Where is she?
Posted by toma on 4/26/2008 2:20:00 AM
I'm a nice guy, I treat girls with nothing but the utmost respect for them, I listen when they talk, and when i date them i give them everything a man can offer and more, yet all my past girlfriends have treated me like shit. Why can't I find a nice girl that actually likes me, not for my looks or what i can give her (materialistically speaking), why can't i find a loving, beautiful, and all around great girl. My friends all have these strong long lasting relationships that they didn't have to work for, they were just given to them. Unlike my friends, I have to work my ass off to try and find the girl for me. In searching for this girl I have dated a number of girls, not too many but a decent number and now my friends think i'm some kind of player. Just because i want the kind of happiness that they have doesn't mean i'm a player. I know i'm not a player, I know I'm a good guy, but what if other people don't see that, if my friends can't entirely see that then how could the girl i've been searching for see it. I fear I may be making a bad (untrue) reputation for myself and I don't know what to do. Do I continue on searching for this girl or do i sit back and wait, hoping that someday this girl will be walking past me on the street, slip, and fall into my arms and we'll fall in love forever? If I continue trying a might build the fake reputation higher, but i need to be by a girls' side. I can't bear beign alone for an extended amount of time, it kills me to be alone. Good advice would be really great
Tags: love, girls, romance, wondering, fate
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hey toma,
im looking for the exact type of guy like u.
not caring what they look like on the outside, but what pepole think of u on the inside thats what counts.a guy who treats me and my family with respect, i dont want someone thats with me only because my looks, the size of my boobs or anything like that.
all of my friends have had good relashionships and if they didnt they broke up, but still remained friends.
talk to me post something under my secert[I HATE MY MOM AND DAD] i would really like to hear from u.
and ir by then u already found your "dreamgirl" then maybe we can still be friends. let me know!
im looking for the exact type of guy like u.
not caring what they look like on the outside, but what pepole think of u on the inside thats what counts.a guy who treats me and my family with respect, i dont want someone thats with me only because my looks, the size of my boobs or anything like that.
all of my friends have had good relashionships and if they didnt they broke up, but still remained friends.
talk to me post something under my secert[I HATE MY MOM AND DAD] i would really like to hear from u.
and ir by then u already found your "dreamgirl" then maybe we can still be friends. let me know!
Posted by Maria123 on 7/3/2008 8:26:00 AM (Report abuse)
Nice guys finish last...women, unfortunately, think they want something they really don't. But keep trying, eventually you'll get someone who realizes this.
Posted by JoeInRaleigh on 6/24/2008 12:08:00 AM (Report abuse)
I didn't read the other post so I don't know if I'm repeating someone else, but if you can't stand to be alone and just deal with yourself, then how do you expect to include someone else? You might be too clingy, that tends to happen with nice guys in your situation. Hold back, and yes, wait for the right girl. You can't force love to happen to you.
Posted by Taye on 6/13/2008 7:03:00 PM (Report abuse)
hey, i like guys like you
but then again, i hate them
guys need to have a backbone, i dont mean be an ass
but, when a girl is handed everything she wants, she thinks she can have whatever she wants, creating a problem.
hold back a little, or a lot,
MAKE HER RESPECT YOU
dont just hand her shit
you gotta make her work for it at least a little. girls like a challenge too buddy
but then again, i hate them
guys need to have a backbone, i dont mean be an ass
but, when a girl is handed everything she wants, she thinks she can have whatever she wants, creating a problem.
hold back a little, or a lot,
MAKE HER RESPECT YOU
dont just hand her shit
you gotta make her work for it at least a little. girls like a challenge too buddy
Posted by Kk on 6/12/2008 12:21:00 PM (Report abuse)
damn i wish i could meet you. i agree with sarah though to be kind of a challenge but still stay sweet and nice.
Posted by Chantelle on 6/11/2008 2:35:00 PM (Report abuse)
Like all the previous posts, I agree that you sound like a perfectly wonderful guy. It seems to me that some girls only are interested in people when they are a challenge, out of reach. I'm not AT ALL saying that yhou should become like that. The world needs more men like you :) But, what I am saying, is that, if none of the girls you have dated respected you and loved you for the gentleman that you are, then it's her loss and she wasn't the right girl for you anyway. I think that you can find some happy medium between searching for a girlfriend and sitting back and waiting. Afterall, you can pretty much tell after a couple hours with someone whether or not you would be romantically compatable. But, above all else, PLEASE, for all of the girls who are drooling over your post, don't date a girl just because you are physically attracted to her. Find a girl that will make you happy AFTER the first couple months of puppy love and sexual attraction are gone. Good luck, and I hope you find you princess, Mr. Charming. :)
Posted by Sarah on 5/26/2008 8:03:00 PM (Report abuse)
you are forcing your self to fall in love with anybody who comes in your way. keep you eyes & heart open. that electrifying feeling, chemistry, attraction, longings..... can't fake it. but most do. turn ur attraction to something else. eventually u'll find ur girl.
Posted by Ty on 5/8/2008 1:10:00 PM (Report abuse)
i want to find a guy that thinks like you! i think you and i are in the same boat as far as the dating the wrong ppl trying to find the write one, shes out there for you, and hes out there for me...best of luck to you and to me haha my advise is to become friends with the girl before getting into a relationship, take your time, if shes the right one you'll have the rest of your life with her, so why rush the start? also i find it good to wait a month/4weeks before the first kiss, it gives a good building point for a relationship not set up on physical..if you really aren't a player, waiting a month wont bother you, it might be tough but if very possible
Posted by Jenna on 4/29/2008 9:05:00 AM (Report abuse)
you have to be comfortable with yourself before you can find a girlfriend, otherwise you may seem too desperate, from what i read here, you sound super desperate, girls don't always go for guys like that, and the reason girls walk all over you is because they know you want a girlfriend and you'll do anything for them, so they take advantage of that. You have to stand up for yourself, and do things for you, dont make a girl your number one priority, live life and be happy by yourself and eventually someone will come to you and it will be that much better cuz you werent expecting it.
Posted by Larissa on 4/28/2008 5:06:00 PM (Report abuse)
You're a walk over.
Posted by You on 4/28/2008 3:01:00 AM (Report abuse)
thnx :D
Posted by Toma on 4/27/2008 3:17:00 PM (Report abuse)
Girls are horrible they say it's the female species that matures first not really the case, good luck
Posted by Max on 4/27/2008 11:52:00 AM (Report abuse)
Hi i'm right here, the girl your searching for. don't know where you live, but i'm here falling into your emails. ;) You prolly won't believe it, but i swear to god I am.
Posted by Normal person on 4/27/2008 4:24:00 AM (Report abuse)
You may want to take a break from dating for a while, if you want to protect your reputation.
Like, if you have a rep for "dating a number of girls", some of the best girls will stay away from you because you're a "player".
It might not make a whole lot of sense to you to STOP dating you can FIND a girl, but that's just the way girls think.
I would know *sigh*
Like, if you have a rep for "dating a number of girls", some of the best girls will stay away from you because you're a "player".
It might not make a whole lot of sense to you to STOP dating you can FIND a girl, but that's just the way girls think.
I would know *sigh*
Posted by A on 4/26/2008 12:31:00 PM (Report abuse)
you are not alone, you know.. a lot of people goes through the same thing, so am i. im a nice, polite, decent girl, but all my boyfriends treated me like shit. i belive its like that because im shy and i cant stand up for myself. maybe your girlfriends werent ready for long time relationships? dont worry, best things happen when you dont think about it, i wish you to find that special one..
Posted by Just a girl on 4/26/2008 11:29:00 AM (Report abuse)
Don't search. You seem like a completely wonderful guy, and I see no reason for any girl not to like you or date you. Don't keep looking for that person. Because you're that person to somebody. You're the one they're searching for. And if you start searching, that person might not find you.
Posted by C on 4/26/2008 9:37:00 AM (Report abuse)