Not married, have 3 kids and like someone else
Posted by cantdecide29 on 9/3/2008 4:34:00 PM
I have been with my boyfriend for almost 7 years.I moved in with him 1 month after we met.after 5 years we had 3 children that range from 1-3.i love him but not in love with him.i dont know how to leave him.in a way I want to and in another way not.im the only one in the house working and his mom takes care of the kids.he has not worked in over 2 years and all he does is go fishing and out with his friends and maybe once in a blue moon, take care of the kids.he trys to make money here and there but it still does not cut it.
I recently just met someone.he is everything you could possibly want in a person.he is willing to except all 3 of my children.i just dont know how to leave the one that I'm with.its hard.this guy is all that I have ever known and my first everything.i keep asking myself why cant I leave him? his family is pushing us to get married and I just dont want to.he does and I dont.any advice would help.
thanks!
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I recently just met someone.he is everything you could possibly want in a person.he is willing to except all 3 of my children.i just dont know how to leave the one that I'm with.its hard.this guy is all that I have ever known and my first everything.i keep asking myself why cant I leave him? his family is pushing us to get married and I just dont want to.he does and I dont.any advice would help.
thanks!
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well, first, make a list of pros and cons about him. what you like and what you don't like. then, you can show him the list if you want or just talk to him about what you like and don't like about him. give him some time to try to change, get a job and pay more attention to the kids, etc. if he doesn't, then you should just leave him. don't enter a marriage when you aren't happy with it in the first place. but don't end a relationship if you haven't tried to repair it either :)
it shouldn't be that hard to leave him.. you'll just have to move out and say "i want to break up, i'm not happy". gather up the courage and just do it. unless you can convince him to leave while you keep the place you have, so you don't have to move all of your stuff and all your kids stuff. but if it comes to that, i guess you have no choice. just find another place to live and move out. then you might want to start the child support process because i heard that takes a while to come into effect to the point where they automatically take money from his paycheck (he'll be forced to get a job anyway!)
good luck
it shouldn't be that hard to leave him.. you'll just have to move out and say "i want to break up, i'm not happy". gather up the courage and just do it. unless you can convince him to leave while you keep the place you have, so you don't have to move all of your stuff and all your kids stuff. but if it comes to that, i guess you have no choice. just find another place to live and move out. then you might want to start the child support process because i heard that takes a while to come into effect to the point where they automatically take money from his paycheck (he'll be forced to get a job anyway!)
good luck
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