another and will never betray my husband. I love my husband so much, and will not act on any of my thoughts. It kills me that I still have these feelings for another. It is my secret that I occasionally cry myself to sleep at night. That I am still in love with someone else.
I still miss him so incredibly much, after all these years.
And he still takes my breathe away.
Some days I wonder if I'll ever get over him. Sometimes, I think I married too soon after we broke up.
He recently married, and it makes my heart ache.
I know this is how it will be.
This is the way life is.
But how do you stop loving someone that you know you will never have? How do you tell your heart to stop?
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I lost my fiance nine years ago. I began dating a man 8 years ago who had lost his wife (Whom he felt iwas his soul mate). It seemed that he could not make a commitment to me even though we have great time together but i believe it is because of the love he had for his dead wife. His refusal to move the pictures of his wife from his walls is a clear indication. He says it is because of his son. I gave up on the relationship knowing that i still love him but it was because there were times that i did not feel loved by him.
Its been two months and he has now sold the home and begged me to come back in his life and marry him. I know that i love him but i also know why i left.
The hurt of feeling that he is in love with someone else is not easy to bear ....the worse feeling is that she is a dead woman.
I am not sure.
Its been two months and he has now sold the home and begged me to come back in his life and marry him. I know that i love him but i also know why i left.
The hurt of feeling that he is in love with someone else is not easy to bear ....the worse feeling is that she is a dead woman.
I am not sure.
Posted by an anonymous user on 9/30/2008 12:27:00 AM (Report abuse)
I can only tell you that this is a dangerous road to take. I recently had the chance to reconnect with my former love, whom i have loved above all for the past 20 years. We broke up 17 years ago and since then we've both moved on with our lives. He married and had children and so did i. I always every single day thought of him and held my love for him secretly. A little more than 13 years ago he entered the Navy and moved out of state. I thought for sure this was the end completely and had somewhat learned to just accept that fate takes us in different directions than what we always imagined. But i can tell you this, there is a reason for everything. I held on to my love for him, and he held on to his love for me.....and there had to be a reason. Sure we were capable of going on with our lives.....but little did we know it was only each of us playing through the motions of life and not being true to ourselves. When we met up again some 16 years later....EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THOSE OLD FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS flooded over both of us. We realized we were still in love and in fact just made to be together.
I am still dealing with the aftermath of it all, as he is. We both choose the lives we did, and unless we are both selfish we can't deny that and just walk away and live happily ever after. After almost 15 years of marriage both of our spouses are completely blindsighted that they never saw this coming. And we have turned our families upside down. I now feel like the most horrible person knowing that the one thing that makes me so completely happy makes me makes me so miserable. It definitely is a high price to pay, but in the next breath, i never stopped loving him and there had to be a reason for that. The choice we have now is either to continue doing what we are doing or just realize that although we may still be in love.... it may be too high of a price to pay.
I am still dealing with the aftermath of it all, as he is. We both choose the lives we did, and unless we are both selfish we can't deny that and just walk away and live happily ever after. After almost 15 years of marriage both of our spouses are completely blindsighted that they never saw this coming. And we have turned our families upside down. I now feel like the most horrible person knowing that the one thing that makes me so completely happy makes me makes me so miserable. It definitely is a high price to pay, but in the next breath, i never stopped loving him and there had to be a reason for that. The choice we have now is either to continue doing what we are doing or just realize that although we may still be in love.... it may be too high of a price to pay.
Posted by an anonymous user on 9/15/2008 1:02:00 PM (Report abuse)
thats disgustingly sad.
im extremely worried that this is going to happen to me and ALL my friends.
SHIT!
im extremely worried that this is going to happen to me and ALL my friends.
SHIT!
Posted by an anonymous user on 8/21/2008 7:16:00 PM (Report abuse)
The past might have been beautiful thats why you still love him....its something that you will never forget and im assuming that you still remember the past, reason why you havent learned to let go...the love that u have will never go away, but its something you have to learn to control and completely hide....things happen for a reason, but for now be happy with your husband and learn to let go
Posted by lonelysilverette on 8/21/2008 1:58:00 PM (Report abuse)
Sometimes you have to think of moving on in a different persective.. dont think of it as a bad thing, think of it as something that will change your life, You are married and if you love him, you will always be happy with him.. and the other is also married meaning he is happy, take that if you have feelings for him let him be happy.. as well as yourself with your husband. as hard as it may be giving up/moving on will help you so much in your lfe, i understand it will be hard.. you hate the fact that you love another.. its hard to deal with but once you learn how to and ARE able to move on... things will only get better.
Posted by an anonymous user on 8/21/2008 4:48:00 AM (Report abuse)
Tell yourself that you love the past, but he could be changed by now and life goes on and you only have one life to live.
Posted by an anonymous user on 8/21/2008 4:40:00 AM (Report abuse)