footlover77
Are you male or female? And what sort of age group?
If you're a guy past puberty and haven't had an orgasm through sex, masturbation or during a wet dream, it would be worth speaking to your doctor, especially if you are unable to get an erection. It may be nothing but could be some sort of blood pressure problem or neurological problem.
If you are a girl, have you tried toys such as vibrators? In the UK, the brand Durex sell an orgasm enhancing gel called "O" which contains arginine - this is supposed to increase the sensitivity of the clitoris and aid orgasm. There are plenty of other brands, I'm sure, but I've heard good things about "O". I think it's a fairly common problem not to be able to achieve orgasm so don't feel like you're alone and don't assume it's forever - just try to have fun exploring what works for you.
If you're a guy past puberty and haven't had an orgasm through sex, masturbation or during a wet dream, it would be worth speaking to your doctor, especially if you are unable to get an erection. It may be nothing but could be some sort of blood pressure problem or neurological problem.
If you are a girl, have you tried toys such as vibrators? In the UK, the brand Durex sell an orgasm enhancing gel called "O" which contains arginine - this is supposed to increase the sensitivity of the clitoris and aid orgasm. There are plenty of other brands, I'm sure, but I've heard good things about "O". I think it's a fairly common problem not to be able to achieve orgasm so don't feel like you're alone and don't assume it's forever - just try to have fun exploring what works for you.
I don't really know what else to advise apart from what I already suggested. Maybe search somewhere like eBay for that Durex Play O gel and a toy.
Don't worry - I am sure it will happen in time. My girlfriend used to have problems reaching orgasm with previous boyfriends but I've made her open up and tell me exactly what she likes and now she has them more regularly.
You're only just entering adulthood - maybe you just haven't met the person that's compatible with you yet, or just need to explore new things with that person if you have.
Don't worry - I am sure it will happen in time. My girlfriend used to have problems reaching orgasm with previous boyfriends but I've made her open up and tell me exactly what she likes and now she has them more regularly.
You're only just entering adulthood - maybe you just haven't met the person that's compatible with you yet, or just need to explore new things with that person if you have.
I think looks and personality are intimately related. A classically 'beautiful' girl looks plain, even ugly, to me if they don't have a nice personality. As a rule of thumb, looks-wise I prefer brunettes over blondes, mainly because of dark lashes and eyebrows which really frame the face. I love curls and a cute smile. I like petite girls with a nice bum and small, sexy feet that I could imagine kissing (that's just my thing). But that's just the ideal and as I said, it's the personality that really makes a girl stunning in my eyes so I think I could be attracted to any woman, regardless of appearance, if we connected emotionally. Sense of humour is important to me (the more warped and surreal, the more I laugh!) but not as important as caring, openness and honesty and a willingness to share in each other completely - being open-minded to each other's feelings, wants and desires. Obviously we all have secrets we'd never want to share with anyone close to us but being able to share the important ones is essential.
I think the fact you CARE that you didn't care means that deep down you really did, you were probably in denial and subconsciously it was your only way of coping. My mum died of breast cancer 6 years ago I emotionally distanced myself to care. I visited her every day and she was scared and cried lots but although I comforted her and tried to cheer her up, I did it by largely ignoring the problem and keeping light-hearted. I think it's just hard for people to accept terrible things happening sometimes and it's a way of trying to keep strong.
There's nothing wrong with you. You're a human being with complex emotions. Don't feel bad.
There's nothing wrong with you. You're a human being with complex emotions. Don't feel bad.
I think when you meet somebody you really love, things might feel different. And if you're both in love you'll soon learn what things each other does and doesn't like and accommodate that.
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