What Is Wrong Here?!
Posted by an anonymous user on 8/8/2008 9:54:00 PM
I'm sorry.
This is a little long.
I need advice though.
I'm confused.
Me and this guy were talking for a while.
I don't know why I liked him.
He was the kind of guy I didn't usually go for.
He had never had a girlfriend before.
He's not the cutest guy ever, but to me, he was perfect.
He's prideful and thinks he's always right, yet I was head over heels for him.
Yet, I'm more and forgive me for saying this, but quite shallow.
...but for once in my life, I didn't want to be shallow.
I loved his personality, he was one of the funniest guys I ever met.
I loved that he was so opinionated even though I didn't agree with his beliefs.
Well, I told him I liked him and he liked me too.
I was happy.
Despite the fact all my friends thought he was a loser and I could do better.
That I was too pretty for him, etc.
Yet, I defended him.
Everytime I talked to him, there was no one else I wanted to talk to.
When I was with him, I never wanted to leave and when he held me, it felt so right.
Well, I'm a flirt and I was talking to a lot of guys at once, including him.
I wanted to be with him though.
I was waiting for him to ask me out.
He never did.
Well, my best guy friend (also a good friend of his) liked me.
My best girl friend liked my best guy friend.
...but the more time I spent with my best guy friend, the more feelings I kinda began to develop for him, but I held back for my friend. She was convinced she "loved" him, or something.
So, I told the guy I really liked: I wasn't sure if I liked him anymore. I needed to think.
It took a week for me to figure out that I wanted him and no one else, but we were still talking anyways, he was hoping I'd regain feelings for him.
I did.
Well, during one week at the end of June.
All these terrible things were happening in my life.
I had just gotten out of depression from January till then and I was feeling like I was slipping back into it.
To tell the truth, he was the reason I felt so happy.
Being around him, nothing mattered.
I'd liked him since February, but we didn't really start talking until late March/early April.
My parents were talking about divorce.
I was being haunted by bad memories.
Secrets were taking their tolls on me.
...and all I wanted to do was talk to him.
Lately, it seemed, he had begun to talk down to me.
He criticized my intelligence, acted better than me.
It made me upset, not only was I irritated by other things, but now him too?
So, we argued a couple times, not to mention our beliefs were total opposites.
For example: I'm a republican, he's a democrat. I'm religious, he's an athiest.
Then, about the last day or two of June he said he didn't like me anymore.
The three arguments we had, then resolved were too much for him.
...and that he didn't see me enough.
Even though we hung out once or twice a week and talked on the phone, constantly.
The night before he told me that he was telling me how I pretty I was and how happy I made him.
Then he said... he didn't like me anymore.
He felt emotionally detached.
He said he felt like that for a week, but needed to give it time to think.
I was so hurt.
I talked to my best guy friend all that night.
I cried myself to sleep and cried randomly throughout the next day.
The whole time, my best guy friend was there for me and my best girl friend got a boyfriend of her own.
I did have feeling for my best guy friend and five or so days after me and this thing with this guy happened: We got together.
Well, I thought maybe me and the guy I had been interested in would be willing to be friends, I was?
He told me he was happy for me and my best guy friend, his friend.
...but the whole time he seemed kinda aggrivated that I moved on so quickly.
...and me and him got in a fight.
...and we would make up and fight again.
All I wanted to do was be nice to him and he kept putting me down, treating me like crap.
It's apart of his personality sometimes, so I figured it was a joke.
...but it lead to another fight.
Well, when we had made up, AGAIN, I invited him to a small, suprise going away party for a mutual friend of our's.
He declined the invite.
I've tried, since to invite him to a few other things.
Yet, every time, he declines.
Even one where it was a study session for summer AP Chemistry homework, in which he needed help.
He still said no.
Then when we got our classes for school he was making it out to seem like he was going to try and switch out as many classes as he could that'd I'd have with him.
I don't understand.
Has he been purposefully avoiding me?
I don't know.
...but I know I'm still hurt over the whole ordeal.
I still cry about it, I'm still hurt.
I think I still have feelings for him even though I'm with someone.
Truth is, I'm extremely happy with my best guy friend that I'm with.
I really, really am falling for him.
He's the most terrific, sweetest guy ever.
:]]
...but I'm still slightly heartbroken.
...and it's not fair to him, at all.
Tags: betrayal, heartbreak, mad, confused, emotional, love, like, hate, enemies, avoiding, fault
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This is a little long.
I need advice though.
I'm confused.
Me and this guy were talking for a while.
I don't know why I liked him.
He was the kind of guy I didn't usually go for.
He had never had a girlfriend before.
He's not the cutest guy ever, but to me, he was perfect.
He's prideful and thinks he's always right, yet I was head over heels for him.
Yet, I'm more and forgive me for saying this, but quite shallow.
...but for once in my life, I didn't want to be shallow.
I loved his personality, he was one of the funniest guys I ever met.
I loved that he was so opinionated even though I didn't agree with his beliefs.
Well, I told him I liked him and he liked me too.
I was happy.
Despite the fact all my friends thought he was a loser and I could do better.
That I was too pretty for him, etc.
Yet, I defended him.
Everytime I talked to him, there was no one else I wanted to talk to.
When I was with him, I never wanted to leave and when he held me, it felt so right.
Well, I'm a flirt and I was talking to a lot of guys at once, including him.
I wanted to be with him though.
I was waiting for him to ask me out.
He never did.
Well, my best guy friend (also a good friend of his) liked me.
My best girl friend liked my best guy friend.
...but the more time I spent with my best guy friend, the more feelings I kinda began to develop for him, but I held back for my friend. She was convinced she "loved" him, or something.
So, I told the guy I really liked: I wasn't sure if I liked him anymore. I needed to think.
It took a week for me to figure out that I wanted him and no one else, but we were still talking anyways, he was hoping I'd regain feelings for him.
I did.
Well, during one week at the end of June.
All these terrible things were happening in my life.
I had just gotten out of depression from January till then and I was feeling like I was slipping back into it.
To tell the truth, he was the reason I felt so happy.
Being around him, nothing mattered.
I'd liked him since February, but we didn't really start talking until late March/early April.
My parents were talking about divorce.
I was being haunted by bad memories.
Secrets were taking their tolls on me.
...and all I wanted to do was talk to him.
Lately, it seemed, he had begun to talk down to me.
He criticized my intelligence, acted better than me.
It made me upset, not only was I irritated by other things, but now him too?
So, we argued a couple times, not to mention our beliefs were total opposites.
For example: I'm a republican, he's a democrat. I'm religious, he's an athiest.
Then, about the last day or two of June he said he didn't like me anymore.
The three arguments we had, then resolved were too much for him.
...and that he didn't see me enough.
Even though we hung out once or twice a week and talked on the phone, constantly.
The night before he told me that he was telling me how I pretty I was and how happy I made him.
Then he said... he didn't like me anymore.
He felt emotionally detached.
He said he felt like that for a week, but needed to give it time to think.
I was so hurt.
I talked to my best guy friend all that night.
I cried myself to sleep and cried randomly throughout the next day.
The whole time, my best guy friend was there for me and my best girl friend got a boyfriend of her own.
I did have feeling for my best guy friend and five or so days after me and this thing with this guy happened: We got together.
Well, I thought maybe me and the guy I had been interested in would be willing to be friends, I was?
He told me he was happy for me and my best guy friend, his friend.
...but the whole time he seemed kinda aggrivated that I moved on so quickly.
...and me and him got in a fight.
...and we would make up and fight again.
All I wanted to do was be nice to him and he kept putting me down, treating me like crap.
It's apart of his personality sometimes, so I figured it was a joke.
...but it lead to another fight.
Well, when we had made up, AGAIN, I invited him to a small, suprise going away party for a mutual friend of our's.
He declined the invite.
I've tried, since to invite him to a few other things.
Yet, every time, he declines.
Even one where it was a study session for summer AP Chemistry homework, in which he needed help.
He still said no.
Then when we got our classes for school he was making it out to seem like he was going to try and switch out as many classes as he could that'd I'd have with him.
I don't understand.
Has he been purposefully avoiding me?
I don't know.
...but I know I'm still hurt over the whole ordeal.
I still cry about it, I'm still hurt.
I think I still have feelings for him even though I'm with someone.
Truth is, I'm extremely happy with my best guy friend that I'm with.
I really, really am falling for him.
He's the most terrific, sweetest guy ever.
:]]
...but I'm still slightly heartbroken.
...and it's not fair to him, at all.
Tags: betrayal, heartbreak, mad, confused, emotional, love, like, hate, enemies, avoiding, fault
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It sounds like he's just playing around with you... I'd tell him what you think could be improved on the relationship, not just hope that it'll get better. If you've been doing that but he hasn't been considerate of you, then he's not worth your time. Don't make a guy the center of your world, that's unfair to you and to people around you.
I hope you get through this. (:
I hope you get through this. (:
Posted by Penguin on 8/10/2008 5:31:00 PM (Report abuse)