Too late to change, hard to do anyways.
Posted by sarahh48 on 12/2/2008 7:04:00 PM
I'm extremely shy. Like, crippling shy. I can't talk infront of people, and I'll only really talk to you if I've known you for years. I'm struggling in highschool because of this. I hate group work, I hate making conversations with people, I hate talking to teachers and staff.
People say that all I have to do is be outgoing, to get past the shyness. This is much easier said than done..it's nearly impossible for me to step out and be something I'm not. This isn't something I think will ever change.
People also don't really get what it's like for me. They just think I'm using my shy outlook as a way to get attention (people are intrigued by the shy girl). That's not the case though. I'd rather no one noticed me. So you can see what it's like, I'll give an example. When people talk to me I always have to pause and think about my answer. Then If I decide it doesn't sound stupid I'll say it. Sometimes I take so long deciding I can't say anything or else it will be weird. I can't let go and just say what I want like normal people. I think it's something in my genetic makep, not a learned behaviour. I'm not sure though.
Do you think it will always be like this? Or am I stuck trapped forever, because it's who I am.
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People say that all I have to do is be outgoing, to get past the shyness. This is much easier said than done..it's nearly impossible for me to step out and be something I'm not. This isn't something I think will ever change.
People also don't really get what it's like for me. They just think I'm using my shy outlook as a way to get attention (people are intrigued by the shy girl). That's not the case though. I'd rather no one noticed me. So you can see what it's like, I'll give an example. When people talk to me I always have to pause and think about my answer. Then If I decide it doesn't sound stupid I'll say it. Sometimes I take so long deciding I can't say anything or else it will be weird. I can't let go and just say what I want like normal people. I think it's something in my genetic makep, not a learned behaviour. I'm not sure though.
Do you think it will always be like this? Or am I stuck trapped forever, because it's who I am.
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Unless you try to overcome your shyness, you may be shy forever.
Good luck!
Good luck!
Posted by pyramidhead on 12/12/2008 4:45:00 PM (Report abuse)
You want to know something, when i was at school which was only a few years ago, i used to hate talking to people, only friends i knew, i was really shy, like i used to shake so much when i had to do speaches somedays i wouldnt even go to school if i knew i had a speach to do. i kept to myself, i hated it if people noticed me. i thought i would always be like this but boy was i wrong...
once i left school i changed alot, i made new friends got a job actually started looking half decent, and it made me feel confident, now nobody can shut me up, sometimes i still get shy around people i dont know, but most of the time im talkative. so there is hope. im sure if you tried doing something that made you feel great, you would overcome your shyness :)
goodluck.
Jess
once i left school i changed alot, i made new friends got a job actually started looking half decent, and it made me feel confident, now nobody can shut me up, sometimes i still get shy around people i dont know, but most of the time im talkative. so there is hope. im sure if you tried doing something that made you feel great, you would overcome your shyness :)
goodluck.
Jess
Posted by an anonymous user on 12/2/2008 9:13:00 PM (Report abuse)
I know exactly how you feel. I used to be painfully shy, just like you, and still can be sometimes. I got my first real job last year, I work as a cashier in a corner store. It took ages, but I'm finally more open. Sometimes, forcing yourself is the only way to eventually feel comfortable. Getting some real friends also helped (I had very few friends until a few years ago).
Just know that you change, but it's not easy, and really have to just put yourself out there in situations that might make you uncomfortable at first.
Good luck :)
~Walker
Just know that you change, but it's not easy, and really have to just put yourself out there in situations that might make you uncomfortable at first.
Good luck :)
~Walker
Posted by freestylewalker on 12/2/2008 8:34:00 PM (Report abuse)
when you go to college, which hopefully you plan on going, i think its going to help you a lot. It may be scary but being put in a completely different area of people but it could make or break you, its going to be hard and its not just going to come to you to be more outgoing, but you're really going to have to work at is if you really want this. I honestly believe you can achieve anything if you put your mind to it. SO if this is what you want, work hard, its going to be hard but i have no doubt you cant do it.
as for highschool now, there are other kids who are just like you in your school. there are many in every single school, so dont feel alone. my advice would be to join some clubs, then your surrounded by people and while your not forced to talk to them in a club setting, its definetly going to be an easier setting for you to try.
best of luck, i know you can do it.
~Lot~
as for highschool now, there are other kids who are just like you in your school. there are many in every single school, so dont feel alone. my advice would be to join some clubs, then your surrounded by people and while your not forced to talk to them in a club setting, its definetly going to be an easier setting for you to try.
best of luck, i know you can do it.
~Lot~
Posted by secondbest on 12/2/2008 7:17:00 PM (Report abuse)
i'm exactly like you. exactly. it's so hard, i know =[. i don't know if it'll change, i'm sorry. i've been like this all my life. (i'm 15). i probably won't be able to change, but i really hope you do. just wanted to let you know that you're not alone with this..
Posted by Ai on 12/2/2008 7:16:00 PM (Report abuse)