Pregnant by a married man
Posted by screwedupgirl on 9/16/2008 7:05:00 PM
I've been friends with this man for 16+ years, we have been good friends and always there was something else there but the timing never worked.Before he got engaged he asked me to go somewhere with him for we could see what would happen, I never did.For over 3 years I have been in love with this man and thought staying away was best but we kept tring to remain friend.Our feelings came out and we had an affair prior to him getting married.We stayed away from eachother for a few months but stupidly slept together again after he was married.I now find myself pregnant and just want out of this mess but an abortion is not in the cards for me.I told him that my wishes are for this to be kept a secret and that I could do this on my own.I don't want him to ruin his life and I just want to move on with mine without everyone finding out the truth.I don't need people judging me on what I already judge myself very harshly.He wants me to get an abortion but if I chose not to then he wants to take responsiblity and tell everyone, that last thing I want.I feel so awful for ruining his life and at times what to just go ahead with the abortion so his life won't change but I don't think I can live with that.Is there anyone out there that knows what I'm going though and can give some helpful advice as I can not tell a sole and need help
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u tell that guy that he is a dooshe!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! he needs to help u with that baby!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! u both r very irisponsible!!!}=[ u both shud be ashamed of doing that ispecialy hiM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted by an anonymous user on 9/20/2008 11:05:00 AM (Report abuse)
If he wants to step up and be the father, you should let him. You have to think about the child that would grow up without a father when the father actually wants to be a part of it's life. Your child might resent you later for just running away. As a mother I know how much support you're going to need when that child is born. If you two love each other, there is no reason why you can't be together. Things might be hard with a divorce, but it won't ruin anyone's life. It's better for everyone to have the truth out in the open. It's secrets and lies that tear people apart eventually.
Posted by an anonymous user on 9/17/2008 8:30:00 AM (Report abuse)
You are not ruining his life, nor is he ruining yours. This pregnancy is just an unexpected chapter for you both. Is there any reason the two of you can't be together? It sounds like you are in love, so what's stopping you?
Just do what your heart tells you (lame as that sounds) but don't compromise your happiness
Just do what your heart tells you (lame as that sounds) but don't compromise your happiness
Posted by Lemonade on 9/17/2008 4:23:00 AM (Report abuse)
This isn't something that a stranger could tell you what you should do with your life. You need to understand yourself, what you truly want, and go from there.
As for the anonymous user's comment, it all just simply sums up to your own personal belief of when life begins and the morality of abortions.
People will know what you are going through, but each circumstance is different... and whether you take your own initiative or take someone else's advice is up to you.
I hope you find your own path to firmly walk on. (:
As for the anonymous user's comment, it all just simply sums up to your own personal belief of when life begins and the morality of abortions.
People will know what you are going through, but each circumstance is different... and whether you take your own initiative or take someone else's advice is up to you.
I hope you find your own path to firmly walk on. (:
Posted by Penguin on 9/17/2008 12:19:00 AM (Report abuse)
don't go through with the abortion ur just killing a child... if he wants to help then let him.. he made a mistake as well as u did.. and u both will have to live with it rather u like it or not. but don't kill the kid becuase of ur mistake becuase that is not right..
thats like saying ok i stole the money from the store i will send my kid to take the blame...
thats like saying ok i stole the money from the store i will send my kid to take the blame...
Posted by an anonymous user on 9/16/2008 7:49:00 PM (Report abuse)