Sex with my step daughter

Okay, I'm in a situation and need some advice please.

I've been married for 6 years.My wife is 41, I'm 34, and my step daughter is 19.Marriage with my wife isn't perfect, we have our ups and downs.At the same time, my step daughter and I have sort of a love/hate relationship.

When I tell her to do something she would blow me off.We would snap at each other.Trying to have a normal conversation with her is like pulling teeth because she didn't show any interest.For the most part she would ignore me.Even the few times we'd hug each other it didn't feel genuine.I figure it was just teen rebellion, and the fact that I wasn't her real dad, who she really didn't know well.

But there were good times too.I helped with her homework.I taught her how to drive.Gave her pointers about guys and dating.Played pranks on each other.I supported her at times when she and her mom were at odds.I was there for her when she needed me.But it was like she only knew me when she needed me for something.After that it was back to giving me the cold shoulder and distancing herself.I wanted to be more involved in her life, but I guess she wanted her space.

But lately she's changed.A few weeks ago she started wearing these short, tight sleeping outfits and ask me how she looked in them.She would give me these long hugs and kisses on the cheek and ask how my day was.She would try on different perfumes and get me to smell her neck.And just the other day I was watching TV in the living room, and my wife was at an appointment.And my step daughter comes in the living room wearing one of those short outfits and actually sat down on my lap, and she gave me one of those long hugs and kissed me on the cheek.And she said something like "why don't me and you have fun like you do with my mom" or something like that.I couldn't help but feel she was referring to sex, and it was exciting me, but I was also scared and didn't know how to react.I just told her I didn't feel well and she went back to her room.

Yes I admit she's an attractive young woman.But I just don't understand her change in behavior.Have any stepdads out there experienced this, where your step daughter is cold towards you at first, and suddenly she's all over you? Maybe there's a step daughter out there who's been through this as well?

If you don't want to reply here, just email me privately at mikejameson54(at)yahoo(dot)com.I'm just confused and need help figuring out what's going on.Thanks.
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mike54
U were one of the lucky ones i wasn't i did eventually have an affair but worse off daughter was 15 so it went to court i was looking at 25 to life cost me 5000 rand a trial we managed to get my daughter to pull the case back as she was now 17 it took a lot of hard work since the case was closed in 2010 with my step daughter and my wife my daughter wanted me to walk her down the ile last month when she got married i was to happy to do it but with shame and guilt as i took her virginity it still plagues our marriage and it takes constant effort to fix problems my wife is trying but it is hard for both of us try and stay clear of it a young girl is very exciting i would rather have grabbed a 18 year old prostitute and live with that than what i have gone through to satisfy my personal pleasure It took a whole year of counseling to get through it all as u can imagine i left out a whole lot of things but in the end it really not wort it speak to your wife about it or a counselor that will put an end to it your step daughter may hate you for it but as mine did she still asked me to walk her down the ile and not her dad I don't know if this helped any. I hope tis note is not to late
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Juan
I have a question as well, every single time I close my eyes to fall asleep I have another dream of sleeping with my step daughter of not only sex but of having an orgasm inside of her! It has gotten so bad that now I'm obsessed over making my dreams a reality. Has anyone else ever wanted anything like this? If so does it ever stop? I have even gone as far as hinting to my step daughter about how I feel and she seems to be interested. Advice PLEASE
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lostforher
I shared my wife with some friends a few months back and we all had such a great time but now things are out of control! My wife is such a sexual being and before we married she had been with many men so sharing her wasn't a problem. The problem is that one night one of my friends stopped by and after a few drinks he asks if he could have sex with my wife again because he just couldn't get her out his mind. Before I could answer him with a straight forward no my wife jumps up from the couch and strips naked while my friend rushes to get his clothes off. So in what seemed like a second he is in my wife and they have sex right there in front of me. Although I was a very turned on I didn't let it show and after an hour or so my wife says lets move this to the bedroom. They continue having sex for a good long time all the while she was trying to get me to participate to which I said no. My wife knew I didn't approve of what they were doing but it didn't stop her one bit. So they finally finish and fell straight to sleep, I guess they were tired! Well the next morning I was awakened to my friend pumping on my wife so hard that the bed was shaking so much. Well after a half hour or so he lets out a load moan and finished deep inside her then he gets up showers and leaves but on the way out asks me if I could call his wife and tell her I made him stay because he had drunk to much. After he leaves I tell my wife how come she let him do this without asking me and I ask her what was she going to do if she were to get pregnant by him as he finished deep inside her TWICE! She says she's sorry but thought that since we all shared her a few months back that I would be ok with it and also says that she really didn't think about the getting pregnant by him as she got caught up in the moment. Well my friend must have told the others about sleeping with my wife because one by one they started showing up asking if they could have sex with my wife to which I answered that it was up to her. Well needless to say that she never said no and continues to allow each and every one of them finish in her. Well after a while my friends are having sex with my wife than I am. As this goes on for a few days my wife says that she took care of the possibility that she would get pregnant from one of them. Each time she was with one of them she took them to our bed and tries to get me to join in but I never do. I feel that the fun was taken from me after watching her and feeling the bed shake and my knowing that every single time and with each one of them she was getting filled with a intimate part of my friends. I don't regret the first time I shared my wife with friends because we all enjoyed it and had a great time but what has been going on after has taken a toll on our marriage. I can't love my wife anymore like I once did and every time I look at her all I see is another Whore wife that can't get her fill of men. Should I leave her or should I live with what I created?
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lostforher
From the first time I saw my step daughter I wanted to have sex with her! She is a gorgeous young woman and she has such a sexy body. Well after she lost her job some months back she started having so many problems with paying her bills. So I got it in my mind that I was going to do whatever it took to sleep with this beauty. So after much thought I came up with a plan but first of all I had to make sure my step daughter would not run and tell her mom what I was going to offer her. So after much texting I finally felt confident that she would not say anything I offered her a large sum of money to sleep with me just one time. After she thought about it for a few days she told me that although the money was good that she couldn't have sex with. So I said ok and told her if she ever changed her mind to let me know. Well needless to say I was extremely disappointed that she wouldn't have sex with me but forgot about it for a short time. After a dream I had one night about my step daughter and I having sex I couldn't take it no more so I told her I would give her a huge huge amount of money for just one time with me. Well that did it she not only agreed but said we had to do it as soon as possible. So a few days later an opportunity came up and we agreed to a time. She shows up dressed so sexy that I wanted to jump on her right there! She told me that she would only do this once and that I had to use a condom to which I agreed to. So we make our way to the bedroom and after we were both undressed she wanted to make sure I put the condom on which I did but before I entered her I kissed her all over and went down on her at which time I took off the condom. So I entered her and it was just like heaven and after a good long while I finished deep inside her. So I got her to stay talking to me for some time but she said she was going to the bathroom so she could clean up. While she was in there I asked her if we could do it again another time but she said no then all of a sudden she starts yelling and asks me why I would finish in her like I did to which I said you already know why she is in such a rush to leave until I showed her a couple of video's of us having sex and I told her I would show not only her mom but the whole family how she had sex with me for money and all that I wanted was to have more sex with her. Well that was over two years ago and we have sex at least three or four times a week and she has had a baby from me and is pregnant with another. I couldn't believe that she actually got pregnant from the very first time together and now she is so in love with me that she wants me to leave her mom and marry her! What should I do?
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lostforher
This will devastate your wife. Tell her. Be open and transparent, even about your sexual attraction. Leave no stone unturned. Both of you need to speak with the stepdaughter; get her therapy and also get marriage counseling. Otherwise, your marriage will suffer and you might give in to temptation. Blood or not, what your stepdaughter is doing is wrong; you know it's wrong. There should be no confusion in your mind dear. Talk to her on your own first. If she persists, talk to your wife. Good luck.
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Selfless1
I came across your story because I have been feeling so sexually attracted to my stepdaughter who is 18. Me and her mom have been divorced for 15 years now and I've had some on and off contact with my stepdaughter through the years, but she came to live with me over a year ago because the was going through some tough times. My stepdaughter is a gorgeous young girl that will be graduating high school this year. Since she has been with me I've encouraged her to go out and have fun with friends and date. She chooses to stay home with me and talk, we talk about life, history, psychology (which should be boring to teens, right?) but we go have dinner at nice restaurants and just talk, I give her money to go shopping for things she wants but she wants me to go with her, we go shopping for everything from groceries, clothes, shoes, bras, even panties she always asks me what I think and I reply its up to her and what she wants. She also walks around the house in tiny shorts or boy shorts and a tank top with no bra so I can see her nipples. She will come and sit next to me and sniggles under the covers with me while I watching TV. She will rub her cheek against the side of my head and when she does I feel such a closeness with her that my whole body begins to feel hot. It has been recent that I look at here as a woman and not my stepdaughter and I am so sexually attracted to her that I begin to fantasize what she looks like with no clothes and kissing her breast and p***y. Every morning I go into her room to wake her up for school before I leave for work and one morning I laid next to her (she sleeps nude) she was on her stomach, I got under the covers with her and begin to massage her back, I placed my leg in between her legs as I massaged her back, I then moved my hands down and begin to massage her butt and I was kissing her back, she didn't turn over but begin to morn lightly and she spread her legs a little wider. I begin to feel so nervous that I kissed her on the creek and told her that it was time to get up and then I left her room with a throbbing hard-on, wishing that I had taken it further. I'm am also very confused and torn between loving her as a stepfather and loving her as a woman. I wish I knew what to do. Sincerely Lost-and-Confused
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n2goodmusic
Hi Mike Its an old post but I really really appretiate your honesty facing this. When it becomes unconscious and binds with shame and taboo this thing is the most dangerous.
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animi
Yes I've experienced this myself as my two step daughters have tried this on me on separate occasions alone of course but like I felt unease but at the same time had this urge of feeling excited as well. Think one of my step daughter was feeling down by her live in boyfriend often pops round to see me and had this excitement role play thing on her mind as I would in some respect too if I'm honest. I just thought to myself what the hell why not just do it for one off fun only then make it clear that it's just fun only to please each other that all, she old enough and legal too. Although we haven't yet but it's soon tempting and I'm just waiting for her to start.
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Signwood
She is of age ,i want my 30 yr old stepdaughter bad,i hear "she's not blood" ,and we don't have a close close relationship, in your situation i can see her possibly using it against u if she doesn't get her way or u upset her,i don't know her well enough if she would do that, explain to her if there's any issues that you both are adults and will work it out together not mommy,i think she is looking for someone experienced to show her a good time and in a way i say go for it
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oxman19
my step daughther also is self concious about how a woman looks in front of men since she already has a kid. @ times she wears this short tights that I can literally see the bottom of her behind and bends over in front of me. Is she seducing me or what? By accident she has seen me asleep with my penis erected when her mom is not there. Is she like wanting something? I need help
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alejandro
Mike, I know this is an old post. But I would ask yourself one and only one question! Would happen if she narcs on you? I can tell you some of it. Its still considered incest by law. Its still considered immoral and if you carry any kind of a clearance or have a job that requires a certain moral standard you are going to screw yourself to the point of major regret. I have a step daughter myself, and there have been times i knew i could get some, but it wasnt worth my marriage, my standing n my community or my job. STAY AWAY FROM IT!
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NCGuy91950
From what I can see, this girl seems to be confused and might have some self esteem issues as well. She's missing something and have a void to be filled and she thinks hooking up with you and receiving romantic love from you is going to fill that void. I'll fully admit that my first reaction was that this is f***ing hot! And I'm not even a guy, I'm a female, lol. But then when I broke it down and seriously thought about it, there's no denying it that this girl is going through some emotional issues and this is a BAD situation for you. If you're happy with your wife, in love with her and do not want to chance ruining your marriage, then you need to tell her what's going on right away and let her know you're concerend about her daughter's behavior. As hot and tempting as this situation may seem at first, if you hook up with her, it will backfire on you eventually because one day you'll piss her off and then she'll tell mommy that you sexually assulted her/raped her/took advantage/etc...
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badkitty
If you're in love with your wife then you should'nt do it. I know she's not related to you by blood but if you're in her life as a father then you should keep it that way.

Despite the fact that you have ups and down with your wife, she's still your wife and all marriages have that. Messing up a marriage would be horrible and doing stuff with your stepdaughter will make things worse.

That's my opinion.
wow.
i can only imagine what youre going through. Ima 16 yr old young lady and i also have a stepdad and maybe its just a phase. have you told youre wife about it? or told youre step daughter to stop?
idk whatsup with her lol. i would never do that with my stepdad or doanything like that. it would break my moms heart.. maybe you should tell her how it would make her mother feel.
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shady08