Question For Women:

Am I allowed to compliment you on your looks anymore? This isn't a troll question and in fact I won't even anonymize my name. Just curious because in the days of MeToo and Times Up, you have to tread carefully. If I comment on a woman's beauty, am I just reducing her to a sexual object? Is there any way to get around that generalization? Sometimes when I see a pretty girl, the first thing that comes to my lizard brain is to give her a compliment. But I feel like attractive women already know they're attractive and maybe they get sick of hearing it. Then again, it probably just depends on who's saying it: if it's Chris Hemsworth, I'm sure any woman would melt, but if it's some hobo off the street, nobody values that opinion. I don't know, too many things going through my head all at once. It's hard enough trying to relate to people without having to remember all these rules.
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EverydayNormalGuy
Asapsuicide, I know you're joking, but that's honestly the way society is making me feel these days. Like, I even have to question my own FEELINGS.

Thanks for the thoughtful answer, safety. I guess it depends on the woman. I never really felt like my sincerity was valued anyway.
No that's considered rape. When a man compliments a woman the only think on his mind is God I wish I was raping you right now
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Killmeplzasap
I personally appreciate compliments. I know that for example Ive seen my friends absolutely light up when a boy walked by and told her, "excuse me, but I just wanted to tell you you're really beautiful". I think qhen something is genuine most people won't be rude. I know every beautiful woman, really brushes the compliment off because they assume that people are just saying that etc. Even then, it's rare because like you said, people assume the person already knows they're beautiful. Which is rarely true. And honestly it IS appreciated when a man is thinking of these things. It shows that you're trying to understand. I think the right people will appreciate it. But just because some people don't, why deprive others of your warmth? But like mentikned before me, it always also feels nicer to feel seen for something about your personality or a kind act. Who you are. But if you dont know the oerson and all you see is what they look like, what else can a person do. As long as you arent vulgar, whistling or behaving in an indifferent entitled sort of way, i think people wont be offended.
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safetynetxo
"Just don't bother." Sounds like my life motto.

And thanks again for the pick-me-up, Cynic. I'm not getting anywhere here.
You can do it, but you'll come off like every other guy who does this, and the message translates the same to "hi, I'm shallow and superficial and like you for your looks first and foremost". It'd be better to either find something different to compliment (something that is her doing and choice and reflects her personality), or just don't bother.
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Mopy
Ooh lookit you! Being all feminist and sheeit! They shure gonna give you points for being all sensitive and sheeit! Maybe you get some p***y in return, I bet!



Gtfo.
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Cynic