Rape or not?
Posted by an anonymous user on 11/16/2008 7:40:00 PM
When my ex boyfriend and I went out...he woke up one morning and wanted to have sex.I told him that I didn't want to, and my birth control was making me extremely moody, so I started crying.He kept begging me "Come on baby, please, I want to have sex with you..please! " and I'm clearly crying, so I said "Go ahead, whatever just do whatever the hell you want." So he starts having sex with me, and I start hyperventilating and shaking and crying even harder, and obviously NOT enjoying it! ! ! So he stops and hes like "whats wrong" and I'm like "You should know! ! ! WHATEVER, JUST FUCKING FINISH" and he started going at it again, and when he finally came, he rolled over, and I'm in a ball at this point still crying, and hes like "I have to leave.I need to go."
Granted - he did come back 3 hours later and apologize, but isn't that in some form rape?
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Granted - he did come back 3 hours later and apologize, but isn't that in some form rape?
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Yes it IS, he knew fucking well you didnt want to do it, how DARE he? He clearly has no respect for you, my advice is t leave the bastard. Do you really want someone who cares so little about you touching you again?
People like that make me sick... Sorry, but I had a similiar experience. You should leave him, it's for the best.
People like that make me sick... Sorry, but I had a similiar experience. You should leave him, it's for the best.
Posted by an anonymous user on 12/28/2008 8:55:00 PM (Report abuse)
you could never get him done for it, you gave your consent.
Posted by an anonymous user on 12/17/2008 8:40:00 AM (Report abuse)
hey i went tthrought he same thing
i said no he insisted sooooooo much i was like wtf w.e u want....
if u did not enjoy it ... itsa rape.... even emotional abuse
i still get the crreps wen i have to go to do a pelvic exam
it stays in ur mind the fact tht he did not respect ur first answer....
even if u had said yes in the end he noes better thn to go on
so yes it is
i said no he insisted sooooooo much i was like wtf w.e u want....
if u did not enjoy it ... itsa rape.... even emotional abuse
i still get the crreps wen i have to go to do a pelvic exam
it stays in ur mind the fact tht he did not respect ur first answer....
even if u had said yes in the end he noes better thn to go on
so yes it is
Posted by angelfrom89 on 12/13/2008 12:29:00 AM (Report abuse)
Aaah yes. I've went through the same thing. And everytime after that he asked to have sex with me. I said no at first, but he got really pissed off and i said, fine whatever. lets fucking do it then. I never wanted to do anything like that with him. I never enjoyed it. EVER. It's rape and it makes you feel like shit. Yeah, you said "go ahead", but you never wanted to. I know how you feel and I'm very sorry this happened to you my dear.
Posted by peacelove17 on 12/1/2008 5:30:00 PM (Report abuse)
i mean it is a little unclear so go to the cops and tell them and they could give you the best responce
i hope your not together because he is an asshole, but you must remeber if you dont want to do something you have to be clear and say no
i hope your not together because he is an asshole, but you must remeber if you dont want to do something you have to be clear and say no
Posted by an anonymous user on 11/25/2008 10:49:00 PM (Report abuse)
you agreed to it so its technechly not rape
Posted by an anonymous user on 11/25/2008 9:27:00 AM (Report abuse)
its not rape you said go ahead.. he has your consent to have sex
Posted by crazyhorse on 11/18/2008 1:35:00 PM (Report abuse)
yea its deff rape bc you said no but what ever you waNT would mean no but boys are stupid!
Posted by an anonymous user on 11/17/2008 8:17:00 PM (Report abuse)
i dont know what country you are in, but if it is in australia then yes it is rape.
the australian law states, that even if you may have SAID yes at the time, if you had not conciously changed your mind from 'no' to 'yes' then it is rape.
consent is not what you say, but what you actually want.
the australian law states, that even if you may have SAID yes at the time, if you had not conciously changed your mind from 'no' to 'yes' then it is rape.
consent is not what you say, but what you actually want.
Posted by tenpastsix on 11/16/2008 11:45:00 PM (Report abuse)
By the way, say you decided to press charges for any reason, there is no doubt that you would win the case, unless he had a fantastic lawyer.
Posted by belle on 11/16/2008 11:37:00 PM (Report abuse)
Do not listen to that anonymous user. No, you didn't actually say "yes" or "no" but you said you were clearly NOT enjoying it. Your boyfriend should not have been so selfish enough to actually FINISH when you were hyperventilating and crying. I wouldn't say you were forcibly raped, but it obviously traumatized you and it was NOT right of him to do that.
Posted by belle on 11/16/2008 10:04:00 PM (Report abuse)
Unfortunately, no. This was not rape. Even though you didn't want to have sex you still told him yes. You're ex is a complete ass, but not a rapist.
Posted by an anonymous user on 11/16/2008 9:37:00 PM (Report abuse)
I was hysterically crying, and shaking uncontrollably.
Anyone with half a brain would know NOT to keep going.
Anyone with half a brain would know NOT to keep going.
Posted by an anonymous user on 11/16/2008 8:01:00 PM (Report abuse)
no...you told him to go ahead. you should've firmly said no if you didn't want to...
Posted by an anonymous user on 11/16/2008 7:43:00 PM (Report abuse)