My boyfriend
Posted by an anonymous user on 6/10/2008 11:40:00 PM
i love my boyfriend so much.
i recently turned 15 and he has been 18 since january.
we have been together for only 4 monthes but they have been the best four monthes of my life. and he agrees. we have completely fallen in love with eachother. we have allready accepted eachtoehrs flaws and gotten over that obstacle. we have had our fights but we always recover from them. our love is extremely strong. he has already met basically all my family and i have already met basically all of his. we stay over at eachtohers houses quite often and hang out often too. i have three best friends and one of them also found the love of there life so they understand. the other two have boyfriends, but they arent as serious. anyways the point is...
my boyfriend is graduating next year. and i know a year seems like so far away, but it actually isnt. its so fucking close. is it absolutley sick of me to not want him to go away to college and get the best education possible??? i want him to marry me, and go to a community college close to where we are. we were talking about this and he said he wants to get married too, but he also wants to go to a good college. i got so upset when he said that. how could he want to be away from me for either 2 or 4 years depending on what he choses?!??! that is SUCH a long time, idk how we'll be able to live w/o eachtoher. what he said was that our love is strong and we will be able to get through it because we have such a good relationship. i know we can get through but idk if i can get through it w/o going insane. you dont understand...ill miss him so much! i was tlaking to my mom, and she said she would sign the marriage papers for when he graduates (my mom had me at 21 with a random fling, ive never known my dad and she remarried and had five other kids. they are 11, 5, 2, and 3 monthes. ive been independant pretty much my whole life) but anyways she also thinks that Bailey (that's my boyfriend) should go to a good school too. i asked my mom if she would let me move to where he went, get my GED and graduate early and start college and she said no because i only am a b+ - c student and probably wouldnt pass my test for a GED. she also doesnt want me starting college early. and also bailey thinks getting my GED is a good idea but like thats not going to happen my mom said she wouldnt let me. so i guess this is a little bit away but i still really worry about it because now whenever im with bailey i think "oh at this time next year he'll be leaving" and ill get so sad. i tell him this and he just like kisses me and tells me that it is the future and i should focus on the present, and have a good time w/ him now which is true, but it is just really hard for me.
the question really is, is it horrible to want him to stay here and not get as good of an education? please give me advice here...i want the good, the bad, and the ugly.
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i recently turned 15 and he has been 18 since january.
we have been together for only 4 monthes but they have been the best four monthes of my life. and he agrees. we have completely fallen in love with eachother. we have allready accepted eachtoehrs flaws and gotten over that obstacle. we have had our fights but we always recover from them. our love is extremely strong. he has already met basically all my family and i have already met basically all of his. we stay over at eachtohers houses quite often and hang out often too. i have three best friends and one of them also found the love of there life so they understand. the other two have boyfriends, but they arent as serious. anyways the point is...
my boyfriend is graduating next year. and i know a year seems like so far away, but it actually isnt. its so fucking close. is it absolutley sick of me to not want him to go away to college and get the best education possible??? i want him to marry me, and go to a community college close to where we are. we were talking about this and he said he wants to get married too, but he also wants to go to a good college. i got so upset when he said that. how could he want to be away from me for either 2 or 4 years depending on what he choses?!??! that is SUCH a long time, idk how we'll be able to live w/o eachtoher. what he said was that our love is strong and we will be able to get through it because we have such a good relationship. i know we can get through but idk if i can get through it w/o going insane. you dont understand...ill miss him so much! i was tlaking to my mom, and she said she would sign the marriage papers for when he graduates (my mom had me at 21 with a random fling, ive never known my dad and she remarried and had five other kids. they are 11, 5, 2, and 3 monthes. ive been independant pretty much my whole life) but anyways she also thinks that Bailey (that's my boyfriend) should go to a good school too. i asked my mom if she would let me move to where he went, get my GED and graduate early and start college and she said no because i only am a b+ - c student and probably wouldnt pass my test for a GED. she also doesnt want me starting college early. and also bailey thinks getting my GED is a good idea but like thats not going to happen my mom said she wouldnt let me. so i guess this is a little bit away but i still really worry about it because now whenever im with bailey i think "oh at this time next year he'll be leaving" and ill get so sad. i tell him this and he just like kisses me and tells me that it is the future and i should focus on the present, and have a good time w/ him now which is true, but it is just really hard for me.
the question really is, is it horrible to want him to stay here and not get as good of an education? please give me advice here...i want the good, the bad, and the ugly.
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Heather is right.. You claim to love him enough to marry him.. Having a serious relationship is about making sacrifices. If this is meant to be it will. If you guys want to have a good future, and be financialy stable he needs to go to school. He is going to college not moving across the country for no reason. My boyfriend is in the miltary I get to see him every 6 months if i am lucky depending on how long they want to keep him this time on his deployment. Your still very young live your life and let him live his. You guys will come out a stronger couple because of it too.
Posted by Caela on 6/12/2008 2:01:00 PM (Report abuse)
i was in love like that...but one really bad thing happened and he was a jerk all through my high school years. now he wants me back but heck no. i realized that yes i loved him for 2 years so much that my heart hurt every day, but things didnt work out. marriage at 16 is dumb and should not be permitted. just get engaged. you dont even have money for a house, car, bills, divorce. you need to think about this before you do it. maybe think with your mind for a change.
Posted by Kk on 6/12/2008 11:46:00 AM (Report abuse)
in all honesty, its not exactly healthy to be thinking the way you are. its completely unfair to him for you to ask him to rearrange his entire college plans just so that you dont have to face the distance. he wants to go to school, and im sure he deserves it, and if you love him as much as you claim you wouldnt even think of asking him to give up his dream of going to a good college. him leaving doesnt mean youre going to end youre relationship, and it has nothing to do with you, so you taking it personally is completely wrong and, well, immature. sorry chick, but it has to be like this. he's not even breaking up with you...consider yourself lucky, there are worse things.
Posted by Heather on 6/11/2008 11:21:00 AM (Report abuse)