Pregnant by married man, please don't judge me

I have been with this guy since 2005, it started out as a fling becuz im not the commited type, im focus on my career and i am a mother also, but as time went on he wantd something more while on the other hand i was content what we had, now let me say this when we first got 2gether he was not married, but as things progressed our fling transformed into a relationship and alot has happen throughout our relationship,(she)hiswife-has called me,we have had confrontations and this kinda relationship was a 1st for me,i love him but im not willing to do this to myself anymore and its apparent she loves him too, but now im pregnant and he wants me to have the baby saying he will be there every step of the way, i don't doubt that he want take care of his responsibility,but i don't want this KIND OF RELATIONSHIP,anymore! im tired and i have told him this but he won't listen and he tries to keep saying its all in my mind but i have these mixed feelings of aborting the baby because i don't want to deal with him and hoping if i do that he will leave me alone an i know thats selfish and not right, but i don't know what to do...its hard for me.
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I've been with a married man for two years. He lied everything he said was a lie he told me he was getting a divorce and I believe him. I'm 20 weeks pregnant with twins. He had told me he was moving in with me as soon as his daughters wedding was over. I made arrangement for him to move in with me the Monday after his daughters wedding. She got married on Friday and Saturday he called me and said I need to tell you something in person right away. I was about to start work, I had to call in an hour late. Got to the fire station where he work. When I got there he told me he found out after the wedding he had feelings for his wife and that when she left that morning with the newlyweds he told her he Loved her. Wow I was in shock he didn't care about my pregnancy. I told him get out of my car. We argue and I couldn't go to work anymore so I had to call right away. He came to my apartment that evening and I recorded the conversation where he changed the story he said I love her like the mother of my kids and I Love you as my woman. Really I listen to whatever he had to say. He left and he came on Monday after work, I had a goodbye letter telling him what I really believed of him. I made him read the letter in front of me and then I told him go get all you things from my room and leave. When he got up to get his things I follow him and I close the door to the room and as he was gathering his things I called his wife and told her everything, she was 2000 miles away but she heard everything. We talked an she cleared everything I already knew. The following day I took everything he left behind to his work and ask him for my key and my cell phone since it was under my name and we said goodbye in a nicer way. He told me He loved Me. Two days went by when he came over to my house and said he couldn't live without me or our babies. She hasn't been back from Florida. I told him I don't want you anymore but he comes everyday and tells me he Loves me, will see if is true when she comes back.
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BettyML
your relationship sounds real familiar to mine, except we were together for 3 years and I also get calls from his wife time to time. I believe I'm pregnant but I am not sure so for now its a waiting game. I'm waiting a few more weeks for my period if I don't get one I will probley be getting pregnancy test done. The thing is he has been trying to get me pregnant because I had a tubaligation 13 years ago I never thought it would happen but now I am having a little scare. I love him and all but I did tell him that because of what he has done to his wife I could never trust him if we were together.
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LovingPennGirl