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Hey, rock bottom is some pretty solid ground. Just think of it that way.
  • 3/4/2009 10:22:00 PM
It's all in the body language. Google it, there're actually some helpful hints to be found in cyberspace.
  • 3/4/2009 10:24:00 PM
Hey, why not?

Check out the Uncle John's Bathroom Readers series. Trust me, you'll love them.
  • 3/4/2009 11:45:00 PM
Firstly, don't go saying that "normal" high schoolers drink. Many of them don't, and are still considered "normal." In fact, I've never placed all that much stock in the definition of normal to begin with. It sounds far too boring for me. If not drinking makes you unique, then I feel as though that's even more of a reason to remain sober.
As cliche as it sounds, you're experiencing peer pressure. If you're smart enough not to drink, then chances are, you're smart enough to already know that. Don't give in to it... high school goes by fast enough. Don't make it go faster by experiencing it through a drunken blur.
I suppose, though, if the people you hang out with are that important to you, you could try to beat them at their own game. I'm guessing that most high schoolers will get the booze they can afford to have their older siblings/cousins/friends buy for them, which is usually the cheap stuff. If you're at a party and someone asks you why you're not drinking, say something to the effect of, "Oh no, I don't drink beer (or whatever). I only drink the highest quality Kentucky bourbon, aged for at least four years." You'll seem classy, slightly baddass, or slightly snobby, but I suppose that depends on what type of people you choose to spend your time with.

Or you could just say "No, I prefer my liver the way it is." You choose.
  • 3/4/2009 3:50:00 PM
Hahaha, how cute.
  • 3/4/2009 3:32:00 PM
Praying, honey!
  • 3/3/2009 10:00:00 PM
Haha. How very... eccentric.

I like to walk around nekkid too... I don't yell at myself, but I enjoy the freedom.
  • 3/13/2009 3:55:00 AM
Congrats! It's always nice when those unexpected moments come your way.

So go ahead... keep workin' your magic on him!
  • 3/23/2009 4:03:00 PM
This is beautiful :)
  • 6/23/2009 5:32:00 PM
Just come clean about it.
  • 6/19/2009 12:07:00 AM
DAMN! Now that's what I call revenge!!!
  • 12/12/2008 2:36:00 PM
Go for it!
  • 12/10/2008 4:47:00 AM
I wih you the best of luck. You have my jealousy.
  • 12/9/2008 2:24:00 PM
Whoa whoa whoa. You made VOWS, chica. Doing what you're doing can escalate into more physical stuff--next thing you know, you'll be sneaking around.

The man has CHILDREN. He should be ashamed at himself for what he's doing, and YOU should be ashamed for encouraging him. If you get caught, you'll probably disentigrate both of your marriages. Do you have any idea how badly divorce can affect children? ESPECIALLY if they're young?

If you can't stop for the sake of your marriage, at least do it for the sake of two kids being able to grow up in a stable household. Sometimes giving in to your desires is a good thing--but this time, it's downright selfish.
  • 12/9/2008 2:39:00 PM
Lemons,

Calm down. You can't MAKE a person be quiet who doesn't want to be quiet--at least not without doing something despicable, like drugging her. If there's an unfortunate reaction, you could kill her, and though that's what you want to do at this point, you'll be in a heap load of trouble. Trust me, you'll have even LESS luck at getting an inmate to be quiet.

She, who ever she is, is in your external environment. We can't control what happens around us, we can only control the way we react to it. Don't lose control and get yourself in a situation you can't get out of.

Before you do ANYTHING-get yourself to a private place where you can't hear her. This may not even be possible physically, but if you bear with me and focus, you can shut her out. Her voice can't bother you if you don't let it.

Take a normal, controlled breath in, close your eyes, and exhale. Draw out the exhale as long as you can. This is a tranquilizing breath; it should calm you. If you're calm, you're able to think rationally. Focus all your effort into paying attention to and ONLY to your internal environment. Focus on your breathing, on your heart rate. Become aware of every single sensation. If you focus enough on this, you'll block out everything else.
  • 12/9/2008 9:37:00 AM
Praying for her, honey.
  • 12/9/2008 6:42:00 AM
what does it stand for?
  • 12/9/2008 2:58:00 AM
Take a self-defense course. Teach him a lesson he'll never forget.
  • 12/9/2008 4:03:00 AM
"I think, therefore I am."

If you think you're beautiful, you will be.

If you just can't shake the feeling that you're not (which is untrue), then look to the world and say, "Up YOURS. I am BEAUTIFUL." Keep telling yourself that and it will come true.

Write your own story. Stop comparing your looks with other people's.

Start doing things for your own benefit. Get a new haircut--something edgy that you wouldn't have tried before. Try a new style of makeup--you'd be surprised at how much little tricks enhance the beauty that's inside. Don't however, under any circumstances, start to think you NEED makeup to be pretty.
Go to the gym. Feel the blood pumping through your veins, feel the flush on your cheeks, and marvel at the power of your own body. The human body is the perfect unity of form and function. Put yours to the test physically. When you succeed, you'll have a better appreciation for it than you've ever had.
Drink more water. It'll improve your complexion and just make you feel better.
Change your eating habits. There are wonderful foods to be had that do amazing things for your health.

Challenge your mind with new subjects. They don't even have to be school related. Become informed on a subject most people aren't, like a particular president, a rare disease, African American literature (no, you don't have to be African American), the mating habits of bees, whatever. The more unique, the better. There's a certain satisfaction in knowing that you know something someone else doesn't, and it'll increase your self-esteem.

Be spontaneous.

Basically, what all these suggestions are getting at is this: Set your own expectations of personal beauty. When you learn to focus on them, the expectations of others will fall away and lose their power. And THAT, my friend, is what makes people take notice.

The sun is shining. Step into it, and you'll forget what it was even like to live in the shadows.


  • 12/9/2008 3:22:00 AM
Dear Boy,

Honey, I hear you. Everyone says wait 'til you're older, it'll happen, just give it time... and generally, they're right. But you and I both know that that does nothing to ease the loneliness in times as turbulent as adolescence. I'm an 18 year old girl and I know the feeling. I've dated, but I haven't found the Mr. Right yet. I know it's hard, but you've gotta keep your chin up.

-MS
  • 12/9/2008 5:33:00 AM
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