My dad touches me??

I think it started around when I was 11-12, my dad would show me lots of affection like kiss my cheeks alot, during that time, my mum was away in america for about 6 months and my dad would come into my room and tuck me in goodnight, but he would lie next to me and stroke my back and I didnt want him touching my front so I turned so my back faced him and his hands would go lower into my underwear just touching my butt but it wouldnt stay there for long and he never got further.
i think it stopped for a while and last year, he was away for half a year so I didnt have to deal with anything, altho I remember just before he left, he thought I was dieting and he told me it wasnt good because he said my breasts wouldnt grow and he went and touched them.
then when I went to see him on holiday, I was wearing a big tshirt for bed and he came in and felt up my chest under the duvet and I pushed him away and the next morning he told me he was sorry and hoped that I wasnt mad at him.
hes also really affectionate and I cant distinguish if its appropriate affection or bordering wrong affection and I cant go asking my friends because I guess I do feel that its wrong but I'm hoping someone will tell me that its normal behaviour so I wont feel so awful that this is happening cuz I really dont like it, the other day he rubbed his face on my hand and then licked it, and hes always hugging me from behind and kissing my neck.
this morning he came into my room when I was still in bed and gave me a back rub and then suddenly his other hand touched my breast and I pushed him off and he said he wanted to feel them to see how big they were and I said no so he kind of tried again and his hand that was on my back tried to get at my breast from there but I blocked him with my arm and then he stopped and kissed me cheek and went to work
i really dont know what to do, pleeease tell me that its not that bad, I cant tell my mum because I just cant, and I dont want my family to split up, I dont want to get conselling or for it to get out, I just want it to stop.argh.its so messed up.and I'm doing my gcse's this year, and I CANT fail them, otherwise i'll never get into a good university and get away from here.maybe ill just put up with it for another 2 years? and dont get me wrong, I do love my dad, but I just want him to stop it, it sounds worse written down than it is in my head and he hasnt touched me down there or anything like that so maybe its nothing??
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chellzey
Tell *A* Adult like your teacher but not your mom. Maybe your teacher can help you with this, like my teacher did when my father slapped me every night on the butt and I would say stop and he would say its okay hunny just don't tell your mother or I will hit you so hard you will never forget it.
It is most definitely "something" It is sexual abuse. I dated a girl who had been molested by her stepfather between the ages of 12-16 and it severely messed up many aspects of her life because she never had dealt with it properly. Tell an adult. it is NOT ok. i hope everything works out for you
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psykokinetic
I know you don't wanna tell your mom but, you keep it in and it will get worse everyday . PLEASE TELL AN ADULT
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Stella187
It is something. The only reason a dad should touch you is when you are a baby and he needs to take you out the bathtub and stuff and when we going to work ( kiss on cheek and a hug) if he touches your private parts tell your mom that exact day or something really bad could happen
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Stella187
Mine is the same idk what to do :(
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Sacha
You need to tell a adult immediatley.
An aunt, your mother, a school teacher, but most of importantly the police.
Your fathers actions are inapropriate and against the law.
Don't feel scared, you need to speak out!
I hope everything goes okay for you.

<3
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Love
You need to get help.

i understand you don't want your family to split up but pretending every things okay isn't good.

It's like your falling apart and everyone is having a good time.

so you hold it in and thoughts run into your head if they're catching on and you

try so hard not to cry out!!!


it will come out eventually just tell someone before this gets worse.

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France
I think the best thing that you can do is to sit down and talk to him. Explain that you are very uncomfortable with that kind of touching and that whether or not he thinks it's appropriate, you don't.

Tell him the same thing you told us: that you don't want to have to tell your mom or teachers, you don't want counseling and you don't want to break up the family you just want it to stop. I'm pretty sure that if you put it to him that way he will stop.

Once he realizes that you can and will do something about it if he does not stop he will realize how much he stands to lose if you did say something.

Just don't back down, say exactly that and don't let him try to convince you otherwise.
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