What's the point?
I was raped.
I'd been going out with this guy for 8 months.We lost our virginity together and before me all he'd done was kiss a girl.At my 17th birthday party he met one of my friends.she's really hot and pretty and he fell for her.That was pretty much the end of us, we began fighting about her and eventually this led to us breaking up.The night before he dumped me there were a few of us around at my house, including the girl mentioned.We were drinking and I confronted him about why he kept staring at her and wouldn't talk to me.I told her I knew she was bullemic (she and told him who passed it on) things got messy.They all went home and only my best friend stayed with me.
The next morning he txt me saying it was over...although I already knew it was.
The next day I went over to return his stuff and take mine back.We got talking like old times and decided to try and keep it friendly coz we had the same friends.He began kissing me.We started having sex, after he entered I figured that it was a really stupid idea and told him to stop.But we wouldn't.I began to scream and cry and claw him.But he wouldn't stop.He raped me anally as well.He'd always wanted to try but I wouldn't let him.Guess he won in the end eh.
I left afterwards and it took me two weeks to go to the police.by then there wasn't any evidence.Just my word against his.even though I was the more trustworthy party my parents didn't want me to take him to court.So I belived them because they should know best right? It's been a year and a half and I still think about it every day.I'm on anti-depressants and instead of going to university and being amazing I work at mcdonalds and am going no where in life.
I regret taking not taking him to court, not punishing him.I lost pretty much all of my friends because of him - one even slept with him after she found out he raped me.
He was the person I trusted most in my life for those eight months.and then he raped me.how do you get over that? I've been clincially depressed for a year and things aren't getting better, only worse.Everyone tihnks I'm okay now though because I pretend to be.I don't want to live anymore, but can't tell anyone.
So whats the point anymore?
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I'd been going out with this guy for 8 months.We lost our virginity together and before me all he'd done was kiss a girl.At my 17th birthday party he met one of my friends.she's really hot and pretty and he fell for her.That was pretty much the end of us, we began fighting about her and eventually this led to us breaking up.The night before he dumped me there were a few of us around at my house, including the girl mentioned.We were drinking and I confronted him about why he kept staring at her and wouldn't talk to me.I told her I knew she was bullemic (she and told him who passed it on) things got messy.They all went home and only my best friend stayed with me.
The next morning he txt me saying it was over...although I already knew it was.
The next day I went over to return his stuff and take mine back.We got talking like old times and decided to try and keep it friendly coz we had the same friends.He began kissing me.We started having sex, after he entered I figured that it was a really stupid idea and told him to stop.But we wouldn't.I began to scream and cry and claw him.But he wouldn't stop.He raped me anally as well.He'd always wanted to try but I wouldn't let him.Guess he won in the end eh.
I left afterwards and it took me two weeks to go to the police.by then there wasn't any evidence.Just my word against his.even though I was the more trustworthy party my parents didn't want me to take him to court.So I belived them because they should know best right? It's been a year and a half and I still think about it every day.I'm on anti-depressants and instead of going to university and being amazing I work at mcdonalds and am going no where in life.
I regret taking not taking him to court, not punishing him.I lost pretty much all of my friends because of him - one even slept with him after she found out he raped me.
He was the person I trusted most in my life for those eight months.and then he raped me.how do you get over that? I've been clincially depressed for a year and things aren't getting better, only worse.Everyone tihnks I'm okay now though because I pretend to be.I don't want to live anymore, but can't tell anyone.
So whats the point anymore?
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What do you mean what's the point anymore? There is always a chance to do what you want in life, to take those baby steps toward a wonderful existence. It will be hard along the way, but it will be worth it in the end.
One thing I have learned in life is that you can't control what happens. You can't make it so that bad things don't happen to you, the only thing you can control is how you handle theme when they do. You are a strong and wonderful person and you have the capacity to pull through this.
Always live your best life now. Do what you can do to make a better future for yourself, even if it takes many baby steps. Eventually you will get there!
One thing I have learned in life is that you can't control what happens. You can't make it so that bad things don't happen to you, the only thing you can control is how you handle theme when they do. You are a strong and wonderful person and you have the capacity to pull through this.
Always live your best life now. Do what you can do to make a better future for yourself, even if it takes many baby steps. Eventually you will get there!
Posted by sarasissy on 11/21/2009 12:09:00 PM (Report abuse)
I dont know why...and I dont know you or anything about you but reading just half of that really pissed me off....
you did not deserve that. but no one does. but shit it is what it is. I would say get mad I would be pissed but its not going to do anything. you could run away but it will only end in an even worst situation and let me tell you it can always get worst.
I dont know what to say. Im sory that that happend to you tho. it sucks. fell better please. and talk to some one even if its just secret talk just talk about it you will fell better one day you will I promise and please dont do anything rash your on some drugs tell your doctor whats going on in your brain I know its hard but write it down in a note if you can say it. they need to know. doctors are great, they only want you to be healthy.
please please fell better about this. it may never be "OK" but at least you can move on and become stronger form it.
oh and the point is what ever you want it to be. life is what you make it. if you dont think there is a point then there is none. but if you think you can have a better life then it might work. I focus on money I have no other reason to be alive. there are good things in the world few a far in between, but its there. good luck to you I hope you can move past this, one day. for now just hang in there please.
you did not deserve that. but no one does. but shit it is what it is. I would say get mad I would be pissed but its not going to do anything. you could run away but it will only end in an even worst situation and let me tell you it can always get worst.
I dont know what to say. Im sory that that happend to you tho. it sucks. fell better please. and talk to some one even if its just secret talk just talk about it you will fell better one day you will I promise and please dont do anything rash your on some drugs tell your doctor whats going on in your brain I know its hard but write it down in a note if you can say it. they need to know. doctors are great, they only want you to be healthy.
please please fell better about this. it may never be "OK" but at least you can move on and become stronger form it.
oh and the point is what ever you want it to be. life is what you make it. if you dont think there is a point then there is none. but if you think you can have a better life then it might work. I focus on money I have no other reason to be alive. there are good things in the world few a far in between, but its there. good luck to you I hope you can move past this, one day. for now just hang in there please.
Posted by notmyname989 on 11/21/2009 9:55:00 AM (Report abuse)
I was molested when I was seven by my cousin who was eighteen. He was my best friend and we did everything together. But he screwed everything up in one night. The guy who raped you, he's nothing compared to what's really out there. And even though it still causes you pain, there is so much more to live for. So much more people to live for than just that one guy who screwed everything up. The memory will never go away and it will hurt sometimes but you got to push threw it for yourself and everything else out there. Don't let one asshole not let you live your life. It's very possible to find happiness again.
Posted by CLHH94 on 11/21/2009 8:25:00 AM (Report abuse)
don't feel discouraged and you really shouldn't think about that asshole he'll probably end up with A.I.D.S ...it's just a small phase in your life, you wont always feel like this
Posted by jessica19 on 11/21/2009 7:50:00 AM (Report abuse)
talk to some one.
stay strong.
i care about you, and i'm sure lots of people do.
stay strong.
i care about you, and i'm sure lots of people do.
Posted by an anonymous user on 11/21/2009 7:14:00 AM (Report abuse)