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Nobody deserves that kind of abuse in their life. You will move on with time. You don't need someone like this holding you down and making your life intolerable.
Your friends and family know what is best for you. They love you, so you need to trust their judgement.
You're right to consider focusing on yourself.. time to make it a reality. You need independence, love, security, and a good standard of living, if you weren't getting this from your husband then it really is time to move on.
It's going to be hard, but I know you're a strong person. Have faith in yourself!
Good luck, sweetheart! :]
It is unlikely for two virgins to pass STD's however, if either of you have had gential contact with another person, you can indeed pick something up from it and spread it.
AID's and HIV can be passed through birth/needles so if either you or your partner has the virus, this can be passed with no pervious sexual intercourse.
No, you do not have to say you're having sex. But why don't you? It is confidental, and this person wants to look after your health, that is there job, and they cannot do that correctly if you are not completely telling the truth.
They must check every few months about birth control, it's routine, to see that is suiting you correctly.
Once you become sexually active, smear tests will begin. It's unlikely they will occur before you tell your gyno you're having sex. They are a little scary at first, but essential for your health. Don't be scared about them.
Good luck and take care. :]