What if........
Posted by Desireyginger on 9/30/2008 9:25:00 AM
What if I had this boyfriend for the last four years and he has a drinking problem, but my two kids love him to death and so do i....But he stays out alot throughout the night and lies to me about where he is going.Should I just think that it is the alchohol and try to help him...Or should I leave him even know I feel like I would be wasting four years...A confused 26 yr old
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give him a couple of warnings about being out drunk and lying. tell him this when hes sober so he doesnt have an excuse for forgeting. if he keeps coming home drunk after that, leave him. it shows taht he doesnt really care for u enough 2 change his ways. but if he does change or start going 2 counceling dont leave him. just give him a few "strikes" because if hes an alcoholic itll b realy hard 4 him 2 stop drinking. good luck, and if he desnt change dont b afraid 2 break up with him. ur kids might love him now, or think htey do, but when they get older annd he keeps on doing this, theyll hate him and resent you for not leaving him. again good luck and i hope it all works out for u!!! :-)
Posted by denali1723 on 10/1/2008 6:23:00 AM (Report abuse)
honey you cannot make a person change no matter what you say or what kind of ultimatums you give him period but when he is sober talk to him and try not to sound judgemental but serious,(does that make sense?) tell him how you feel that your tired of being lied to, and you want him to be at home more, stop staying out all night, ect....... and be willing to first and foremost make changes within your self as well cause if he doesnt change what r u goin to do continue to stay or r u going to leave... either way be strong go in the direction that is safest for your kids well being and dont look back no matter what.
P.S if you leave him you wouldn't have wasted four years you have beautiful kids and you are a wiser person for you next relaton ship if this is what you want.
i hope this helps goodluck.
P.S if you leave him you wouldn't have wasted four years you have beautiful kids and you are a wiser person for you next relaton ship if this is what you want.
i hope this helps goodluck.
Posted by whhhoootttt on 10/1/2008 12:21:00 AM (Report abuse)
Talk to him about it, when he's not drunk. Tell him how you and your kids love him so much, but there need to be changes in the relationship. See how he reacts, then you can post again and we'll help you decide from there. Don't make any quick decisions that you may regret later!
Posted by Jotiii on 9/30/2008 3:12:00 PM (Report abuse)