Used for sex?
Posted by an anonymous user on 11/19/2008 1:55:00 PM
My ex boyfriend and I went out for 2 months.Please don't judge me, I need help.
The second time we hung out, I got suspicious and asked him if he was just trying to use me for sex, and he nodded his head and said he was.I got really upset when he said that and told him I should bring him back home because I didn't want to be used again for anything, especially when I was a virgin, and I told him I want to fall in love with someone before I give it up.He took me in his arms, and said "I won't use you.I'll give you a chance.I'll get to know you." We had a good rest of the night, and that was that.
About a week after - we were laying down next to each other just talking, when he took my hand and told me he loved me.I looked at him, and said "don't say that" and he said that he honestly did love me.I really started to like him..and the next few days he treated me like royalty.I decided to give my virginity up to him, because we were dating, and I was really falling for him, and felt that I would be with him for a while, because things were going so well, and he really seemed to like me.
He left me a couple times while we were going out, claiming he didn't like me, and it was over, and then he would apologize and tell me he loved me so much.And about a month ago he broke it off for good.He told me I was never anything to him.He took my virginity and I really fell hard for him.I'm left with nothing.
My question is..do you think he didn't really love me, and just wanted to take my virginity and have sex with me?
I'm confused with this, because sometimes he treated me really well, kind of like he did want me, and other times, not well at all.And all we ever really did was have sex.
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The second time we hung out, I got suspicious and asked him if he was just trying to use me for sex, and he nodded his head and said he was.I got really upset when he said that and told him I should bring him back home because I didn't want to be used again for anything, especially when I was a virgin, and I told him I want to fall in love with someone before I give it up.He took me in his arms, and said "I won't use you.I'll give you a chance.I'll get to know you." We had a good rest of the night, and that was that.
About a week after - we were laying down next to each other just talking, when he took my hand and told me he loved me.I looked at him, and said "don't say that" and he said that he honestly did love me.I really started to like him..and the next few days he treated me like royalty.I decided to give my virginity up to him, because we were dating, and I was really falling for him, and felt that I would be with him for a while, because things were going so well, and he really seemed to like me.
He left me a couple times while we were going out, claiming he didn't like me, and it was over, and then he would apologize and tell me he loved me so much.And about a month ago he broke it off for good.He told me I was never anything to him.He took my virginity and I really fell hard for him.I'm left with nothing.
My question is..do you think he didn't really love me, and just wanted to take my virginity and have sex with me?
I'm confused with this, because sometimes he treated me really well, kind of like he did want me, and other times, not well at all.And all we ever really did was have sex.
Tags: sex, virginity, ex, boyfriend, dating, used
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He USED you.
If youre mad enough and were underage say he took advantage of you. Hes a prick who should get his head kicked in.
If youre mad enough and were underage say he took advantage of you. Hes a prick who should get his head kicked in.
Posted by an anonymous user on 12/28/2008 9:50:00 PM (Report abuse)
He sounds like a little boy...pick yourself up and put it behind you. You are on a whole new playing field now and this time you get to set the rules. Good luck and be smart. (it happens to the best of us - your not alone)
Posted by an anonymous user on 11/19/2008 6:51:00 PM (Report abuse)
I think it could be that he was using you for sex in the beginning but ended up falling for you against his original intentions. He wasnt ready for that type of intensity and felt bad about using you, he didnt want to keep hurting you so he broke it off.
I am sorry this happened to you. All you can do now is put it in the past and next time just make sure you really consider who you have sex with. Good luck!
I am sorry this happened to you. All you can do now is put it in the past and next time just make sure you really consider who you have sex with. Good luck!
Posted by collegesecrets on 11/19/2008 3:41:00 PM (Report abuse)
I would love to seek answers from him except for the fact that he won't talk to me.
Posted by an anonymous user on 11/19/2008 2:48:00 PM (Report abuse)
Firstly, i'm sorry that happened to you.
It seems like there's a possibility that he did only want you for sex, at first. But as you both got closer, he may have started to develop stronger feelings for you, and that was not his intentions. It might have scared him how much he liked you when he wasn't planning to. That's what i think, but it may not be right. You should really seek answers from him, because saying that is not right.
It seems like there's a possibility that he did only want you for sex, at first. But as you both got closer, he may have started to develop stronger feelings for you, and that was not his intentions. It might have scared him how much he liked you when he wasn't planning to. That's what i think, but it may not be right. You should really seek answers from him, because saying that is not right.
Posted by Jotiii on 11/19/2008 2:42:00 PM (Report abuse)
woooooooooow, this sounds way too familiar
i had the same situation, and after three weeks of dating this guy, he came and picked up me and a friend, then went back to his friends house. the whole night he tried getting me into a bedroom and when he finally go me alone he straight up asked "wanna have sex?"
i told him no, he was high, and i don't think that i was quite ready at the time. well he brought me home and he called the next day but i couldn't answer the phone. he then didn't call or myspace me for the whole week and everyone i know was telling me to end it. i didn't consider it until one of his best friends, and mine, told me to. so i got home from school and was about to call him, but i feel asleep. i got on my myspace and i found that he sent me a comment breaking up with me.
so yes i believe he was using you, its harsh, but true. he tried to use me and when he didn't get what he wanted he threw me away.
most boys are only out for sex, and thats so horrible to say
i had the same situation, and after three weeks of dating this guy, he came and picked up me and a friend, then went back to his friends house. the whole night he tried getting me into a bedroom and when he finally go me alone he straight up asked "wanna have sex?"
i told him no, he was high, and i don't think that i was quite ready at the time. well he brought me home and he called the next day but i couldn't answer the phone. he then didn't call or myspace me for the whole week and everyone i know was telling me to end it. i didn't consider it until one of his best friends, and mine, told me to. so i got home from school and was about to call him, but i feel asleep. i got on my myspace and i found that he sent me a comment breaking up with me.
so yes i believe he was using you, its harsh, but true. he tried to use me and when he didn't get what he wanted he threw me away.
most boys are only out for sex, and thats so horrible to say
Posted by an anonymous user on 11/19/2008 2:03:00 PM (Report abuse)