The other woman ...
Posted by an anonymous user on 7/31/2008 12:52:00 AM
is it bad if i want to be the other woman ?
he's the one that sort of 'asked' for it. i'm kind of nervous about the situation,
but i'm also excited. it's not like i love him or anything, we just have a 'thing' and
he's going away soon ..
any advice ?
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he's the one that sort of 'asked' for it. i'm kind of nervous about the situation,
but i'm also excited. it's not like i love him or anything, we just have a 'thing' and
he's going away soon ..
any advice ?
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You may find it exciting, and you may have feelings for this man but it isnt right, the guy I love loves me back but he has a girlfriend. So when he gets too close or tries something he shouldnt I tell him he shouldnt. He respects me so he listens. It kills me sometimes that I cant kiss him but its whats right. If you respected yourself and this man then you should end it. Because if you were in his girlfriends/wifes shoes than you would want someone to do the same for you.
And by the way he didnt "ask for it" its both of your faults, not just his.
And by the way he didnt "ask for it" its both of your faults, not just his.
Posted by punkiepink on 9/23/2008 4:44:00 PM (Report abuse)
Well I am also the other woman in a relationship, but i think we have complete different situations. The man i am with i was good friends with before we initiated anything and i know we will stay good friends if what we are doing goes bad.
My man has a bad marriage and wants to end it and has now for 4 1/2 years. But his wife is very suicidal and there is a one year old involved. With that being said i know i love him. I know i want to be with him. But i also know that i am not going to wait forever for him. I dont like the feeling of being the other woman at all! But i do like how this man makes me feel. I am truley happy.
So if you are not in this for the long run i think it is a bad idea!
If it is just sex you can find this anywhere else and you dont need to ruin this marriage for just that.
If you love him and you want to be with him make sure thats how he feels with you too! If that is the case well then be patiant but make sure he proceeds with his promises.
So do you love him? Would you want to be his next wife? Will you be able to trust that he wouldnt do this to you?
Or is this just an exciting fling?
You know the answers, you know what is right and wrong. But is doing the wrong thing worth it?
Good luck!!! I know its not easy to be the "other woman", but think about why you are being that person.
My man has a bad marriage and wants to end it and has now for 4 1/2 years. But his wife is very suicidal and there is a one year old involved. With that being said i know i love him. I know i want to be with him. But i also know that i am not going to wait forever for him. I dont like the feeling of being the other woman at all! But i do like how this man makes me feel. I am truley happy.
So if you are not in this for the long run i think it is a bad idea!
If it is just sex you can find this anywhere else and you dont need to ruin this marriage for just that.
If you love him and you want to be with him make sure thats how he feels with you too! If that is the case well then be patiant but make sure he proceeds with his promises.
So do you love him? Would you want to be his next wife? Will you be able to trust that he wouldnt do this to you?
Or is this just an exciting fling?
You know the answers, you know what is right and wrong. But is doing the wrong thing worth it?
Good luck!!! I know its not easy to be the "other woman", but think about why you are being that person.
Posted by The Other Woman Herself on 8/10/2008 11:55:00 AM (Report abuse)
dont you deserve better then that? Its too easy to get a married man, and its over done. Do something really cool like find a great guy that wants to be only with you. Decide your worth and dont settle for half ass men
Posted by Run the other way on 8/4/2008 4:13:00 AM (Report abuse)
dont do it.
being on the other side of it doesnt feel all to "peachy"
and will wreck her.
and even if you do love him
you still have to respect that he's with her.
despite his piggish behavior.
or
you could also tell his wife that shes married to a whore.
being on the other side of it doesnt feel all to "peachy"
and will wreck her.
and even if you do love him
you still have to respect that he's with her.
despite his piggish behavior.
or
you could also tell his wife that shes married to a whore.
Posted by Tell her. on 8/2/2008 4:38:00 AM (Report abuse)
Yes, it is bad.
The wife; no one deserves that to happen to them. Why be the source of pain inflicted upon her? Come on now, by doing this you could ruin someones life.
The guy; is obviously a cheating bastard, i don't think scum like him deserve much at all. He'd go to hell, and you'd be helping him - and for what? Temporary satisfaction? You dont even love the guy.
You; i hope you find the sense to walk away from the situation.
And if you form a bond with him, why would you want to be with someone who's likely to cheat on you as well? How would that make you feel? Well, now imagine how his wife would feel.
Don't, please.
The wife; no one deserves that to happen to them. Why be the source of pain inflicted upon her? Come on now, by doing this you could ruin someones life.
The guy; is obviously a cheating bastard, i don't think scum like him deserve much at all. He'd go to hell, and you'd be helping him - and for what? Temporary satisfaction? You dont even love the guy.
You; i hope you find the sense to walk away from the situation.
And if you form a bond with him, why would you want to be with someone who's likely to cheat on you as well? How would that make you feel? Well, now imagine how his wife would feel.
Don't, please.
Posted by Joti on 7/31/2008 4:27:00 PM (Report abuse)
Ive been the "Other Woman" The last 2 relationships ive been in. Its fun at first. But then it takes its toll. It starts to hurt. And you start having your relationship based on Hopes and wishes. like "I hope he comes over today" Or "I wish he would pay more attention to me" It really starts to hurt after a while. And also think about his main girl. Does she know about you? Do you think it would hurt her if she found out? Put yourself in her shoes.
Posted by Skratch on 7/31/2008 3:05:00 PM (Report abuse)
Dont you think you deserve more than to be the side dish? You should love yourself enough to be the main course here .....
But all the power to you and if this is what you want then go for it. Just know that you and him arent the only ones involved here. What about her? Would you be ok with it if some other woman did that to you? "Do unto others as you have them do unto you" ....
All the best hey :)
But all the power to you and if this is what you want then go for it. Just know that you and him arent the only ones involved here. What about her? Would you be ok with it if some other woman did that to you? "Do unto others as you have them do unto you" ....
All the best hey :)
Posted by HippieB on 7/31/2008 7:29:00 AM (Report abuse)
yes regaurdless if he enjoys it it bad.
think of his wife.... how would you feel?
hes going away, take time to find someone new, if he loved you, he would take you with him
think of his wife.... how would you feel?
hes going away, take time to find someone new, if he loved you, he would take you with him
Posted by Aileen on 7/31/2008 2:22:00 AM (Report abuse)