Pregnant by married man, please don't judge me
Posted by an anonymous user on 11/10/2007 6:17:00 PM
I have been with this guy since 2005, it started out as a fling becuz im not the commited type, im focus on my career and i am a mother also, but as time went on he wantd something more while on the other hand i was content what we had, now let me say this when we first got 2gether he was not married, but as things progressed our fling transformed into a relationship and alot has happen throughout our relationship,(she)hiswife-has called me,we have had confrontations and this kinda relationship was a 1st for me,i love him but im not willing to do this to myself anymore and its apparent she loves him too, but now im pregnant and he wants me to have the baby saying he will be there every step of the way, i don't doubt that he want take care of his responsibility,but i don't want this KIND OF RELATIONSHIP,anymore! im tired and i have told him this but he won't listen and he tries to keep saying its all in my mind but i have these mixed feelings of aborting the baby because i don't want to deal with him and hoping if i do that he will leave me alone an i know thats selfish and not right, but i don't know what to do...its hard for me.
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im pregnant and i have no place to live
Posted by Daisy on 6/28/2008 7:13:00 PM (Report abuse)
well here's my update ppl, I am 5mths Im due in june and he is still around he comes to our dr's appts and just has been my rock through it all,we had our talk and he has backed up to give me my space which is good,but don't get it twisted i know im wrong but im not in this by myself and he is at fault also so to the jackass(billy the rapist) you can kiss my ass...anyway you dont know me to judge and also one never knows what they will do until you are in the situation so its easy to give out your 2 cents when you are not the one in the situation...but im happy with my decision and thanks anyway for all your advise.
Posted by I posted this secret. on 2/16/2008 10:50:00 PM (Report abuse)
bunch of fcking house wreckers fcking sluts keep ur legs closed stop fcking ppls lives u fcking trash
Posted by Billy the rapist on 1/31/2008 11:43:00 PM (Report abuse)
dont abort your baby i had a similiar situation and i kept my baby and that is the best decision i could have ever made. everyone makes mistakes and noone is perfect so learn from this relationship raise your baby and move on.
Posted by Ellynn on 1/11/2008 11:34:00 PM (Report abuse)
kk are u seeing someone who is married??
and has he got you pregnant??
k that is wrong if you have because he is already taken kk
now if someone had done that to me than i would not be happy but is he loved you more than he loved his wife that that is ok and you should say that me or you kk
you should always remember do what the married man wants kk
hope this can help you good luck
and good bye
and has he got you pregnant??
k that is wrong if you have because he is already taken kk
now if someone had done that to me than i would not be happy but is he loved you more than he loved his wife that that is ok and you should say that me or you kk
you should always remember do what the married man wants kk
hope this can help you good luck
and good bye
Posted by Me on 11/23/2007 12:01:00 PM (Report abuse)
Making this kind of life-changing decision is difficult. I would like to encourage you to do what your heart is telling you, not what your head is telling you. All obstacles, or perceived obstacles can be overcome by having the baby. But honestly, as the woman who posted this article can tell you...
http://www.secrettalk.com/secrets/i-had-an-abortion-when-i-was-17/14300081/
there is no going back after you decide to abort. You have to live with the feelings forever, regret, depression, guilt, sadness, loss. The physical, emotional, and psychological impact of abortion on you may be a worse consequence than facing ridicule for a brief time and then having your own child in your arms, a child from your own womb.
It's so difficult to think straight when your relationship with this man is also so muddled. But take a step back away from this man, who may or may not be in your life in six months, and think about you and your little one. The baby needs you.
After you make the decision about your baby, things will fall into place with this man. You can break off your relationship with him, and still have your baby. Don't use an abortion to 'get rid of him.' Certainly you can find a more humane way to get the man out of your life.
You will find peace. God bless you.
http://www.secrettalk.com/secrets/i-had-an-abortion-when-i-was-17/14300081/
there is no going back after you decide to abort. You have to live with the feelings forever, regret, depression, guilt, sadness, loss. The physical, emotional, and psychological impact of abortion on you may be a worse consequence than facing ridicule for a brief time and then having your own child in your arms, a child from your own womb.
It's so difficult to think straight when your relationship with this man is also so muddled. But take a step back away from this man, who may or may not be in your life in six months, and think about you and your little one. The baby needs you.
After you make the decision about your baby, things will fall into place with this man. You can break off your relationship with him, and still have your baby. Don't use an abortion to 'get rid of him.' Certainly you can find a more humane way to get the man out of your life.
You will find peace. God bless you.
Posted by DM on 11/20/2007 3:24:00 PM (Report abuse)
just don't abort!! life is far to precious to deny it to any one. being in such a relationship is wrong, but don't let anyone tell you that it makes YOU evil. No one on this planet has the right to judge you for your actions when we have all done such amounts of wrong ourselves. You must decide on what is right yourself and follow that course.
I pray for you,
keep safe and remember that there is one who loves you.
bye!
I pray for you,
keep safe and remember that there is one who loves you.
bye!
Posted by Him on 11/20/2007 5:47:00 AM (Report abuse)
here the 411 hes a playa but have the baby and dont let him see it if u dont want it to happen b tween u to get eit a steady guy and stay wit him oh ya get someone who has kids
Posted by Bj on 11/14/2007 7:39:00 AM (Report abuse)
First thing, this guys a HOUND DOG! What kind of guy is he sleeping with you & seriously dating someone else & getting married & still sleeping with you. Right there, he doesn't love you, he never will. Some guys cheat in a long relationship, they don't start b4 the relationship has evne started! What about his wife? She had to have known b4 they got married unless he proposed to her withing days of meeting. Kick him to the curb, don't abort the baby. You take care of your responsibility & get him outta your life. Shame on you to keep sleeping with this man while he's married - you could've kept your legs closed & said "NO!"
Posted by Tasha on 11/12/2007 3:01:00 PM (Report abuse)
hmmm serious trouble....u haven't mentioned your relationships with ur hubby...well both of u have seen alot...no matter what the feelings are the fact remains that you'd always be second woman in his life.if he loved ya so much why did he marry?and on your part it was selfish to have him when u have no plans to be serious with him.Now comes the baby.....abortion ain't a good idea...never coud bear with the thought of killing a tiny soul and that too a part of u....if you can give birth to the baby then do so but make it clear to him that you dun want him in yur life.Its hard but all right things are hard to do....
good luck.
good luck.
Posted by Gul on 11/11/2007 3:20:00 AM (Report abuse)