Wanting a child?
Posted by an anonymous user on 8/12/2008 12:36:00 PM
Im in my late teens. 16 actually. And for the past year ive wanted to be pregnant. I know im wayy young,and I should wait because im still a "kid". I tell everyone I don't want kids because I don't like them. Ive always said that,but in reality,I do want a child. I think I want one so much because I want the feeling that another human being is inside me that will love me and that I can love just as much, because I never really had that. I have hard working parents, but they never really did want me to begin with. If it wasn't for my grandmother,i'de be in multiple foster homes. Or as my parents originally planned,dead by abortion. And I believe that the satisfaction of having a child would fill that need to be "needed", and loved back. I like being on my own.
I also feel that if I try to wait and have children in my 20's,that I would be unsuccesful. Its common in my family to be "unfertile" so to speak when you are still a young adult.
Ive had a pregnancy scare once this past summer. I obviously wasn't,and it was my "first time". I kept telling myself that I wasn't that if I was think of how much trouble i'de be in and the punishment for it. But secretly I wanted to be.
And since then I haven't had any sexual relations,because I feel that I need to save myself from myself, to keep a steady future.
Please, let me know what you think about this, because I know its wrong to feel that way.
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I also feel that if I try to wait and have children in my 20's,that I would be unsuccesful. Its common in my family to be "unfertile" so to speak when you are still a young adult.
Ive had a pregnancy scare once this past summer. I obviously wasn't,and it was my "first time". I kept telling myself that I wasn't that if I was think of how much trouble i'de be in and the punishment for it. But secretly I wanted to be.
And since then I haven't had any sexual relations,because I feel that I need to save myself from myself, to keep a steady future.
Please, let me know what you think about this, because I know its wrong to feel that way.
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i understand what you mean. im 15. and i had a dream that i had a baby girl and i have never felt so much love for one person. i know that people tell you to get you high school education first but if you have your family and friends you can get you GED. you may not be able to at the school you are at now but you are still able to.
Posted by an anonymous user on 9/7/2008 7:31:00 PM (Report abuse)
get a puppy or a kitten!!! Don't ruin a child's life by bringing it into a world where its support system is 16 years old, uneducated, sad and lonely. Thats just plain selfish. I work with moms and babies and maybe you don't know that babies need a lot of attention day and night. At 16 years of age you could not physically or emotionally deal with having a baby
Posted by Doogie howser md on 8/17/2008 1:17:00 AM (Report abuse)
no offense.. but 16 isn't late teens..
it's middle teens.. 3 years after you became one, and 3years before you stop being one..
That is all.
it's middle teens.. 3 years after you became one, and 3years before you stop being one..
That is all.
Posted by Abc on 8/13/2008 2:47:00 PM (Report abuse)
i feel for you b/c i want to have a child too. the only diff is that im 10 yrs older than you. i agree that you need to at least get your high school education. you want to be able to provide for your child... you will be very limited in the work if you do not have a high school education. my advise? find a brother/sister organization where you can help a child who needs it. babysit for a friend or family member. volunteer or work at a day care. you can find ways to develop a bond with a young child. i know its not the same as having your own child... but little kiddos always want to hang out with the "older, cooler" kids. they will still look up to you. not to mention... being around young children all the time will show you that raising a child is not as glamourous as everyone makes it out to be. yes there are some very rewarding moments, but there are also times where you just want to strangle the child. (hahaha)
its hard being a teenager. been there, done that. but i know it would be even harder trying to raise a child too. get your schooling first.
its hard being a teenager. been there, done that. but i know it would be even harder trying to raise a child too. get your schooling first.
Posted by Hannah on 8/13/2008 11:54:00 AM (Report abuse)
Honestly, having a child when you're still in high school could (explain my wording) screw you for life. Not attaining your GED and going to college to get your Bachelor's would make you become a low-income (most likely) single mother who cannot provide much for their child. If you feel you will become infertile later on in your years, you may want to consider freezing your eggs while you still have them, though keeping them safe is very costly.
Also, have you seen children lately? All spoiled kids... and mostly, you probably wouldn't feel loved by them, just feel like a servant of them who has to always pick up after them. That's just my viewing, but look around at mothers of toddlers/kids. If you're ready to step up to the plate and be responsible for another person's fragile life when you would be financially unstable and looked down on by society, go right ahead...
Also, have you seen children lately? All spoiled kids... and mostly, you probably wouldn't feel loved by them, just feel like a servant of them who has to always pick up after them. That's just my viewing, but look around at mothers of toddlers/kids. If you're ready to step up to the plate and be responsible for another person's fragile life when you would be financially unstable and looked down on by society, go right ahead...
Posted by Penguin on 8/13/2008 3:31:00 AM (Report abuse)
Its understandable of the feeling of having someone loving you in a mother-child wayy. But you have to think about the life you would provide for that child. What if u did get pregnant at sixteen, you'd have to work most of the to support the child so you wouldn't be able to spend as much time with it as much as you would want. You wouldn't be able to do a lot of things for that child that you would be able to do when your older and have a steady job. Also getting pregnant as a teenager there's a good chance the father won't stay involved in the child's life. And thats not fair for a kid to deal with. You should wait, and just look forward for when you do get to have a child. Let your future child have the life you wish you had, and make it the best possible and that'll be really hard as a teenager.
Posted by Jazz on 8/13/2008 1:35:00 AM (Report abuse)