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Posted by an anonymous user on 8/26/2008 6:38:00 PM
I am a 27 year old biology teacher.i have a student who is 17.she is very attractive and a wonderful person.she makes it obvious that she has a crush on me, and I think I feel the same about her.however, I DO NOT want to do anything to harm her or myself.

what should I do.and any fellow teachers out there, what would you do in a situation like this?


note: do not get the impression that i will do anything with her. that would be unethical. so if you have a rude comment, please keep it to yourself. i am here for advice, not to be told off.

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My health/gym/study hall teacher was so hott and we were together 2 hours 5 days a week. All school year we would flirt in the halls when one was close enough to listen and in study hall we flirted like crazy And so the people who sat by us could hear . He made it completely obvious and so did I. He treated me just like this other teacher he was with. Any way you should do what he said i can’t be friends with you until you’re out of high school and so is everyone in your FAM.
Posted by xovirginxo on 11/20/2008 11:10:00 PM (Report abuse)
I had A crush on A teacher all my history teachers in fact but I never went for them I knew the score and so does she. Wait until graduation mahybe its love maybe its lust just wait to find out.
Posted by Angiesadeyes on 11/18/2008 1:22:00 AM (Report abuse)
just rape her then kill her and throw her in a river
Posted by crazyhorse on 11/17/2008 2:04:00 PM (Report abuse)
wait till she graduates, because you can lose your job, even if shes at legal age, your still her teacher, and shes your student.

wait..

its worth it..

P.R.O.M.I.S.E. !
Posted by secert9lives on 11/11/2008 12:50:00 PM (Report abuse)
I was once the student who had a crush on her teacher... I graduated, we hooked up and were exclusive. He quit teaching and went back to college for another degree. We stayed together approximately 1 year, then it ended. It was a fun time for both of us, however when I went to college with the "teacher boyfriend"... I didn't look to date other college boys until we broke up. The one thing that I regret. Other than that, girls are mature enough to handle it at that age.
Posted by an anonymous user on 11/10/2008 6:15:00 PM (Report abuse)
Don't stand so
Don't stand so
Dont't stand so close to me
=]
FUCK HERRR
Posted by ipoop on 11/10/2008 4:45:00 PM (Report abuse)
"I think I feel the same about her." In my opinion the only felling you get from her is the sexual impulse, don't ruin the girls life just because is young, willing to explore and inocent, with time she will meet another guy, maybe from her age maybe not .. who cares ? In my opinion she deserves someone a little more like her and a little bit less like you, also you will ruin her grades since you will surely be stalking her or she pursuing you when she should be studying.
Posted by LoveYouSteffy on 11/8/2008 4:49:00 PM (Report abuse)
I am a high school teacher also.
Ignore her.
It sounds harsh (I know), but it is for the best. It may be hard for you to do, considering that you share the feeling, but it is highly inappropriate.
Even if age isn't a factor (depending on the laws in your community), it could still be damning to your reputation. No one would want their daughter in Mr. So-and-so's class if word got out, and it would...a 17 year old girl may say that she can be discrete, but she would almost certainly tell her best girlfriend (as girls do), and rumors would spread like fire. Also, you are currently in a position of authority over her, and that is unethical.
And once you are no longer her teacher, chances are that her feeling would change. In her young life, you are the highest authority figure in her world, aside from her parents, and young girls can confuse that for sexual attraction. Besides, at 17, I would be concerned if she could properly manage the emotions that such a relationship would invoke. I am sure that you are no monster, and your intention is not to mentally harm her, but it could. Also, jealousy and/or typical teenage cattiness could damage her reputation, if anyone became aware of the situation. I am sure that you would not want her to be known as "the girl who screwed around with the teacher for better grades", even if it wasn't true.
Also, what if it ended badly? She may have some recourse with your employer...bad stuff. Not to mention, you are 27, and she is 17. She (probably) has never had a relationship in her life that has lasted more than a month or 2, and frankly, when she does, it should be with a boy, and not a man. Good luck, and be smart. Avoid the temptation!
Posted by an anonymous user on 11/8/2008 12:51:00 AM (Report abuse)
Those feelings are common, and the age difference really isn't all that big.
If you really have strong feelings for her, in the long run, nothing will stop it.

But imagine what she would go through if she was the girl dating the teacher...
And you would lose your job, and take on a horrible reputation.

People aren't as understanding as they should be...
And in today's world, its hard for them to tell the difference between an
unexpected love, and an inappropriate attraction.


Waiting until she graduates would be your best bet.
It will make it easier on both of you, and there's nothing wrong with pursuing it
after that. So you'll have a relationship you can be proud of and feel good about.
When you're in love with someone, the last thing you want to have to do is hide it,
and be ashamed.
Posted by an anonymous user on 11/4/2008 12:32:00 AM (Report abuse)
Why is everyone saying wait till shes 18?

The legal age for sex here is 16...(In New Zealand)
Posted by Rosieee on 11/3/2008 5:16:00 PM (Report abuse)
I am a teacher also. You should ask your administrators to remove her from your class. You don't have to be specific, just tell them you think she is interested in an inappropriate relationship with you and that you are uncomfortable. DO NOT tell them you feel the same way. Just wait a year and she'll be legally able to make her own decisions. Check with your district on the policies for dating former students. Good luck, and don't blow it. You could wind up in jail.
Posted by an anonymous user on 11/1/2008 4:13:00 PM (Report abuse)
Wait at least until she's 18 and has graduated. Don't pursue it now, you could end up in jail. It's completely not worth it.

My parents are 10 years apart, when you're older the age gap won't seem that big.
Posted by lcoo13 on 10/13/2008 12:35:00 AM (Report abuse)
My advice is that keep ur feeling just to urself.
U can start a realtionship (if u want to) after she graduated.
Becuz I think that both of u will get d guilty feeling or...insecure or uncomfortable.
So, for d better time...wait for another year.
Posted by Foolove on 10/11/2008 11:52:00 AM (Report abuse)
I went to high school with this girl who we all knew had a crush on one of our teachers. After she graduated, she started seeing the teacher and they are still together 4 years later. If you want to be on the safe side, wait until she graduates. If she's still into you, then you know it was worth the wait.
Posted by an anonymous user on 10/7/2008 9:15:00 PM (Report abuse)
WAAAAAAAAAAAIIIIIIIIIITTTTTTTT!!!!! Just wait. Turn on the news and watch it. Do you want to be next? when she's 18 and graduated, THEN you can talk. If you can't wait til June, then you're in it for the wrong reason.
Posted by an anonymous user on 10/5/2008 2:20:00 AM (Report abuse)
First wait till she is 18. Secondly, secretly take and sit her down, preferable in a secluded but secure place, then with great assertiveness and determination proceed to lastly...

FUCK THE LIVING DAYLIGHTS OUTTA HER!
Posted by QjD on 9/29/2008 12:51:00 AM (Report abuse)
hello guys...thats not a huge age gap. im 18, my boyfriend is 37 and we get along great.

as long as she is legally 18, go for it.

wait till she gradates...
Posted by an anonymous user on 9/3/2008 12:27:00 PM (Report abuse)
I agree with Daisy. Your there to teach our childen, and, yes, at 17 she is still a child, not fall in love with them. Don't ruin your career for the follies of youth. One minuit she will be totally in love with you and the next walking hand in hand with another boy. So think long and hard about this and then do the right thing.
Posted by babyhedred on 8/30/2008 4:39:00 PM (Report abuse)
wait for her to be out of your class and school, then take her out and see what happens. Make sure you get her contact info. now or you will regret it later.
Posted by an anonymous user on 8/28/2008 1:16:00 PM (Report abuse)
10 years isn't a huge age difference usually, but there is a huge difference between 17 and 27. It's too much of an age gap when the female is this young. If you were to try and have a relationship with her after she's out of your class, more than likely she'll eventually come to resent the hell out of you later on. Both of you are in 2 different places in life right now. If your just wanting a quick fling, do you really want to wait a year? Because there's no way possible you can ethically have anything to do with her until she's out of that school. What happens if she's out of your class, but still in school..How would she deal with a quick fuck, or even a relationship that went bad? Do you want to put your career and respect on the line for her? Even if she turns 18 and leaves your class....there will always be rumours, and suspisions surronding you if you do this. It's best to leave it alone, and fine someone else.
Posted by an anonymous user on 8/28/2008 10:55:00 AM (Report abuse)
You have the chance to bang fresh meat!
Go fo it!
Posted by an anonymous user on 8/28/2008 5:18:00 AM (Report abuse)
if you're attracted to her, that doesn't mean that you're predator
or a pedifile or anythign liek that
attraction is attraction
and you even said that you don't want to harm her

don't act on it though
wait until she's out of your class and turns 18

it's not worth risking your job
Posted by lcpa543 on 8/27/2008 8:28:00 PM (Report abuse)
thts just wrong you gross fi=uckin pedifile your 10 years older than her.. whats wrong you cant get any woman your own age? fuckin loser why dont you do yourself a favour and off yourself..
Posted by an anonymous user on 8/27/2008 7:41:00 AM (Report abuse)
I share the same view as Daisy. I'm in a class where a female student sexually harasses her male teacher, but he does nothing to jeopardize his career. He knows she won't report it because she's just playing, but he always tells her to stop and pushes her off when she sits on his lap.

He's doing the smart thing, because honestly, if I saw any of my teachers in a relationship with at student, I'd report his ass. It's better than having a potential sexual predator/minor statutory rapist at school. :/
Posted by Penguin on 8/26/2008 10:40:00 PM (Report abuse)
I'm not a fellow teacher but I am a fellow student. Whatever you do, don't urge her behavior on. In this life, you are her teacher, not a man, and she is your student, not a woman. In any case, why would you jeopardize your entire career on a flighty, flirty girl who doesn't know what her emotions are? Do the smart thing.
Posted by Daisy on 8/26/2008 9:29:00 PM (Report abuse)
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