My best friend had a baby and now i dont exist...

Well as the title says my best friend had a baby recently and now I practically dont exist.i hate that shit about people people.why does having a kid suddenly turn you into a different person.i understand that your kid will be first priority but when its to a point that b/c you have a kid and your friends dont that they are beneath you all of a sudden.i dont get it.its bullshit, I would never ignore my friends like that and even if I am busy I would call them back later on or hang out later on.people dont have to forget their friends just b/c of it.i know other friends with kids and they are not like that at all, they still go out and have a life outside the kid and with the kid, they have balance.

we have been friends for over 15 years and throughout all that time we have always gone out a lot and talk on the phone for hours damn near every day.well when she first got married to her husband (well I should say meal ticket b/c she only married him for his money) she was kinda the same and it took a long time for her to get back to a point where we would hang out again and chat on the phone.i dont know, maybe after a while we might talk on the phone again like normal and hang out again but when it comes to a kid things get more serious.i dont know if this could be what ends the friendship.i hope not.

and before anyone comments about how she might be busy with the baby (i know people can be) let me assure you that she is not that busy.this girl literally does almost nothing.she has not worked in years b/c hubby takes care of her.she does not even take care of her place (cleaning, cooking, etc).all she has done for years is spend his money.and not to mention that her mom lives with her and does practically all of the work as far as taking care of the house and some of the work with the baby.

i am just wondering who else out there has gone through this same kind of thing and what did you do/what happened to the friendship?
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BeachGirl79
i have tried to get closer to her. of course i would, she is my best friend. the issue is her. everytime i have invited her out (i know she probably wouldnt with the new baby but i'm being nice) she doesnt want to go out. everytime i offered to go to see her at her place so that she doesnt have to go out she doesnt want me to come over, even if i am in her area. if i offer to babysit to give her a break she doesnt want me to. since her mom lives with her her mom is the only one she lets watch her kid if she has to step out. anytime i offer to take her out to a park or something with the baby she doesnt want to. she barely even wants to talk on the phone with me anymore. most of what we have done since the baby was born last month was text on the phone and she wont even do that too much with me lately. i am trying but she doesnt seem to care right. i think theres another issue but nothing i can do if she wont talk to me. i have let her know that i am always here for her but it is frustrating right now. well whatever i'll be here when she needs me but i sure as hell am not just gonna sit and wait around for her. i have a life also and i plan to live it, i just hope she'll still be a part of it.
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BeachGirl79
Why dont you try to get closer with her......who knows what's wrong maybe she needs you or she just cant find the right time to fix her problems......and yes she has a new life now but that doesnt mean that she forgot you and yr 15 years friendship........think it
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