My Boyfriend. (Help please) :(
Posted by Jotiii on 7/28/2008 3:41:00 PM
He does drugs. Around his area, everyone does. He did stop taking them, and recently he started again - he acts like its not a big deal at all. I base my days around his phonecalls, and today when he called he was acting like a dick, because he'd taken weed. He doesn't even know he acts differently. I hate the way he treats me, calling me a bitch and a slag, but apologising a few minutes after. I can't believe i put up with that shit, i do have the strongest urge to put down the phone, it gets me really angry. But, i love him. He texted me after apologising. But i know he won't stop taking drugs... i asked him, "why did you start taking drugs again?", and his reply was "'cause i wanted to, so what? I'm still the same person, it doesn't make me any different". I hate the way he can say things like that. Implying that if i care about the fact that he's doing drugs, then i'm not accepting him for who he is. Bullshit. I don't want him to mess his life up, but drugs and violence are so normal to him. Basically, i need help on convincing someone not to do drugs. He doesn't see any consequences, all his friends do them and encourage him to aswell - but i don't give a shit about those ignorant pricks. I'm not going to put up with being treated like shit, but i know that's not what he's really like. The idiot, when will he realize he means everything to me?! Ugh. I need a compelling anti-drug talk, help please? And thank you :)
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It will be hard but believe me it will be worth. Best of luck to you!
Posted by Samething on 8/5/2008 12:15:00 PM (Report abuse)
You're right, i need to start thinking about myself more. Revelation! Haha, its gonna be hard, but thankss for the advice. :)
Posted by Joti on 8/2/2008 8:52:00 AM (Report abuse)
I hope everything works out for the both of you. But as I always do, I try to look out for myself first (I know it may sound selfish but!!) Even though you love him and can not picture yourself without him, try to imagine what it would be like if he went to jail and then who would you have? Not him because he can't be there for you right? All I have to say is, good luck to you and to him! Hpefully everything works out the way it is suppose to and I hope your happy! Just always look out for yourself first okay!
Posted by Samething on 8/1/2008 11:55:00 AM (Report abuse)
i had the EXACT SAME PROBLEM, it felt like I was the one who typed it.
Posted by Nobody on 8/1/2008 1:45:00 AM (Report abuse)
I took your advice and threated to end the relationship.
My final point to him - "don't do drugs again."
him - "okay i won't, i promise. I'm sorry."
Although, all this after the huge incident.
Thankfully (well, hopefully) he's lost the police.
The exact day after i posted this, he was out with his 21 year old, drug selling friend (my boyfriend is only 16), at the location where all the drugs are stashed.
The police caught him, there were violent fights, he ran, his friend was shot in the ankle
he was almost shot in the head.
he managed to get away from the police in the end, although it was broadcasted for the public to be on the look out for an individual with his features
He has court for an entirely different reason on Sunday.
If this topic somehow manages to turn up, he's screwed.
He's not the slightest bit worried yet, though. It takes something huge to happen before he's scared.
He's a good guy, i just pray he won't be taken away from me
Feels better getting that all out lol :)
thank you for your advice!
My final point to him - "don't do drugs again."
him - "okay i won't, i promise. I'm sorry."
Although, all this after the huge incident.
Thankfully (well, hopefully) he's lost the police.
The exact day after i posted this, he was out with his 21 year old, drug selling friend (my boyfriend is only 16), at the location where all the drugs are stashed.
The police caught him, there were violent fights, he ran, his friend was shot in the ankle
he was almost shot in the head.
he managed to get away from the police in the end, although it was broadcasted for the public to be on the look out for an individual with his features
He has court for an entirely different reason on Sunday.
If this topic somehow manages to turn up, he's screwed.
He's not the slightest bit worried yet, though. It takes something huge to happen before he's scared.
He's a good guy, i just pray he won't be taken away from me
Feels better getting that all out lol :)
thank you for your advice!
Posted by Joti on 7/31/2008 5:01:00 PM (Report abuse)
IS it more then weed though. Because if it is then I would definately let you know that you need to put your needs before him. I am sorry to hear that he might be going to Jail though! It is not fair for you!
Posted by Samething on 7/30/2008 3:15:00 PM (Report abuse)
It's too late... he might go to jail now. Wow. :| :(
Posted by Jotiii on 7/30/2008 6:20:00 AM (Report abuse)
If you are going to threaten to break up over this issue, go through with it because then he will realise how much you actually mean to him and he will, hopefully, stop doing drugs and come back to you. And if he doesn't then he is not worth your time. My boyfriend does weed as well and as much as i love him, I put my foot down with this subject and then he begins to realise what he is going to lose if he continues it. Hope t all works out!
Posted by Samething on 7/29/2008 10:00:00 AM (Report abuse)
I really don't know what you can do. You can threaten to end your relationship with him if he doesn't quit. Maybe that'll work.
Posted by Bliss on 7/28/2008 10:58:00 PM (Report abuse)