Virgins on virginity please...
Posted by an anonymous user on 11/13/2008 2:37:00 PM
There are so many secrets up here posted by ppl who say they are virgins but wanna have sex cos of pressure, or all their friends have, or they think they're too old, etcetera, etcetera...
all the comments generally say don't do it, hang on to it, wait for "the one"...
but all those posts are written by ppl who hav already lost it...so how do they know how those of us who are still virgins feel?
telling us not to do it is all well and good but they aren't under that kind of pressure anymore, so it's kinda easy to preach...
u hardly see comments posted by virgins (at least none that lift the spirits and make it so u realise it's nothing to worry about...)
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all the comments generally say don't do it, hang on to it, wait for "the one"...
but all those posts are written by ppl who hav already lost it...so how do they know how those of us who are still virgins feel?
telling us not to do it is all well and good but they aren't under that kind of pressure anymore, so it's kinda easy to preach...
u hardly see comments posted by virgins (at least none that lift the spirits and make it so u realise it's nothing to worry about...)
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i am not a virgin.
and when i had sex for the first time, i thought he was "the right one" and i thought that he loved me. and i KNEW i was ready.
i dont regret it. [even though it wasnt good, and even though he left me]
but i do want to say to the people that say "wait till you find the right one"
you NEVER know how things will turn out. people LIE. and it sucks when you have thought that they will be there with you forever, and then something happens.
you can wait and wait and wait all you want to.
but even if you do wait, and even if you think you have found the right one, they could end up leaving you.
or hell, you could end up leaving them.
now im not saying that they/you will. just always remember that it could happen.
im not trying to make people worry.
becasue sex can be wonderful.
just be careful.
and when i had sex for the first time, i thought he was "the right one" and i thought that he loved me. and i KNEW i was ready.
i dont regret it. [even though it wasnt good, and even though he left me]
but i do want to say to the people that say "wait till you find the right one"
you NEVER know how things will turn out. people LIE. and it sucks when you have thought that they will be there with you forever, and then something happens.
you can wait and wait and wait all you want to.
but even if you do wait, and even if you think you have found the right one, they could end up leaving you.
or hell, you could end up leaving them.
now im not saying that they/you will. just always remember that it could happen.
im not trying to make people worry.
becasue sex can be wonderful.
just be careful.
Posted by dreamer on 1/8/2009 7:11:00 AM (Report abuse)
I'm a virgin and I don't care to wait until marriage. And I don't feel like doing it right now. I just figure it'll happen whenever. Seriously, I just masturbate and I'm not ashamed. Waiting until marriage just seems like a bad idea to me personally, because what if he/she is a bad lay? But I don't feel I can handle the responsibility of becoming sexually active right now. I can be too logical sometimes.
Posted by an anonymous user on 1/6/2009 10:30:00 PM (Report abuse)
Not having a go, but those who've lost it must have been virgins at some point right?
Just a thought (:
And also to whoever said sex is over rated..
You just aren't doing it right :)
Just a thought (:
And also to whoever said sex is over rated..
You just aren't doing it right :)
Posted by ag112258 on 1/4/2009 2:00:00 PM (Report abuse)
Sex is something that can be fun and beautiful.
But it should be something that you do at your own pace.
Something that you should be ready to do MENTALLY, whether your a teen or someone beyond your 40s.
I've always told my younger brother that if he chooses to have sex, to do it wisely and safe but when he thinks he is good and ready.
Not because he is under pressure by others, or because it's the "in" thing to do.
Stick to your guns, and if anybody puts you down or makes you feel bad, then seriously tell them to fuck off.
It's not their business anyways.
Only do what's comfortable for you at your own pace. ;)
But it should be something that you do at your own pace.
Something that you should be ready to do MENTALLY, whether your a teen or someone beyond your 40s.
I've always told my younger brother that if he chooses to have sex, to do it wisely and safe but when he thinks he is good and ready.
Not because he is under pressure by others, or because it's the "in" thing to do.
Stick to your guns, and if anybody puts you down or makes you feel bad, then seriously tell them to fuck off.
It's not their business anyways.
Only do what's comfortable for you at your own pace. ;)
Posted by an anonymous user on 12/25/2008 7:47:00 PM (Report abuse)
I'm a virgin.
I'm waiting till I'm married.
I am determined to prove them all wrong.
I'm waiting till I'm married.
I am determined to prove them all wrong.
Posted by Ohmagoodness on 12/24/2008 2:19:00 PM (Report abuse)
My first time having sex wasn't about love,
It was about sex,
he didn't love me,
and he wasn't gentle.
I wish I would've waited.
It was about sex,
he didn't love me,
and he wasn't gentle.
I wish I would've waited.
Posted by emoqueen101 on 12/13/2008 6:51:00 PM (Report abuse)
I'm a virgin, and I'm proud! I was raised to save myself for when I'm married, so I am going to try my gosh darned hardest to keep it that way! I don't understand why people are always wanting to have sex...it seems so, well, gross to me. Maybe it's because I'm not comfortable with my body so I wouldn't want anyone seeing it! Hahaha, I don't know.
I think its everyone's choice, but, I say stick to being a virgin until you KNOW you won't regret it.
I think its everyone's choice, but, I say stick to being a virgin until you KNOW you won't regret it.
Posted by annonymissy on 12/12/2008 5:43:00 PM (Report abuse)
i think the ex-virgins generally leave rather patronising comments...
i kno all my friends look down on me cos i'm still a virgin
but fuck them... i've had to give one of them a frickin contraception lesson - after she had been having sex for like 2 months! neither of them knew wtf they were doin!
if they didnt kno how to be safe then they shudnt have been having sex!
fools
i'd rather wait than be like them!
i kno all my friends look down on me cos i'm still a virgin
but fuck them... i've had to give one of them a frickin contraception lesson - after she had been having sex for like 2 months! neither of them knew wtf they were doin!
if they didnt kno how to be safe then they shudnt have been having sex!
fools
i'd rather wait than be like them!
Posted by an anonymous user on 12/4/2008 6:52:00 PM (Report abuse)
i'm a virgin who is too terified to put my virginity in the hands of a male. when i was younger i found out my mother was a rape victim and it fucked with me terribly. i can no longer trust anyone and sexual encounters are always a mix of hearwrenching memories and pleasure. i'm okay with oral, but it took a lot to lead up to, but as for sex...
i honestly don't think you are missing out, but maybe that's just my minds way of reasoning my phobia of sexual contact.
i honestly don't think you are missing out, but maybe that's just my minds way of reasoning my phobia of sexual contact.
Posted by saetia on 11/25/2008 5:56:00 AM (Report abuse)
i'm a virgin and truely believe i will always be one to. None of my gfs are still virgins and they think im like this total freak. i've had many bfs , ive made out with them and love it but ever time we gets to a certain point i freeze up and wantta run and its not cos i thinks it so important to stay a virgin coz I dont.
Its something in my head that goes off and i run away. i usually keep a bf for about a month.
Am i a total freak?
Its something in my head that goes off and i run away. i usually keep a bf for about a month.
Am i a total freak?
Posted by ltl2hot4u on 11/14/2008 6:29:00 AM (Report abuse)
i'm a virgin and i think you should have sex with someone you love and not just cause you can. to me, sex should mean something. plus, i think that if you wait, you'll know that they love you for you instead of cause you're good in bed
Posted by an anonymous user on 11/14/2008 12:09:00 AM (Report abuse)
i lost my virginity to a guy i barely knew, and i regret it because he wasnt 'the one', he didnt love me and i didnt love him.
sex is something that should be shared between 2 people who love each other, not for their bodies, but for their entire being.
its not a bad thing being a virgin, i really wish i had waited as you have, but it is a personal choice as yo when you start having sex, and who you have it with.
my advice, is to wait untill you find someone you love, you dont have to be married or any of that crap, you just have yo love each other.
dont rush into anything, you'l regret it.
sex is something that should be shared between 2 people who love each other, not for their bodies, but for their entire being.
its not a bad thing being a virgin, i really wish i had waited as you have, but it is a personal choice as yo when you start having sex, and who you have it with.
my advice, is to wait untill you find someone you love, you dont have to be married or any of that crap, you just have yo love each other.
dont rush into anything, you'l regret it.
Posted by tenpastsix on 11/13/2008 11:40:00 PM (Report abuse)
I'm not a virgin, but I lost my virginity at 16 and I don't regret it at all. You know when you're ready, and you know who the right person is. If you are frustrated by being a virgin and want to change it, then do.
Posted by Lemonade on 11/13/2008 9:56:00 PM (Report abuse)
I'm a virgin and I say wait.
I'm proud in my waiting, I'm happy.
I think the most important gift to give the one you love is yourself.
:]
So, I'm proud to be a virgin.
I'm proud in my waiting, I'm happy.
I think the most important gift to give the one you love is yourself.
:]
So, I'm proud to be a virgin.
Posted by an anonymous user on 11/13/2008 9:05:00 PM (Report abuse)
We all know what you virgins feel. We were under the same exact pressure you guys are, and I'm pretty sure we all know how you're feeling. We felt the SAME EXACT WAY.
I was a virgin two months ago, and all I wanted to do was have sex and get it over with, and I really didn't care with who. But after I did, after I thought I fell in love... I regret it, because he WASN'T the one. We are telling you this because WE KNOW how special it should be, and not to have it wasted on someone you don't love.
I was a virgin two months ago, and all I wanted to do was have sex and get it over with, and I really didn't care with who. But after I did, after I thought I fell in love... I regret it, because he WASN'T the one. We are telling you this because WE KNOW how special it should be, and not to have it wasted on someone you don't love.
Posted by AngelWitHalo12 on 11/13/2008 7:50:00 PM (Report abuse)
all my friends have lost there virginity
and i havent
i could of rushed into like they did but i didnt
im now in a relationship with a guy i love and who loves me
we have talked about sex and i now feel completely ready
you should wait for the right guy
half of my friends regret theres
but i know i wont because i waited for a guy who i love
even if i did have to wait a bit longer
and i havent
i could of rushed into like they did but i didnt
im now in a relationship with a guy i love and who loves me
we have talked about sex and i now feel completely ready
you should wait for the right guy
half of my friends regret theres
but i know i wont because i waited for a guy who i love
even if i did have to wait a bit longer
Posted by claireparker31 on 11/13/2008 4:10:00 PM (Report abuse)
Don't wait, that's stupid. Why are you waiting? For religious reasons? Stop taking religion so seriously, it's flawed and contradictory.
Do as you are biologically designed. And that's have a lot of sex. Safe sex that is.
Do as you are biologically designed. And that's have a lot of sex. Safe sex that is.
Posted by an anonymous user on 11/13/2008 3:45:00 PM (Report abuse)
Sex is so over rated tbh
I would rather wait in till i know I'm ready and have found someone special
You never forget your first time so why not make it a happy memory instead of one you cringe and regret about :)
I would rather wait in till i know I'm ready and have found someone special
You never forget your first time so why not make it a happy memory instead of one you cringe and regret about :)
Posted by holbean on 11/13/2008 3:21:00 PM (Report abuse)
Sex is so over rated
I'd rather wait in till i know I'm ready and found someone special
You never forget your first time so why not make it a happy memory instead of one you regret and cringe over
I'd rather wait in till i know I'm ready and found someone special
You never forget your first time so why not make it a happy memory instead of one you regret and cringe over
Posted by an anonymous user on 11/13/2008 3:20:00 PM (Report abuse)
They say that because they themselves regret losing it when they weren't ready.
I'd also advise to wait until the right person, and i'm a virgin with a boyfriend of a year.
I'd also advise to wait until the right person, and i'm a virgin with a boyfriend of a year.
Posted by Jotiii on 11/13/2008 2:50:00 PM (Report abuse)